She was Done.

Via Adrienne Pieroth
on Apr 28, 2015
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She was done not fully being herself.

She realized she was the only self she could be—and not being unapologetically true to herself was a disservice to her soul and the world.

She was done listening to the noise of the world. She realized the quiet voice of her own soul was the most beautiful sound.

She was done questioning her motives, her intentions, the call of her soul. She realized questions seek answers, and maybe she already knew the answers.

She was done striving, forcing, pushing through and staying on the hard path. She realized toughing things out might be a sign to pick another path.

She was done with friends that admonished her to be more light and breezy. She realized they didn’t understand she swam in the deep waters of life, she felt at home in their dark depths and died if she lived on the surface.

She was done with the distractions, the denials, the small addictions that pulled her away from the true desires of her soul. She realized that strength of character came from focus and commitment.

She was done not following the desires that yelled out in her soul every day. She realized if she did nothing about them, they died a quiet death that took a piece of her soul with them.

She was done with dinner parties and cocktail hours where conversations skimmed the surface of life. She realized the beverages created distortion and a temporary happiness that wasn’t real and disappeared in the light of the day.

She was done trying to please everyone. She realized it could never be done.

She was done questioning herself. She realized her heart knew the truth and she needed to follow it.

She was done analyzing all the options, weighing the pros and cons and trying to figure everything out before leaping. She realized that taking a leap implied not fully seeing where she landed.

She was done battling with herself, trying to change who she knew herself to be. She realized the world made it hard enough to fully be herself, so why add to the challenge.

She was done worrying, as if worry was the price she had to pay to make it all turn out okay. She realized worry didn’t need to be part of the process.

She was done apologizing and playing small to make others feel comfortable and fit in. She realized fitting in was overrated and shining her light made others brave enough to do the same.

She was done with the should’s, ought to’s and have to’s of the world. She realized the only must’s in her life came from things that beat so strong in her soul, she couldn’t not do them.

She was done with remorse and could have’s. She realized hindsight never applies because circumstances always look different in the rearview mirror and you experience life looking through the front window.

She was done with friendships based on shared history and past experiences. She realized if friends couldn’t grow together, or were no longer following the same path, it was okay to let them go.

She was done trying to fit in—be part of the popular crowd. She realized the price she had to pay to be included was too high and betrayed her soul.

She was done not trusting. She realized she had placed her trust in people that were untrustworthy—so she would start with the person she could trust the most—herself.

She was done being tired. She realized it came from spending her time doing things that didn’t bring her joy or feed her soul.

She was done trying to figure it all out, know the answers, plan everything and see all the possibilities before she began. She realized life was unfolding and that the detours and unexpected moments were some of the best parts.

She was done needing to be understood by anyone but herself. She realized she was the only person she would spend her whole with and understanding herself was more important than being understood by others.

She was done looking for love. She realized loving and accepting herself was the best kind of love and the seed from which all other love started.

She was done fighting, trying to change or not her accepting her body. She realized the body she came into the world with was the only one she had—there were no exchanges or returns—so love and acceptance was the only way.

She was done being tuned in, connected and up-to-date all the time. She realized the news and noise of the world was always there—a cacophony that never slowed or fell quiet and that listening to the silence of her soul was a better station to tune into.

She was done beating herself up and being so hard on herself as if either of these things led to changes or made her feel better. She realized kindness and compassion towards herself and others accomplished more.

She was done comparing and looking at other people’s lives as a mirror for her own. She realized holding her own mirror cast her in the best, most beautiful light.

She was done being quiet, unemotional and holding her tongue. She realized her voice and her emotions could be traced back to her deepest desires and longings. if she only followed their thread.

She was done having to be right. She realized everyone’s truth was relative and personal to themselves, so the only right that was required was the one that felt true for her.

She was done not feeling at home in the world. She realized she might never feel at home in the world, but that feeling at home in her soul was enough.

She was done being drained by others—by people who didn’t want to take the time for their own process and saw shortcuts though hers. She realized she could share her experience, but everyone needed to do the work themselves.

She was done thinking she had so much to learn. She realized she already knew so much, if she only listened.

She was done trying to change others or make them see things. She realized she could only lead by example and whether they saw or followed was up to them.

She was done with the inner critic. She realized its voice was not her own.

She was done racing and being discontent with where she was. She realized the present moment held all it needed to get her to the next moment. It wasn’t out there—it was right here.

She was done seeing hurt as something to be avoided, foreseen or somehow her fault. She realized hurt shaped her as much as joy and she needed both to learn and grow.

She was done judging. She realized judging assumed the presence of right and wrong—and that there was a difference between using information to inform and making someone else wrong.

She was done jumping to conclusions. She realized she only needed to ask.

She was done with regrets. She realized if she had known better she would have done better.

She was done being angry. She realized anger was just a flashlight that showed her what she was most scared of and once it illuminated what she needed to see, she no longer needed to hold on to it.

She was done being sad. She realized sorrow arose when she betrayed her own soul and made choices that weren’t true to herself.

She was done playing small. She realized if others couldn’t handle her light, it was because they were afraid of their own.

She was done with the facades and the pretending. She realized masks were suffocating and claustrophobic.

She was done with others’ criticism and complaints. She realized they told her nothing about herself—only informed her of their perspective.

She was done yelling above the noise of the world. She realized living out loud could be done quietly.

She was done needing permission, validation or the authority. She realized she was her her own authority.

She was done being something she was not. She realized the purpose of life was to be truly, happily who she was born to be…and if she paused long enough to remember, she recognized herself.





Carpe Diem:

How I took the Leap and Found my Freedom.


Bonus: What to do after you’ve let go:


Author: Adrienne Pieroth

Editor: Travis May

Photo: Flickr/Michael Goghlan


About Adrienne Pieroth

Adrienne Pieroth is a meditation teacher, single mother of two teenage boys, conscious co-parent, writer, mindful technologist and lover of all things human, mindful and heartfelt. Before leaving the world of high tech to raise her sons, she was a network engineer and systems designer. She still loves technology and works to raise people’s consciousness around their digital presence and the use of technology in their lives. She teaches meditation in group and private settings, and especially loves teaching mindfulness classes in Corporate America. She lives between Santa Fe, New Mexico and Los Angeles, California and can usually be found hiking in the mountains or walking on the beach. You can find more thoughts and teaching information at her website.


124 Responses to “She was Done.”

  1. sue says:

    congrats! At 44, I packed my life onto pallets and bought a one way ticket half way around the world to Spain with my two dogs. I never looked back. I'm now living in another country, have a good career that I never would have had had I not left and my dogs are doing fine. I'm not saying there weren't tough times, but I'm a completely different person as a result. I have no regrets.

  2. Ying Ho says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your insightful wisdom! May all beings be benifited from your sharings!
    Manny blessings!
    Metta _()_

  3. Belinda says:


  4. Patsy Mitchell says:

    Loved it…every single word. Thank you.

  5. Helen says:

    Are you living inside my head? If i was as eloquent, i might have writren that word for word. Fantastic.

  6. Harjit says:

    Took my breath away. I felt as if I was reading my very own inner thoughts. So well written out. Thank you from the deepest part of my soul.

  7. Juju a says:

    Me too. Isn't that a wonderful feeling???
    I am FREE❤️

  8. angie says:

    I have been here for a while now. Exactly where Iam. Tired of everyone around me bringing me down to there level. The past few years I feel like I have gone backwards in life. Its time to start thinking of yourself. That's what people are telling me. And I think they are right. My kids are grown now and I think I need to find myself again. Not sure how to do that.

  9. Ashley says:

    this is so beautifully written and soul touching. I can’t tell you how much I identify with each statement and how perfect it is to read and listen to. You touch so many hearts and they all have the choice to recondition their intentions after reading this. Thank you for giving them, and myself, that opportunity. I will read this time and time again when I need to be reminded of who I am, and that it’s perfect to be exactly that. Saying “thank you” nearly scratches the surface.

  10. Ashley says:

    this is so beautifully written and soul touching. I can't tell you how much I identify with each statement and how perfect it is to read and listen to. You touch so many hearts and they all have the choice to recondition their intentions after reading this. Thank you for giving them, and myself, that opportunity. I will read this time and time again when I need to be reminded of who I am, and that it's perfect to be exactly that. Saying "thank you" nearly scratches the surface.

  11. cecarow says:

    Thank you for this.

  12. Holly says:

    I was sharing some thoughts and pondering with a close friend when he stopped me mid-sentence. He said, "Oh my God! She Was Done. You're telling me everything in this piece I recently read." He sent me to this page and I cried. I wasn't yet able to put it into words. Thank you for helping me to get to that place with the gift of your words! I have shared this with so many other dear friends, all who were stopped in their tracks as well. A collective deep breath. Namaste

  13. Jill says:

    Without getting into all the details of WHY, this piece speaks to me – profoundly and deeply. Thank you so much for writing it. I started to read the comments but realized they mean nothing to me and what I personally received from this article – which, I think, is precisely your point 🙂

  14. Tiff says:

    WHAT!? First time?! Thank you for taking the leap and please don't you ever, ever stop. You have a gift and a superpower. I am a better person for reading this. Best wishes and deepest gratitude to you. 🙂 Keep on leapin'!

  15. Dani says:

    Thank you. I'm 26 and needed this.

  16. Garima says:

    Thanks for sharing this… it brought me a lot of peace ! I am truly inspired!

  17. danicalifornia74 says:

    Wow, can't believe I've come across this now…what a great timing…I hadn't been fully aware of it, but it is exactly how I am feeling at the moment, it hits the nail on the head! Thanks you for this wonderful piece! May it inspire many women!

  18. Lori says:

    For the New Year, I’m now using all caps on both DONE and DONE!

  19. Micah says:

    Wonderful! Resonates beautifully with me…

  20. Robin says:

    My mother is passing and I had been searching for days for something poignant to read at the service. I had taken a break from finding the right piece that would honor her when I came across this incredible writing. It's so poetic and Mom could have written this about herself. The beauty of your words have touched me and I want to share with my family. I will be going back to the hospital shortly and will read this to my mother. Although we will not see her smile, I know she can hear and her spirit will be touched. Much gratitude.

  21. Tergali says:

    Thank you for remind us that the end of many things that use to be important is only the beginning of a new life no matter if we are 20, 40 60 at some point we realize life is full of colors moments and opportunities waiting for us to enjoy and share

  22. Bijou says:

    Totally wonderful! Thank you.

  23. Monique says:

    I have been feeling “done” for the last year now. I know my life is moving slowly in a new direction and I am ready. Thank You for putting my feelings into words.

  24. Laura Guthrie says:

    Beautiful! Thank you ❤️