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She was done not fully being herself.

She realized she was the only self she could be—and not being unapologetically true to herself was a disservice to her soul and the world.

She was done listening to the noise of the world. She realized the quiet voice of her own soul was the most beautiful sound.

She was done questioning her motives, her intentions, the call of her soul. She realized questions seek answers, and maybe she already knew the answers.

She was done striving, forcing, pushing through and staying on the hard path. She realized toughing things out might be a sign to pick another path.

She was done with friends that admonished her to be more light and breezy. She realized they didn’t understand she swam in the deep waters of life, she felt at home in their dark depths and died if she lived on the surface.

She was done with the distractions, the denials, the small addictions that pulled her away from the true desires of her soul. She realized that strength of character came from focus and commitment.

She was done not following the desires that yelled out in her soul every day. She realized if she did nothing about them, they died a quiet death that took a piece of her soul with them.

She was done with dinner parties and cocktail hours where conversations skimmed the surface of life. She realized the beverages created distortion and a temporary happiness that wasn’t real and disappeared in the light of the day.

She was done trying to please everyone. She realized it could never be done.

She was done questioning herself. She realized her heart knew the truth and she needed to follow it.

She was done analyzing all the options, weighing the pros and cons and trying to figure everything out before leaping. She realized that taking a leap implied not fully seeing where she landed.

She was done battling with herself, trying to change who she knew herself to be. She realized the world made it hard enough to fully be herself, so why add to the challenge.

She was done worrying, as if worry was the price she had to pay to make it all turn out okay. She realized worry didn’t need to be part of the process.

She was done apologizing and playing small to make others feel comfortable and fit in. She realized fitting in was overrated and shining her light made others brave enough to do the same.

She was done with the should’s, ought to’s and have to’s of the world. She realized the only must’s in her life came from things that beat so strong in her soul, she couldn’t not do them.

She was done with remorse and could have’s. She realized hindsight never applies because circumstances always look different in the rearview mirror and you experience life looking through the front window.

She was done with friendships based on shared history and past experiences. She realized if friends couldn’t grow together, or were no longer following the same path, it was okay to let them go.

She was done trying to fit in—be part of the popular crowd. She realized the price she had to pay to be included was too high and betrayed her soul.

She was done not trusting. She realized she had placed her trust in people that were untrustworthy—so she would start with the person she could trust the most—herself.

She was done being tired. She realized it came from spending her time doing things that didn’t bring her joy or feed her soul.

She was done trying to figure it all out, know the answers, plan everything and see all the possibilities before she began. She realized life was unfolding and that the detours and unexpected moments were some of the best parts.

She was done needing to be understood by anyone but herself. She realized she was the only person she would spend her whole with and understanding herself was more important than being understood by others.

She was done looking for love. She realized loving and accepting herself was the best kind of love and the seed from which all other love started.

She was done fighting, trying to change or not her accepting her body. She realized the body she came into the world with was the only one she had—there were no exchanges or returns—so love and acceptance was the only way.

She was done being tuned in, connected and up-to-date all the time. She realized the news and noise of the world was always there—a cacophony that never slowed or fell quiet and that listening to the silence of her soul was a better station to tune into.

She was done beating herself up and being so hard on herself as if either of these things led to changes or made her feel better. She realized kindness and compassion towards herself and others accomplished more.

She was done comparing and looking at other people’s lives as a mirror for her own. She realized holding her own mirror cast her in the best, most beautiful light.

She was done being quiet, unemotional and holding her tongue. She realized her voice and her emotions could be traced back to her deepest desires and longings. if she only followed their thread.

She was done having to be right. She realized everyone’s truth was relative and personal to themselves, so the only right that was required was the one that felt true for her.

She was done not feeling at home in the world. She realized she might never feel at home in the world, but that feeling at home in her soul was enough.

She was done being drained by others—by people who didn’t want to take the time for their own process and saw shortcuts though hers. She realized she could share her experience, but everyone needed to do the work themselves.

She was done thinking she had so much to learn. She realized she already knew so much, if she only listened.

She was done trying to change others or make them see things. She realized she could only lead by example and whether they saw or followed was up to them.

She was done with the inner critic. She realized its voice was not her own.

She was done racing and being discontent with where she was. She realized the present moment held all it needed to get her to the next moment. It wasn’t out there—it was right here.

She was done seeing hurt as something to be avoided, foreseen or somehow her fault. She realized hurt shaped her as much as joy and she needed both to learn and grow.

She was done judging. She realized judging assumed the presence of right and wrong—and that there was a difference between using information to inform and making someone else wrong.

She was done jumping to conclusions. She realized she only needed to ask.

She was done with regrets. She realized if she had known better she would have done better.

She was done being angry. She realized anger was just a flashlight that showed her what she was most scared of and once it illuminated what she needed to see, she no longer needed to hold on to it.

She was done being sad. She realized sorrow arose when she betrayed her own soul and made choices that weren’t true to herself.

She was done playing small. She realized if others couldn’t handle her light, it was because they were afraid of their own.

She was done with the facades and the pretending. She realized masks were suffocating and claustrophobic.

She was done with others’ criticism and complaints. She realized they told her nothing about herself—only informed her of their perspective.

She was done yelling above the noise of the world. She realized living out loud could be done quietly.

She was done needing permission, validation or the authority. She realized she was her her own authority.

She was done being something she was not. She realized the purpose of life was to be truly, happily who she was born to be…and if she paused long enough to remember, she recognized herself.





Carpe Diem:

How I took the Leap and Found my Freedom.


Bonus: What to do after you’ve let go:


Author: Adrienne Pieroth

Editor: Travis May

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Adrienne Pieroth

Adrienne Pieroth is a meditation teacher, single mother of two teenage boys, conscious co-parent, writer, mindful technologist and lover of all things human, mindful and heartfelt. Before leaving the world of high tech to raise her sons, she was a network engineer and systems designer. She still loves technology and works to raise people’s consciousness around their digital presence and the use of technology in their lives. She teaches meditation in group and private settings, and especially loves teaching mindfulness classes in Corporate America. She lives between Santa Fe, New Mexico and Los Angeles, California and can usually be found hiking in the mountains or walking on the beach. You can find more thoughts and teaching information at her website.

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kmills626 Dec 26, 2018 9:28am

Such a beautiful and true article. Something I’ve needed to read and reread for a very long time. Thank you!

Bill Wareham Nov 30, 2018 6:55am

This could be titled “He was Done” and be just as true.

anonymous Apr 11, 2016 1:06pm

Beautiful! Thank you ❤️

anonymous Apr 10, 2016 11:24pm

I have been feeling “done” for the last year now. I know my life is moving slowly in a new direction and I am ready. Thank You for putting my feelings into words.

anonymous Apr 3, 2016 5:22pm

Totally wonderful! Thank you.

anonymous Feb 8, 2016 4:48am

Thank you for remind us that the end of many things that use to be important is only the beginning of a new life no matter if we are 20, 40 60 at some point we realize life is full of colors moments and opportunities waiting for us to enjoy and share

anonymous Jan 29, 2016 12:52pm

My mother is passing and I had been searching for days for something poignant to read at the service. I had taken a break from finding the right piece that would honor her when I came across this incredible writing. It's so poetic and Mom could have written this about herself. The beauty of your words have touched me and I want to share with my family. I will be going back to the hospital shortly and will read this to my mother. Although we will not see her smile, I know she can hear and her spirit will be touched. Much gratitude.

anonymous Jan 18, 2016 1:42am

Wonderful! Resonates beautifully with me…

anonymous Dec 23, 2015 3:43pm

Wow, can't believe I've come across this now…what a great timing…I hadn't been fully aware of it, but it is exactly how I am feeling at the moment, it hits the nail on the head! Thanks you for this wonderful piece! May it inspire many women!

anonymous Nov 30, 2015 10:46am

Thanks for sharing this… it brought me a lot of peace ! I am truly inspired!

anonymous Nov 30, 2015 4:23am

Thank you. I'm 26 and needed this.

anonymous Nov 29, 2015 12:03pm

Without getting into all the details of WHY, this piece speaks to me – profoundly and deeply. Thank you so much for writing it. I started to read the comments but realized they mean nothing to me and what I personally received from this article – which, I think, is precisely your point 🙂

anonymous Aug 10, 2015 12:15pm

I was sharing some thoughts and pondering with a close friend when he stopped me mid-sentence. He said, "Oh my God! She Was Done. You're telling me everything in this piece I recently read." He sent me to this page and I cried. I wasn't yet able to put it into words. Thank you for helping me to get to that place with the gift of your words! I have shared this with so many other dear friends, all who were stopped in their tracks as well. A collective deep breath. Namaste

anonymous Aug 3, 2015 2:25am

Thank you for this.

anonymous Jul 6, 2015 6:22am

this is so beautifully written and soul touching. I can't tell you how much I identify with each statement and how perfect it is to read and listen to. You touch so many hearts and they all have the choice to recondition their intentions after reading this. Thank you for giving them, and myself, that opportunity. I will read this time and time again when I need to be reminded of who I am, and that it's perfect to be exactly that. Saying "thank you" nearly scratches the surface.

anonymous Jul 6, 2015 5:55am

this is so beautifully written and soul touching. I can’t tell you how much I identify with each statement and how perfect it is to read and listen to. You touch so many hearts and they all have the choice to recondition their intentions after reading this. Thank you for giving them, and myself, that opportunity. I will read this time and time again when I need to be reminded of who I am, and that it’s perfect to be exactly that. Saying “thank you” nearly scratches the surface.

anonymous Jul 5, 2015 2:15pm

I have been here for a while now. Exactly where Iam. Tired of everyone around me bringing me down to there level. The past few years I feel like I have gone backwards in life. Its time to start thinking of yourself. That's what people are telling me. And I think they are right. My kids are grown now and I think I need to find myself again. Not sure how to do that.

anonymous Jul 1, 2015 11:26pm

Took my breath away. I felt as if I was reading my very own inner thoughts. So well written out. Thank you from the deepest part of my soul.

anonymous Jul 1, 2015 4:40pm

Are you living inside my head? If i was as eloquent, i might have writren that word for word. Fantastic.

anonymous Jun 24, 2015 11:11pm

Loved it…every single word. Thank you.

anonymous Jun 23, 2015 5:04pm


anonymous Jun 23, 2015 1:25pm

Thank you so much for sharing your insightful wisdom! May all beings be benifited from your sharings!
Manny blessings!
Metta _()_

anonymous Jun 17, 2015 10:18am

Wow. Every day I say "I am done" in reference to the way my life seems out of my control. Maybe it's time to do something about it!

anonymous Jun 15, 2015 9:46am

This could not have come at a better time. This is exactly how I feel. I literally said the other day I am just done. Although the high road is a lonely place it is what is in my heart. I can’t be responsible for how people feel of how they react or respond to me, I can only be responsible for me. Love this so so much!!

anonymous Jun 11, 2015 4:09am

This is awesome – I have printed and pasted into my journal(the old fashioned way) to read daily. I hope i can use parts of it in the workshops that I run for teens girls – they need to know this stuff early – beautiful and so very wise – thanks you for sharing x

anonymous Jun 10, 2015 6:19pm

Absolutely beautiful!! Brings my life back into perspective to where I want to be. Thank you! Amazing words to forever hold on to, to reflect back on when needed.

anonymous Jun 8, 2015 11:07am

Profound. True. Life-changing. I know well the feeling of being “done.” Thank you!

anonymous Jun 7, 2015 11:24pm

This article is so spot on and very well said! This is exactly what I’ve been slowly doing in my life and it feels great 🙂 thank you!

anonymous Jun 6, 2015 2:25pm

I think after all the explanation and introspectionism that the Lord would wisely and lovingly say to us we must die to self
We are to make it about our Lord Jesus Christ and only then will we be safely on the path to follow Him Blessings to all. PS. I was very moved by thee initial “I am done… And also with everyone’s comments

anonymous Jun 6, 2015 7:18am

Funny, how things happen in your life. I too am done and mostly for the same reasons. Because I have reached that point in my life, I have also put in for retirement. Eight nine days and I am truly free to be. Life is too short to have to live by someone else's standards and ideas. You can't please anyone anymore, so be true to yourself. You are the one that truly matters. Here's to living in the light.

anonymous Jun 6, 2015 5:47am

Would you read this differently if the photo at the top were different?

anonymous Jun 6, 2015 1:39am

Wow. Perfect for me right now. I'm also forwarding this to some friends who I know are done. I'm sure they'll appreciate this as much as I did!!! Thank you!!

anonymous Jun 5, 2015 8:02am

amazing… touching and something everyone should read:) thank you

anonymous May 28, 2015 10:18pm

This touched my soul so very deep it brought a tear to my eyes. Beautiful. I am so done. x

anonymous May 27, 2015 7:48am

Eloquent and soul touching! Every woman should read and take this to heart.

anonymous May 26, 2015 9:23am

This changed my life! Thank you so much for your inspiring words! As a mother of 4 , I haven’t focused on myself enough, and your words have woken me up to that. Now I’m ready to change! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

anonymous May 25, 2015 11:24am


anonymous May 21, 2015 6:03pm

The part about this that gets confusing for most people (in my experience) is simply the perspective. From my perspective, after purging in much the same way that is explained above, I have found that everything in life comes exactly when it does, when it should, and for good reason. I’ve also kept track of a few times in life where I tried when I ‘thought’ it was right to do so, but felt otherwise, and ended up facing hardship almost instantly. Nowadays I just get up and don’t have plans. The day takes me where I need to go, for pain or pleasure etc., and I follow, using the skills I have learned. I know in my very being that I am here to become something which this world cannot truly understand and may never get the chance to witness, and, in the most paradoxical way possible, everyone else is here for the same reason. Most people don’t realize this, though, and that is the trick. So many people waste their lives attempting to gain materials when growing their spirit into something respectable is the true way towards material gain and physical happiness. We also view death as the end, or that there is just one way to salvation when the truth is simply inside us and every path is valid. So, what’s your favorite dream? Could that possibly be real? fun question: How can we think things which we have never seen? Last question: How, in this universe, which is full of so many different configurations of matter, yet decidedly limited due to our functional perspective, can one mind, in it’s apparent limitedness, understand at least the feeling of infinity and/or eternity. To never end, and never to have began, and only to have been. The precedent for such a being is the -[NOW]-

anonymous May 21, 2015 10:48am

This totally hit home for me. I have been practicing exactly what you have written about and wanted to say thank you for sharing this with the world. Sometimes we aren't able to capture what we have learned and don't realize how far we've come until we see how someone else has so beautiful packaged their thoughts. It just resonates so well. It was so beautifully written. I would like to print it out as an inspiring way to write and to live! Thanks so much!

anonymous May 21, 2015 6:49am

So perfect.

anonymous May 20, 2015 9:08am

This is so where I am! Feeling free to be me! The ME THAT GOD intended! No internal rejections of my thoughts, perceptions or instincts and tuitions. Fully trusting that God made me as I am, for His reasons! My soul will lead me, to wherever I need to be!

anonymous May 20, 2015 1:33am

First of all I want to say that I really appreciated some of your points about being true to your own unique self. However, I do not understand how you can encourage the thought of being "done" with so many thoughts and feelings that in some cases actually help with the growth of your best self and relationships in life. Quoting your post "She was done questioning her motives, her intentions, the call of her soul…
…She realized they didn’t understand she swam in the deep waters of life, she felt at home in their dark depths and died if she lived on the surface." These are from two separate paragraphs, but are contradictions. How do you "swim in the deep waters of life" if you are "done questioning motives and intentions"? Quite frankly I feel like your whole message is a contradiction. How do you expect to gain rich family and friend relationships with you are constantly and singularity only concerned about what makes you happy? Sometimes life is about compromise and self cristism to discover what you need to develop and work on. You are doing a disservice to anyone who reads this and thinks this is the thought process to happiness.

    anonymous May 21, 2015 1:28am

    Dear Tiffany, you have expressed you point very well.
    I guess it is exactly about claiming this "outrageous" freedom expressed in all these contradictions. "Swimming in deep waters" at one point, AND allowing to stop questioning motives and intentions (that have usually been analysed to death by a person of deep waters anyway…) – all that is ok. That's in it for me. Thank you.

    anonymous Jun 15, 2015 4:50pm

    This piece is not about happiness it's about being true to yourself, and being true to yourself is a long, slow, deep process…one I have been faithfully working on for years. It's especially hard when the world tries to tell you what your truth is, and in today's social media and technology world that constantly sends your mixed signals, it's even harder. I do swim in the deep waters of consciously trying to look at my choices and seeing if they come from my soul or the ego/world. Being done with the questioning my motives, intentions, etc. speaks to listening to my head rather than my heart, of not picking the shallow questioning, over the deeper knowing I already worked hard to find. Being done also doesn't mean that you don't gain rich family and friend relationships…in fact, quiet the contrary. When you are done and clear your life of the surface things, from the relationships that take more than they give, from friendships that don't feed either of your souls, etc. the ones you are left with are much stronger and deeper. My sole focus is not simply on happiness nor do I claim to offer the thought process for happiness. A life well lived has it's moments of happiness and joy, but it also has depth, connections, service and, yes, sometimes sacrifice and sorrow. I don't run from any of those things. In fact they add to my appreciation of the joyful moments, when they do arrive. I live my life in service in so many ways…but it is service from my true self…not the obligated, don't have a choice, or filled with resentment service…which often happens when your choices aren't made consciously. These are my choices that I am done with, that weren't choices of truth and awareness for me.

anonymous May 19, 2015 9:08pm

She was finally in her 40's. Single mom….. 🙂 I resonated so much with this.

anonymous May 19, 2015 8:22pm

Brilliant! This went right to the middle of my soul. Thank you so much for sharing these eloquent and profound words and thoughts Adrienne

anonymous May 19, 2015 7:57pm

Oh my God … this is BRILLIANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You speak the words that so many of us need to read, to remind us … We are done.

Thank you.
Robyn M Speed

anonymous May 19, 2015 7:44pm

Amazing, beautiful and soul touching!
Blessings ~

anonymous May 19, 2015 3:58pm

Wow. This was incredibly powerful. Worth printing out and putting up somewhere to be seen frequently. When I read this, I felt like “Did you write this for me?” And it seems to me that so many people felt the same way, that this was written specifically for them and that it described their situation perfectly. Thank you for those powerful words.

anonymous May 19, 2015 11:37am

Just what I needed to hear. Thank you.

anonymous May 19, 2015 11:11am

A lot of the messages in “She Was Done” have been repeated before but I’ve never heard them articulated so strongly and poignantly before; every word was healing and inspiring.

Thank you for sharing!

anonymous May 19, 2015 9:04am

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. So beautiful.

anonymous May 18, 2015 11:01pm

Every word of this hit me at my core. Love it.

anonymous May 18, 2015 10:37pm

Yes. That's all I can shout from the deepest recess of my soul. Yes! Thank you.,

anonymous May 18, 2015 8:18pm

Beautifully said. Thank you. Namaste.

anonymous May 18, 2015 7:37pm

Thank you for showing us what a beautiful soul you have. I will keep your words forever as a reminder, that the gift of life, is the journey to knowing our true selves. God bless

anonymous May 18, 2015 8:47am

Every word meant my soul. Was as if U poured my heart out. GOD BLESS U .

anonymous May 14, 2015 4:16am

Amazing. So so very true. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and reminding me that I'm ok and don't have to feel forever guilty.

anonymous May 13, 2015 4:55am

Beautiful and inspiring words. Makes my heart ache and alive because you captured exactly how I feel.

anonymous May 10, 2015 10:44pm

Simply breathtaking and every line was a personification of my life today. I'm living it…you went into my brain and made me see why I am exhausted. Every single line was from my soul with your words. You have changed my life with your words. I am indebted to you for showing me my complexities so simply, yet powerfully. I read it everyday when I wake up.

anonymous May 9, 2015 2:09pm

These seem like such wonderful words on the surface but doesn’t it seem to be encouraging too much of self and too little of sacrifice and service to others? I.E. “She was done staying on the hard path.” Isn’t strength of character established and maintained on the hard path, the choices to see things through even when it’s difficult and even when the entire world says to walk away from doing the right thing?

anonymous May 5, 2015 1:46am

aaaahhhh….some big sighs, teary eyes, and a deep peace. thank you

anonymous May 4, 2015 9:44pm

Wow, its like you read the words of the soul. No more trying and just surrender into living . I have been on this curiosity journey for a year and just finally realizing what this all means for me. Thank you for writing this. Its like the energies are all searching at once and its right in front of us. Its we just have to move aside and get out of our own way. Thank you …lots of love❤

anonymous May 3, 2015 2:45pm

Wonderful…needed this encouragement…venturing the path of “I am done” is such a liberating journey. Trudging along…anticipating…goodness.

anonymous May 3, 2015 2:05pm

Thank you for writing this enlightening article. I too am tired of feeling fear about anything. I am courageous but your beautiful words encourage me to release even more of this self defeating mindset. As with everything , all is well exactly as it is. So grateful to my sister April for forwarding this to me. In peace, loulou xo

anonymous May 3, 2015 9:16am

Outstanding. Every word related to me n the clarity n lightness I feel is pure healing. You should make this a book a life bible n help more people. Thank you n many blessings to you. Shar x

anonymous May 2, 2015 11:26pm

David sanders, I think the end of your comment is what I feel every day. And this reading was beautiful. I have felt so lost in who am I or who was i, and that this isn’t me, for far to long. It’s just knowing where to begin

anonymous May 2, 2015 8:46pm

ALEX: Thank you for sharing this very insightful, sensitive bit of wisdom. xxxxxxxLois

anonymous May 2, 2015 7:15pm

This was wonderful to read. No matter if the term “she” is used to describe the person. This is my mind in every word. We are all alike and we battle the same battle in life. Some shield it and never let go and some, as myself, stretch the boundaries of wanting to change the mind so I can free myself of the constant struggle to feel wanted, feel heard, feel appreciated, feel free, feel love and to feel as I am whole.

anonymous May 2, 2015 9:55am

Wow. Incredible. Huge.
I am done.

Thank you <3

anonymous May 2, 2015 8:10am

You expressed many of the things that I have done and many of the things that I have yet to do but lacked courage. This is great food for thought!

anonymous May 2, 2015 6:18am

Wow, Adrienne. Simple and profound. I have reached that point – DONE – several times in my life – in my career first, then my marriage, then my health. It seems there is always a new level of DONE! to reach. As I write this, I am preparing to move back home from a difficult and draining stint as an expat in Sao Paulo – because I am DONE. And, as you so wisely said, sometimes we’re not done until we’re DONE. Eleven years ago I became a personal coach, and now I help others with their leaps when they are DONE too.

anonymous May 1, 2015 11:33am

Wow, what an awful first sentence. All the negatives have my head spinning: not, un-, dis- all in the second clause…

anonymous May 1, 2015 11:27am

Every so often something shows up in your life at the exact, specific moment, and it renews your faith. Sometimes it is a sand dollar. Or a metallic gold stapler (random). Or the best raw oysters or an unexpected phone call. And it really moves you. That is what your words did for me and I wanted you to know that. Truly mattered. I hope to see more!

anonymous May 1, 2015 8:01am

What a brilliant piece of writing!!! One of my clients sent me your article, wanting me to make sure I had read it. Her comment to me was "It is a beautiful reminder of everything you’ve taught me… what every woman and woman to be should be reminded of AND well… evoked a good ole boo hoo (cry) so it resonated with me on many levels." As I read the article I was so grateful and thankful that you put into words what I have been practising for the last twenty years!! Thank you so, so much for writing this and for sharing it with the world. Big hugs to you!

    anonymous May 1, 2015 9:48am

    Helen, thank you for your beautiful words and hugs. Thank you too for practicing these truths all these years, and helping your client get to that place too. Every person you help, heals the world…which we always need more.

    Blessings and Gratitude,

anonymous May 1, 2015 1:37am

i think I copied about 7 of your paragraphs in this article to have on handed as a mantra… Why are we not able to let go? Why is it so hard? Everything you said makes perfect sense, but why does it go out the window when the feelings arise? I have gone through the meditation and yoga certification and yet I am still not able to let go of these certain things that have been weighing on me for over 10 years

    anonymous May 1, 2015 9:43am

    Because I don't think we are done until we're done, Sarah. There have been so many times in my life I thought I was done, and I really wasn't fully there yet. There's still items on that list that are a constant movement forward and then back for me. I wrote that list over the course of a few months to serve as a reminder of how far I've come, and what I'm still working on. I also found that forgiving myself for all the times I wasn't done…and I let the world or someone else tell me who I should be…helped me let some of them go. I can't go back and change things, only move forward. Be kind to yourself…we're all doing the very best we can. Namaste.

anonymous May 1, 2015 12:51am

To every single kind and wonderful person who took the time to read my words, and post a comment. I am humbled and so grateful to know I'm not the only one feeling these things. This is the first time I've publicly shared my writing, and your words have made a scary, vulnerable moment become another part of my journey to fully being myself. Thank you!!!

With deep gratitude,

    anonymous May 19, 2015 10:52am

    Beautiful words indeed Adrienne. Felt them to my core. I lost my wife recently and my world has ben turned upside down. Your words having given me a renewed spirit.

    anonymous Nov 29, 2015 2:02pm

    WHAT!? First time?! Thank you for taking the leap and please don't you ever, ever stop. You have a gift and a superpower. I am a better person for reading this. Best wishes and deepest gratitude to you. 🙂 Keep on leapin'!

anonymous May 1, 2015 12:46am

Blessings, Gigi.

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 9:34pm

Perfect. Thank you. Your words, my heart.

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 9:02pm

Wow, wow, wow!!! I needed to read this today. Thank you

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 8:46pm

Adrienne, thank you for sharing such a beautiful list of truth for the soul! Every single word was one my heart needed tonight. I'm going to save this and pray through each one. I've been doing a lot of breath praying and meditation and these nuggets are perfect to reflect upon and soak in, one or two at a time. Thank you for making the time to write these treasures here for the rest of us.

– another Adrienne

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:46am

    Adrienne, thank you! What a beautiful idea to pick one or two at a time and reflect on them. Thank you for the idea. 🙂 I am honored and grateful for your supportive words. Blessings to you.

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 8:18pm

Just got back from doing something I didn't want to do with people I didn't want to be with…and read this. Wow! Thank you so much. This is what I needed to read and this is how I need to live the rest of my life. I'm going to print this out and read it often.

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:43am

    Bravo for you, Ellen. Learning to say "no" is a process, but I'm learning my no's to things I really don't want to do, leave lots more space for my big "yeses!"

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 3:33pm

Adrienne, Adrienne, Adrienne! Thank you for putting in to words the EXACT way I have been feeling, thinking and being for quite a while now. I will read this every day to remind me I’m ok & I’m not alone in my journey. Blessings!

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:41am

    Thank you, Audrey. I still read it out to remind myself too. You are definitely not alone…we just sometimes forget that. Blessings to you too.

    anonymous Jun 9, 2015 8:27am

    Thank you. I've been feeling this way too.this a so perfect.timing for me to come across & read

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 8:49am

This is so great! thank you!

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 7:58am

Touched me deeply! Thank you!

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 7:34am

Amazing Adrienne, brought a tear to my eye as I recognise every word. Thank you. Really. x

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:39am

    Thank you, Debs. There were tears of joy and sorrow, when I was writing it too.

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 7:29am

One of my sayings is ‘Done and DONE’!

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:37am

    You know when you hit that final done in all caps, that you're really done.

      anonymous Dec 31, 2015 11:38am

      For the New Year, I’m now using all caps on both DONE and DONE!

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 7:00am

Yes, yes, yes!! Thank you for this. Whether we are at the beginning, middle or end of this journey, your essay points us all in a better direction. Namaste

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:37am

    Thank you, Cindy. It's a beautiful process, this journey we're all on.

anonymous Apr 30, 2015 1:34am

Thank you Adrienne for putting your words together so perfectly and sharing them. They resonate deep within my soul.



anonymous Apr 30, 2015 12:50am

Now that I am done, I can begin.

anonymous Apr 29, 2015 11:50pm

Thank you!!! [chills]

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:35am

    Chills are always good. Thank you, Amelia.

anonymous Apr 29, 2015 10:34pm

Thank you so much for this! I am so glad I ran across this and the timing couldn't have been better. This has truly touched me. Amazingly beautiful. Once again, thank you.

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:34am

    Thank you. i am so glad it came your way at the right time, Maritza.

anonymous Apr 29, 2015 4:59pm

Beautifully written. Thank you

anonymous Apr 29, 2015 3:19pm

EXACTLY what I most needed to read in this moment. I’m DONE too!! As in perfectly fine right where/how/who I AM. thanks for the timely reminder!!

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:33am

    Yay, Cheryl! Always love that quote about being yourself, because everyone else is taken.

anonymous Apr 29, 2015 3:10pm

Wow, I have been here, forgotten and I am now back … thank you for expressing it so from the heart !!!

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:32am

    Donna – it's a process, there and back myself sometimes. Always need the reminders. Thank you.

anonymous Apr 29, 2015 2:36pm

Incredible. Reading this took my breath away. I'm also experiencing so many of these realisations right now in my life. 'She was done with resentments – she realised if she knew better she would have done better" This one stuck out because I feel like I have now, after 25 years, realised that this is what I have finally released. I am so done!! I'm about to sell my house and all my belongings and possessions and take off to live in Thailand (with my dog) to teach English – I am scared but " I am so done being scared". I'm going to risk it all cos I'm done with regrets. Thank you for writing this. Good job 'done' x

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:30am

    Sharon – It's never too late…congratulations to you on your courage and blessings to you on your exciting new journey to Thailand.

    anonymous Jun 17, 2015 5:26pm

    congrats! At 44, I packed my life onto pallets and bought a one way ticket half way around the world to Spain with my two dogs. I never looked back. I'm now living in another country, have a good career that I never would have had had I not left and my dogs are doing fine. I'm not saying there weren't tough times, but I'm a completely different person as a result. I have no regrets.

anonymous Apr 29, 2015 9:41am

Wow! This is exactly where I am in my life!

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:28am

    We are all more alike than we are different.

    anonymous Jul 2, 2015 10:12am

    Me too. Isn't that a wonderful feeling???
    I am FREE❤️

anonymous Apr 28, 2015 10:35pm

Thank you! I loved every word!!

    anonymous May 1, 2015 12:28am

    Thank you for reading every word. 🙂

      anonymous May 2, 2015 4:28pm

      As if you took the words from my heart and brain…Im so there right now. It all applys. Thank you…Just wishing I could figure out the path to get to the otherside.

Maureen Mcgachan Nov 12, 2018 12:19pm

Really enjoyed reading this.

Sharna Anne Nov 9, 2018 11:58pm

Singing to my soul. Thank you <3

Divya Gautam Nov 3, 2018 8:18pm

Dose of enlightenment I needed at this moment ,,thanks for sharing it with the world .

Naomi Leonard Feb 10, 2018 7:21am

She was done with this long ass article half way through ;)

Dawn Cannon Jan 27, 2018 3:10pm

Absolutely loved! I felt like these were my own thoughts and words. Thank you for sharing!

Pauline Apilado Dec 31, 2017 6:33pm

Dearest Adrienne: Thank you, thank you, thank YOU. Eternally. <3 (THIS is right up there with all other Elephant Journal's Best!)

Melina Powers Dec 27, 2017 7:15pm

"She was done being sad. She realized sorrow arose when she betrayed her own soul and made choices that weren’t true to herself." <3

Anne Savage Aug 5, 2017 6:52pm

Thank you for sharing,so brilliant, I see myself as, she who is done with so many of these things! I need to have a copy of these amazing words,so I can read on a regular basis,and remind myself its ok to just be me! Great and wise words!

Elizabeth Beard Holderbaum Aug 2, 2017 1:23pm

But where do I start?? �

Sandra Flomenbaum Aug 2, 2017 11:09am

great article!

Anne Obade May 19, 2017 2:09pm


Aru Shi May 13, 2017 10:13am

I felt it was all written for me...

Marie Magdalena Wolf May 8, 2017 3:42am

In love with this.

Shivanya Chandra May 5, 2017 7:10am

Resonates with my inner voice..�� truly at that place in y life.

Nainsee Bhagat Apr 29, 2017 9:39am

Very nice ..,� .. every one should read this amazing article

Fabiola Mora Apr 28, 2017 6:17pm


Candy Viegut Apr 8, 2017 1:09pm

Thank you. It's all I can say right now. My heart is full. Thank you!

Leah Stroup Apr 8, 2017 12:36pm

This was the most beautiful pieces I have read in years. Thank you so much for this.

Nicole Sears Apr 8, 2017 1:00am


Kirstin Holzschuh Mar 16, 2017 3:48am

Thank you, Adrienne! This has popped up on my FB feed so many times in the last year and a half. Every time, I read it. Every time, I send you a high five and whisper "yes!" Right there with you - what an eloquent pen you have. :)

Raylene Cottrill Smith Mar 4, 2017 4:23pm

Brought me to tears, and then self reflection. Guys can get clarity from reading this also! Please take a couple mins. to read this. I loved it!!!

Pamela Pepper Feb 10, 2017 2:56am

Wow simply spectacular

Marie Herbert Feb 10, 2017 2:11am

I saw myself and now see myself as being true to myself. To be true to yourself is to recognise all the experiences and hurt and pain and feel the wisdom through the age. To rise above judgement and critisim of another and say I am ok regardless of your opinion - you know you have landed

Belinda Deakin Feb 9, 2017 1:41pm

Thank you for sharing

Laura K Hafferty Feb 8, 2017 5:51pm

i need to read this every day. this is profound and a beautiful gift. �