Loving & Understanding an Empath.

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Empaths are unique personality types, their sensory levels are always on high alert, they are incredibly intuitive and their awareness and sensitivity to the energy levels that vibrate around them are extremely high.

If an empath senses something, they are not often wrong. If they think someone’s lying or that something is just “not right” you can bet your last dollar that they are not wrong.

Therefore, a basic understanding of this mystical and quite magical creature is highly beneficial.

Empaths have quite a few little quirks, traits and characteristics that are worth knowing about, and gaining a better understanding of, so that any relationship that is formed has a strong survival chance and also so that it thrives.

Empaths can be deeply misunderstood. It can take a little time to get to know them before they fully unravel and until their true magnificent spirit receives the opportunity to shine.

Love with an empath will be intense as they are energetically sensitive, therefore they will pick up on everything and anything that is happening around them. Regardless of whether emotions have been outwardly expressed, empaths will experience their partner’s emotions as deeply as they feel their own.

It is impossible to try to hide true feelings when romantically involved with an empath as they will likely have figured them out long before the person feeling them has. Empaths are highly intuitive yet sometimes fail to trust their inner voice as too many people have previously tried to wrongly convince them that their gut feelings were wrong.

Being a little naïve and trusting at times, the empath has doubted themselves and pushed aside their intuition, causing them to lose faith in the power they hold within that alerts them to any perceived signs of danger. That being said, the little nagging voice in the empath’s head will not subside until the reality and truth has been fully uncovered.

Empaths like truth. However hard the truth is to handle, they would rather be told things straight than told a lie, even if it is a white one. Although the truth isn’t always pretty, it is much nicer than spending days and nights trying to make sense of all the complicated energies and subliminal messaging systems that are going on.

If there’s one thing that empaths are amazing at it is dealing with a brutally raw and honest relationship. Although they can be rather delicate creatures on some levels, their strength in relationships is found where honesty, trust and loyalty come before anything else.

Empaths can be perceived as having hearts that are caged in. Although, this is only true when they have been deceived so many times they feel that their only option is protection. The true spirit of an empath wants to give and receive love in abundance, though they are only able to do this when they feel safe and secure that they are in a safe place to open the door and allow the love to flow.

One of the most tragic parts about the empath’s character is that all too often the love is cast out in all the wrong places. Empaths feel the pain and sorrow of the whole world and feel that they want to heal and fix the world up and make things better for all concerned. This can be an amazingly powerful thing and this energy is exactly what the world needs. However, this can also be a deeply painful way to exist.

Not everyone sees the world the way an empath views it and because of this, an empath’s heart will be broken constantly and they will bleed endlessly for cruelty, injustice and inequalities. There will be many who will want to take the love, affection and the empath’s good nature with no care for giving any return.

Whilst this can teach an empath a lot about unconditional love and also an immense amount about self-preservation, it is also a deeply painful learning process.

An empath will fail to understand why others do not give out care, consideration and affection freely and why other people can so easily turn a blind eye to heartbreak and suffering when healing is what is required. Others may ridicule and belittle the empaths desire to reach out and make a difference, and this serves to add salt to their wounds.

When an empath feels hurt, what they need most is loving support and understanding so that they know they are not alone in wanting to use some of their powerful energy to heal and make changes in the world; if they receive this from a partner, a bond for life will very likely form.

Empaths will fall into the hands of those who want to take advantage of their somewhat naïve and caring nature. Again, this is another sharp lesson and one that can cause an empath to develop a sense of mistrust and what leads to protecting their emotions with barriers and brick walls.

It can also lead to an empath to feelings of unworthiness and also low-self esteem, as once they have depleted their energy reserves to such a low level by giving and not understanding how to protect themselves in the process, they can end up with a broken heart and with very little faith in mankind.

It is not in an empaths nature to take, they only know how to give, so to ensure the relationship is one of balance and is also harmonious, ensure the empath is shown love in the form of actions, so that the circle of love flows freely. Words will mean little to an empath, unless they are followed through. Their intuition will quickly pick up on something done with poor intent, or if a person’s words are inauthentic.

To love someone who is an empath means to recognise that they thrive when the flames are turned up, not down. An empath gives off a powerful and energetic fuel of love, light and radiance, though the fire only fully rages when an empath exists in a sacred place within which they feel secure enough to glow.

Empaths are soft, delicate and immensely vulnerable creatures on the inside, although, once burnt, on the outside they can appear incredibly strong. Once bitten, twice shy where an empath is concerned, they find it very difficult to forget deep wounds and to continue a relationship once foundations are rocked.

The best way to fully connect with an empath is by creating a safe and solid platform to build a future upon. If cracks appear through mistrust and deceit, it can become immensely difficult to repair them. Empaths thrive on trust, loyalty and dependability. Show them these things and the relationship will be very difficult to break.

As empaths are highly passionate people, they will often find a strong connection to a hobby or interest that others will find impossible to penetrate. Due to their creative side, they may find a resonance with music, dance, writing, art, activism, reading, Yoga, meditation, humanitarian causes or other similar interests. Whatever it is that has captured the mind of an empath will be become sacred in their hearts.

Empaths will immerse themselves in their hobbies and lose themselves completely and sometimes this can feel as though their interests are the only things that matter to them. Although they will have a deep attachment to their passions, it is far easier to understand that an empath loves all things at great levels of intensity and they need outside interests to survive and feel alive, this can sometimes be difficult for others to understand.

Space, plenty of space, and freedom to explore and submerge in their chosen activity is the easiest way to deal with this. Asking an empath to choose may not give the desired outcome that would be hoped for. The heart quickly gets connected to passionate interests, and once that connection has been made, the heart will be break if it has to be severed.

Respect and understanding for another’s alone time can make or break a relationship with an empath. An empath will not want or expect anyone else to dive as deeply into their interests as they do, however, an understanding that their interests are significantly important can really make life a whole lot easier.

There is no need to feel ostracized or unwelcome, while there’s a little chance an empath will let you fully in to their special interest, it is far more likely they will gain more pleasure when they are wrapped up in it by themselves. This is not selfish or inconsiderate, it is just simply how the empath’s heart and spirit operate.

If they have a connection to something, it is intense and they will very likely wish to delve as deeply into it as is possible. Passions are a great energy release and empaths will possibly feel as though they zone-out while immersed, and they will very likely lose all track of time. Allow them to take pleasure in it, and with the free time this has created, take up interests separately rather than allowing resentment or frustration to build.

It possibly won’t last for too long, as empaths are known to move quickly from one interest to another once the initial burning desire of connection eventually simmers down.

As empaths are sensitive to energy, their worst-case scenarios are confrontations and aggressive situations. Although under normal circumstances they are one of the least violent and aggressive characters, they can very easily lose their self-control if they become absorbed in the negative and toxic energy that surrounds them. Empaths are fight or flight characters who more often than not, will prefer to take flight and remove themselves from the weight that the energy is bearing down on them.

If situations like this occur regularly, it can eventually lead empaths to become introverted and homebodies as they prefer the safety of their own environment where they are not subjected to the rise and fall of other people’s energies. After attending any kind of social situation, they will need downtime to recharge and to balance out their own energy fields.

Places such as supermarkets, nightclubs, the cinema or anywhere where there is a large crowd of people, will be very draining for an empath. They are very sensitive to light and sound, so these things can also have a detrimental and draining effect on an empath’s psyche. An empath will likely need to hold on to their partner’s hand or arm during such occasions, finding that their partner’s energy forms a soothing welcome block and temporary release from the energies that surround.

After attending any social function an empath may feel completely drained and the effects can be temporarily debilitating, meaning that all an empath will want to do is sleep or rest, possibly alone, until the absorbing effects of the occasion have worn off.

All in all, it will take a very secure, confident and balanced person to form a solid mutually beneficial and rewarding relationship with an empath. The empath personality type is a unique and extremely enchanting gift to the world. As long as their wings are not clipped, and they have the freedom and space to fly, it has the opportunity to be a deeply rewarding, incredibly loving and spiritually awakening relationship for both involved.

A connection with an empath can be a blessing and one of the greatest gifts from the universe as it offers the opportunity to look at the world through the lens of a kaleidoscope. Everything that may have once seemed normal for a relationship will be turned upside down as a new understanding and perspective is learned and the unconscious mind is preened open.

At times it may feel like being in the company of a magically gifted being who has special powers that we have been led to believe do not exist within humans. This can be both a blessing and a curse. Nothing will get past an empath as they see, feel and connect with everything at all times.

The one thing I would strongly recommend is to peel back all the layers that society labels as “norms,” “standards” and “expectations.” We are then free to discover a brand new way of existing; giving and receiving unconditional love, being fully alive in the moment, connecting deep within the core of our primal being and reigniting all the superpowers that are inherent within man.

A relationship with an empath can lead to uncovering special gifts such as intuition, energy awareness, deep connection and a brand new level of understanding the fellow man without the need for speech. All the things the modern world has tried, for far too long, to convince us we should deny.

True love can be a very difficult thing for an empath to achieve, although with the right person, with someone understanding, grounded, free spirited and trustworthy, love can be an intimate, deeply bonding, healing, fulfilling, empowering and healthy addiction that neither will want to break.



Relephant more to the above amazing article:

A Survival Guide For Highly Sensitive People, Introverts & Empaths.


Author: Alexsandra Myles

Editor: Travis May

Photo credits: Ira Meyer Photography (Used with permission), Becca & Matt



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Alex Myles

Alex Myles is a qualified yoga and Tibetan meditation teacher, Reiki Master, spiritual coach and also the author of An Empath, a newly published book that explains various aspects of existing as a highly sensitive person. The book focuses on managing emotions, energy and relationships, particularly the toxic ones that many empaths are drawn into. Her greatest loves are books, poetry, writing and philosophy. She is a curious, inquisitive, deep thinking, intensely feeling, otherworldly intuitive being who lives for signs, synchronicities and serendipities. Inspired and influenced by Carl Jung, Nikola Tesla, Anaïs Nin and Paulo Coelho, she has a deep yearning to discover many of the answers that seem to have been hidden or forgotten in today’s world. Alex’s bestselling book, An Empath, is on sale now for only $1.99! Connect with her on Facebook and join Alex’s Facebook group for empaths and highly sensitive people.

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Missjustinew Feb 7, 2019 7:00am

I cannot believe how accurate this article is. It is so in depth and time and time over I read statements or deep thoughts and emotional feelings that I have had. I am so glad to have come across your article. Thank you for connecting on this level and explaining in words together to make me feel as though we are one and I’m not the only one who feels this way. Accurate description, appreciate your words. Thanks.

anonymous Feb 1, 2016 1:49pm

It’s good to finally put some validity to my feelings. I am feeling blessed to have been given these traits. I’m still hopeful (I’m 60) in finding that strong person who can walk by my side and know “how to handle” me. We empaths need someone who is willing to hold on loosely.

anonymous Dec 22, 2015 1:03pm

Thank you so much for this article, am in my late 40's and feel its time to embrace this gift, Oh I knew from when I was very young of this highly sensitive feeling along with the third eye always going crazy, was always trying to bury it away with drinking alcohol. It has been almost 10 years since drinking, and now with healthy eating and herbal teas, am feeling more comfortable with the gift, but am still very sensitive to light and sound, much time is spent outdoors in nature with the pets. awesome post!

anonymous Nov 16, 2015 6:47am

I am an empath who was born to a parent I believe has asperger's syndrome and ended up with a partner who had it as well. The number of empaths who end up with aspies is quite high actually, because they need someone to help them access and understand their emotions and we need to help people do that.

Growing up was traumatic and really messed me up, but being with my partner has helped me over time, to slowly learn to find validation in myself instead of seeking others to give it to me.

If you are an empath and in a relationship with someone who seems cold emotionally and a little odd or 'off' but you can't think why, research AS.

anonymous Oct 30, 2015 11:08am

This passage is really neat and insightful. I truly feel I am an emptah. I really needed to read this today. It gave me a new view. I dont have to blame myself for being myself. I am me and I have to be happy as me. Thank you to the person who first posted this. Also thank you to the person I know who posted this. Although I am sure you mean your the empath but your a gypsy

anonymous Oct 28, 2015 5:13pm

‘She always knew she a had a sensitive open hearteness to her as she felt so deeply the pains of the world. Rather than hide away her pain and fear she chose to open herself to them and fall in love with the world again. The world immediately fell in love with her.’ This insight gave me hope at the start of the year when energetically things seemed very intense. We may be sensitive but in our sensitivity we find our super power! Thank you for this beautiful article celebrating our way of being and seeing. Much love for all the empaths <3

anonymous Oct 28, 2015 3:44am

A blessing or a curse – definitely!
It may seem like a wonderful thing – until the world BURNS YOU down, cuts your wings, leaves you with a broken heart numerous times and makes you lose all faith in mankind whatsoever… I still do not understand how people can be insensitive and completely oblivious to other people's situations, feelings, concerns, ideas, etc…

I am 30 years old and this world has managed to crush me and my spirit completely… Still haven't figured out how to protect myself…

    anonymous Mar 30, 2016 7:30pm

    There are online support groups for empaths. Don’t give up.

anonymous Sep 19, 2015 1:33pm

I’ve been wondering and searching to find out what’s wrong with me for 38 years. A few days ago someone pointed out that I am an empath. I felt she was right, did some looking, and found out that I meet every single trait. I feel free now, unburdened, and even more hopeful. Now I can stop being a hermit, learn how to protect myself, and live my life happily again. It feels amazing to finally know why I’m different, AND to know I’m not alone. Thank you so very much for publishing this, and helping so many people out there. Blessings and love…

anonymous Aug 14, 2015 8:25pm

Hit the nail on the head

anonymous Aug 4, 2015 9:56pm

I’ve known I was an empath for only a short time. I never understood why my moods could change so suddenly just by being around different people. At times I’ve acted happy drunk when I’m around a lot of really happy people and I haven’t had any alcohol. Or the worst is when I’m around upset people, especially the toxic always angry people. It drains me! I started searching for answers after I had my first panic attack. It came out of no where. The feelings I had for weeks after were horrible and wouldn’t stop. Once i realized what was going on with me I saw everything so different. Every encounter changed. I also became so much more aware of my surroundings. Turns out that my co-worker who sits next to me and only a little cubicle style wall separates us was causing it. She is a very angry toxic person and I believe I was taking that all in. I’m still working on not confusing someone’s emotions as my own. Long story short we all got switched around for the time being and I have been feeling so much better. Still have hiccups at work but learning how to manage others emotions has made such a difference in my life. I also do get drained after being in public places. Usually if my husband and I go someplace with a lot of people I’m shot the next day. He does not understand this at all.

anonymous Aug 3, 2015 9:25pm

This is the first time in my life I’ve ever read something that described me perfectly to a Tee . I am also deeply grateful for the clearest and best advice to the partner of an Empath to gain a deep, loving, everlasting relationship. I truly Thank you for writing this article . Much Love !

anonymous Jul 29, 2015 7:51am

Brilliant article!! I honestly thought I was mentally ill for the last 20 or so years.

I couldn’t understand why I felt things so deeply, how I just knew people were lying to me or hiding things, how I had visions or thoughts of things in my head that would then come true months down the line.

How I can read people like open books without knowing why.

I am not crazy, that is the greatest affirmation for me…After all this time, I am not crazy, I’m an empath.

Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart…

anonymous Jul 28, 2015 1:38pm

Brilliant article!! I honestly thought I was mentally ill for the last 20 or so years.

I couldn’t understand why I felt things so deeply, how I just knew people were lying to me or hiding things, how I had visions or thoughts of things in my head that would then come true months down the line.

How I can read people like open books without knowing why.

I am not crazy, that is the greatest affirmation for me…After all this time, I am not crazy, I’m an empath.

Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart…

anonymous Jul 18, 2015 9:39pm

I love this article. I was just recently confirmed by my reiki master that I am an empath. I always thought I was one but it never felt right to put that label on myself. I was taught from a young age that my emotions were to be managed and that whatever I was feeling was not valid. I had a lot of them. Raised in a very conflicting home and every day was a battle with anxiety and a fight to “manage my emotions”. At 23 I went to therapy with an eating disorder. It was terrifying to feel so out of control. To want to turn off all of the emotions because I was drowning in them. I turned inward and was put on medication with the possibility that I had bipolar. That is scary. I went to reiki and she told me it was an energetically emotional thing that I was struggling with and not necessarily something I could not work on. It has been a whirlwind of awakening for me. I am 26 now and will be taking reiki I in the next month. I am ready to utilize this gift for good to help myself and others. Being an empath is incredibly exhausting but I can see it in another light now. I can see that even though it puts so much strain on me it still allows me to make connections from the deepest emotional foundations and for that I am grateful. Stay strong fellow empaths. Lets work on creating our energy bubbles and using what we have for something beautiful!

anonymous Jul 6, 2015 9:51am

This has got to be the BEST Empath "Read" yet!!! I often find myself, having to find the words to match up with my existence, but you hit on almost every note imaginable. Now, I can forward this to my husband! lol

anonymous Jul 4, 2015 8:50am

OMG, I am an Empath. I knew there were others out there like me, but I did not know there was a name for us. This article is so right on target.

anonymous Jul 3, 2015 6:42pm

Wow, This is amazing. Everyone thinks I am crazy. Thank you for this info. I too am very intuitive and sensitive to others and the world. It is a relief to know there are others like me. The joy I feel is overwhelming. My motto was that no one cared about me only what I did for them. I know this is a gift from God and I pray everyday to help me handle it. My family shunned. I have always known I was different and that no one understood me. Now I just need to know how to handle it. A support group would be great.

anonymous Jun 28, 2015 7:35pm

“It can also lead to an empath to feelings of unworthiness and also low-self esteem, as once they have depleted their energy reserves to such a low level by giving and not understanding how to protect themselves in the process, they can end up with a broken heart and with very little faith in mankind.”
This describes me at this exact moment. I have been rocked beyond my ability to recover, I have lost all trust in people, and even though I have tried, I end up having major anxiety attacks and depression. I gave everything, did what everyone wanted and needed, and now I am the one alone. I dont think there is any recovery from this.

anonymous Jun 27, 2015 10:08pm

Great article, thanks for sharing. Is there a way to “block” absorbing people’s energy? I noticed that my legs absorb the most energy from others, followed by my neck/shoulders/arms. I have found a “healer” that releases these negative energy blocks from my chakras every 2 weeks. Would love to know if you have found any ways to restrict or filter/block the emotions of others? Thanks.

anonymous Jun 26, 2015 5:03pm

I am a shy extroverted empath. I don't separate myself from others – I bring them along with me on my pursuits (sometimes kicking and screaming). If anything, I overshare. But my ability to experience other people's feelings is definitely intense, and much to my consternation, my hunches are frequently borne out.
The extrovert part, of course, means that I get my energy from others, rather than being alone. The shy part comes in when I walk into a party and know nobody in the room. I will stand and wait for someone else to speak to me first. Then I can relax. I only need to know one person for my extrovert to appear. The empath part comes about mostly in my close friendships. It has cost me a few – people who did NOT want their feelings read and known.

anonymous Jun 26, 2015 7:47am

Brilliant article. I have discovered this recently through spiritual development.
Now i can understand more about myself & my past and my future and comes to term with both.

anonymous Jun 18, 2015 3:42am

I’m unbelievably sensitive and uber empathetic. Its to the point that I put myself into someone’s else’s place and feel things from their point of view, I don’t think I do this intentionally. I catch myself watching the news on television, when something happens to somebody, say an accident, kidnapping or anything tragic, then, I sometimes out of the blue feel like I’m projected into the persons head, just long enough to feel what they felt before their tragedy. I don’t see images, I just have the feeling. Sometimes I cry because the sadness and the overwhelming feeling of helplessness I always have. Am I the only one? I also can just glimpse into a persons eyes and feel like I know what they’re feeling. Ive known these feelings I’ve had for years and figured it was normal. It wasn’t until the past ten years that I realized my feelings, intuitions and the way I interpret things were more honed and sensitive than everyone else. I remember as a little girl, I was always called emotional and sensitive.

anonymous Jun 10, 2015 11:57am

Reading this article brought tears to my eyes, as I can relate to this so very much. Many years ago, after years of feeling like I didn’t belong, I stumbled on Elaine Aron’s articles and read her book about being a Highly Sensitive Person. I immediately felt relief and understood that someone finally got ME! Since then, I’ve become more acutely aware of these innate traits in me and am learning to cope with them, but this article is spot on and puts so much into perspective. I could go on and on, but I just wanted to say what a wonderfully, well-written article you’ve provided, Alex and I look forward to reading more. Thank you!

    anonymous Aug 9, 2015 11:05am

    Like Karen, I too just fell into tears, a relief of sorts. Finally, somebody knows what I am and it makes sense, now my life growing up is not so weird and troublesome to myself. I have been a Empath, healer and multi Intuitive being all my life. I’ve never had anybody around me like myself and it was hard, so hard for me! People and family think I’m going crazy, truthfully, and it hurts so bad. Nothing would make sense in my life and I knew that there was something else to me at an early age. People think I’m lazy, odd, angery, that I talk nonsense, “how could he know what he talks about”, it hurt me very badly even to this day! Even now when I use this article to better explain me, people still can’t perceive or fathom with their closed minds something they never could to begin with, so now I feel people saying more that I’m losing it for sure. My family hear me say,”I hear your thoughts and your lies right to my face”, yet they still can’t fathom my abilities and mock them. I haven’t even told my family all of the abilities I possess, I can put myself in someone else’s body and feel their struggles on earth, even if they have passed on. I went into a slave woman’s body from somewhere around 1700’s to 1800’s for around 40 minutes and bawled from her fear and sadness, it was so sad! I was physically abused by a stepdad just back from Viet Nam, olives in constant fear with no protection from my mom, broke almost all bones on my body playing sports at a high level, plagued with sickness all my adult life, Gout, 150+ kidney stones and two kidney surgeries and on and on still! My point is, because of my constant illnesses I was visited by two lesser demons every night for approx. 5 to 6 months at 325 to 345am. They wanted to take advantage of my weak body, while I was on bed rest for 2 years, they scared me more then words can describe, even to this day and everyday, but I learned from going inside the lady who was a slave that as scared as I was, it was nothing compared to what slaves had to live a lifetime with, those poor people! I needed some outside help to fend off these nasty dimension hoppers as I call them, but I mustered the nerve to go at them, I am proud to say!!! Thank you for telling me about me through this brilliant article, it’s a blessing for me.

anonymous Jun 8, 2015 6:55am

Thanks for the time, and energy taken to write this. Well said, and thought provoking.

anonymous Jun 6, 2015 12:06pm

I'm not an empath myself – I am very sensitive and introverted, just not to the degrees mentioned in the article. However, I have a good friend who is an empath. I forwarded this article to her – and she agreed that she matches many, many of the empathic traits. She cares more than others,she feels more than others, and unfortunately, she gets burned by people she thought she knew and trusted, more than others. As she put it, when she read this, she had found herself.

Alex, you cover loving the empath. From the other perspective, what type of person is best suited to be that lover? You cover it in passing in the article. Can you give a more in-depth profile of the type of person best suited for the empath's type of living – looking at life with an empath from the other person's point of view? Thank you.

anonymous Jun 5, 2015 11:16am

Thank you. Profusely. Hello fellow empathy! It's good to not feel alone. I sincerely love you all and am grateful to know we're sharing this universe together. You are all in my thoughts. Good energy to you, my true tribe.

anonymous Jun 5, 2015 11:12am

I’m an empath. Just found out. I’m 67 years old, a very long time to go feeling “weaker” because of my sensitivities. I’ve been in the public eye (because my looks and love of people put me there since about age 4). It’s been a stressful time with not understanding how others could be so tough and I just never could “develop” that nature completely. My ups are deep and joyful…but the heart wrenching stuff is also felt more deeply. Once I was trying to make an appointment with the doctor & the background chaos actually felt like little daggers on my skin so I decided to wait until another time. Turns out at that time there was someone I knew waiting in the office & there was, in fact, friction between people at that time. Since finding a name for this condition (just thus year after being diagnosed with breast cancer) I’ve taken a whole new perspective that’s such a weight off my shoulders, my spirit (who I’d disrespected all this time) and my entire health system. 1. Trust ALL my intuition. Ignore nothing. 2. I have a gift and this is good, not needing change in anyway. 3. Be on the lookout for like minded people…they are somewhere out there. 4. It’s fine to be alone, no judgements 5. Flee from gossip (like my mother used to say, “If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all.” 6. No need to share everything with everyone. 7. Face the right direction. When I get a “sense ” that something is wrong no need to conquer every little thing. One small thing a day is okay but never ignore a bigger “hit” in intuition. These each zap energy from me. The personal energy has to be a priority since it’s given away often without remembering it HAS to go to our own replenishment first. That’s my opinion. I’m enrolled in a Reiki class for this …

anonymous Jun 3, 2015 8:15am

While this a very long article, it is potentially the most insightful and accurate exploration of my nature that I have ever connected with. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

anonymous Jun 1, 2015 1:09pm

Thanks for an interesting article. I think there are perhaps three different ideas coming together here: Elaine Aron’s “highly sensitive person”, Susan Cain’s introverts, and empaths.

People who identified strongly with the description here may find Susan Cain’s book “Quiet” to be helpful/insightful. My personal response to the “highly sensitive person” theory is not as positive because the effect I’ve seen on it on other people in my life is that they’ve found encouragement to become more timid/passive and to adopt a victim stance, rather than viewing themselves as people with a special skill/ability. But it may also be helpful to people trying to find/understand themselves.

anonymous May 30, 2015 9:03pm

Oh my gosh, I have been misunderstood my whole life and labeled “too sensitive”. I grew up thinking I was strange, an outcast, and something wrong with me. I struggle with feelings of inadequency daily. I feel as if people just don’t like me and I can never figure out why. I have come to the conclusion that people really don’t understand me and don’t want to take the time to know me. First impressions and snap judgements leave me very alone and ignored. Being able to learn that I am an empath has answered so many questions that I have had for 57 years now. When I go out to town I get so angry. I get angry with people driving aggressively and breaking the law. I get angry in the stores with pushy people and come home angry as a hornet. Then I hate myself for being so angry. I finally realized that I am soaking up all the negative energy being put out by all the other people. When I recognize this I can stop and reclaim my calm, compassionate nature. So, thank you for giving me more understanding of myself. I am lucky to have a husband of 34 years that has always been my rock, stayed by my side, and supported me through all my moods. The emotional roller coaster ride of my emotions has been rough through this life, but I am thankful I have information to help me understand my place on this earth. Knowing that my kind are needed in this world and that we have much to contribute once we understand our gift and unique abilities, brings joy back to my heart.

anonymous May 30, 2015 8:44am

Only a few times in my 63 years have I felt so understood, explained, affirmed. Thank you for the Enlightenment. jedusgodgoodetcnjay.blogspot.com

anonymous May 29, 2015 4:21pm

Thank you. Perhaps there are many articles documenting the trials of an Empath however, I have not come across many that resonate such as this. Keep writing Alex..there are so many of us dealing with these feelings; ours and those around us. The world we live in can be overwhelming and we all have to learn how to process what we feel. That is the true victory. Relationships?? Not going to happen until we learn to deal with the onslaught of emotional pain. It would be easy if all we had to deal with was our own. Unfortunately, we feel everything and therein lies the problem. What is yours and what is mine? If we can figure that out I think we'll be just fine.

anonymous May 29, 2015 3:40pm

I didn't know… Now I understand myself. Thank you.

anonymous May 28, 2015 11:00pm

Thank you. I always knew I had a great deal of empathy and entered into a long career I n law enforcement to help people. But it drained me and my relationships suffered. I found I was with people that I wanted to help, but had only interest in getting what they could financially from me.. I am now at the point I can’t trust anyone and feel more alone than I ever have. I’m meditating and staying centered. I’m just at anyone lone standstill anyone lines to what to do next. My Jesus complex is overwhelming. I feel if I retreat I’m not doing what I was put on this Planet to do. What a quandary. Your article gave me some clarity, so I thank yup for that.

anonymous May 27, 2015 10:11pm

I’m so blessed a friend shared this on Face Book. Describes us divinely & we should start an empath club not only for support but to bring the tribe together. For so many years walked this life being questioned why do I reach out to people to help if I don’t get anything in return, what’s the point. Or you’re shy, no I just see thru the B.S & don’t want to hurt their feelings. lol Yes, sometimes it was a roller coaster. Dove into feet to head in spiritual journey 3 years ago and never looked back from meditation, yoga, & just doing what my heart feels not even asking why was the best step ever to learning about myself; coping mechanism or just letting loose idk but happier than I’ve ever been relationship or not it will all come at it’s time. 🙂
I feel God has given this gift for a reason not only to teach about unconditional love but to heal pacha mama for the next generations to come. Thank you so much for writing this, love & light my sister. 🙂

anonymous May 27, 2015 12:52pm

I have always known I was an empath, but this explains to me so much about ME and my life. Even my own son does not believe I can feel words in something written. Thank you!

anonymous May 27, 2015 10:57am

Well, I'm an empath and no more than about half of this pertains to me. I don't always mind crowds or being around people. I don't always like participating in my hobbies alone, I don't always need to "recharge" after being around crowds, I don't normally read, I don't normally write, I've NEVER done yoga (and don't plan on starting), I don't always meditate, etc. I live my life like any other person, I'm just simply an empath.

I think this is a fantastic, informative article, but I believe this is also misleading about all empaths. We're not all miserable and super-sensitive to the point we can't deal with everybody and everything around us.

    anonymous May 28, 2015 12:16pm

    Thank you Dan. I'm an empath too and I've found that a lot of information online is less than flattering. I would not want to be in a relationship with this kind of person. Yes, I need time to recharge; yes, I like to be alone; yes, I am very creative. BUT like Chuck above, I can be extroverted–although I am a true introvert. I sometimes like crowds and I sometimes like to be a bum and watch hours of mindless TV. I also like shoot 'em up movies because I know IT'S NOT REAL (I could hardly watch The Passion of the Christ or any other movie where the violent plot has/could actually occur.)

    As every individual on earth is different and unique, the same can be said for each empath. Although we share many of the same traits (like people of the same race — for lack of a better comparison,) each of us has been shaped by our experiences, beliefs, personality, etc. For instance, the heartbreak, pain and injustices I've felt personally and secondary have strengthened me. I am a more compassionate, forgiving, emotionally-open person. I feel the article implies it makes an empath weak.

anonymous May 26, 2015 7:16pm

This article is exactly me and I can see exactly how I have soaked up and taken on board what others say I'm SUPPOSED to be! I am now struggling to release all the build up of others' misunderstanding of me.
Now I know why I have had major outbursts as I've become older – I just could NOT understand why, when I genuinely and spontaneously do "nice" things and embrace the empathetic path (even if it hurt me) – that others still were suspicious or judged me as inauthentic!!! I was (am still a little) so incredibly hard on myself.
The "blindsiding" that occurred all of my life is explained!!!
I think I have played a bit of a victim – and I don't enjoy that.
Now I can see that actually I am beautiful and authentic and that I am actually a ridiculously nice person – the reaction of others is their issue/suspicion and I am fine!!!

anonymous May 25, 2015 11:26am

I resonate with almost all of this. However, I do think that there are more “extroverted” empaths and “introverted” empaths. For me, going to crowds can be a way of being in the swim of a lot of different peoples energies and can actually be a great way to distract or delight through other peoples/beings energies. For those of us who are extroverted empaths, being around a lot of different energies can feel life giving rather than overwhelming. I think the difference between empaths and non empaths regardless of their “introverted/extroverted” tendencies is that there is a need for sorting out self and other after the experience of interactions like these. And often this process looks similar for all types of empaths. But for me, holding onto the arm of someone close to me in the crowd as you describe in the article would just be more stimuli to sort through. Practices such a sheilding and grounding would help me more with overwhelm then adding the energy of a beloved.

anonymous May 25, 2015 7:43am

To sum up so much of your article, it would be easy to just say, “many empaths are “shamans,” or have many of the same characteristics. Many of us deep down are very spiritual, and if something does not affect us spiritually it is of little use or concern. We have visions that are often a “time frame” of something that will happen. Many of us are forced to live literally in two worlds. I had a near death experience and that world was much more real than this one is to me now. The dream world is powerful…and oftentimes scary as we confront our true natures (like the silverback gorilla), and see beyond the beyond (if we have the courage and stamina). Sometimes we are forced to live lives where the absolute strange and unusual is a daily occurrence. I joke about driving with an empath who drives by some strange radar. Logic is our enemy and we make decisions by already knowing. Time for us is not linear, but circular, and it can be easy to see things coming. Many empaths are INFP’s on the Myer-Briggs. We are healers, and this is the blessing and curse — to be able to see what people really need and not be able to give it to them, unless they are really ready. Sometimes they are the “Magic Man” of song fame, and can heal with sensuousness. I once wrote that the only way the moth can avoid the flame is having a brighter light within. Empaths can learn to allow that light in and tap into “the” source. However, it is an extremely lonely way of life. We see all the needless pain, and the “demons” people are afraid to face (actually angels healing us to become unfettered and joyful.) Just having giving us empathy about our unusually strong, often strange, feelings is the best gift we can ever have. Make us feel safe! Don’t try to understand us. That just makes us nervous. Just give us a safe place to “be who we will become” and we will do the rest. And life will never be boring, and you will even be blessed to ride along with them. They see so much more than the rest of the crowd, and often find serendipity.
“I was one within and one without while living in a dream I had no doubt.” I wrote that 50 years ago…and it is more true today than yesterday.
Jim VT

anonymous May 25, 2015 7:05am

Yes! Finally, a tutorial on the subject of ‘Me.’ I’m so glad I’m not alone, though of course I ‘knew’ that already…. now, to learn to split from negative energies instead of allowing them to pervade. That is the current task upon me. I thank you for the affirmations here, dear one.

anonymous May 25, 2015 6:56am

Hello I think you are confused and doing a diservice to true empath. What you are describing for the most part is highly sensitive people or empathic.
While various aspect of your essay are true . You paint an untrained highly confused empath.
You fail to mention that many true empath are aware of their gift/curse depending how you look at it. Some empath shamelessly use their abilities on the non empath. You need a balanced approach when discussing this topic.
True empath are maybe 4% of the population. They are at a disadvantage. This isn’t like LGBT issues. Their (LGBT identities) do not adversely affect people. Empaths do. Empaths have the ability to read people, see lies, and manipulate people based upon their emotions. Right now they are relegated to airy fairy notions so they are ignored. One only has to watch Sci fi shows like star trek to see what could happen when telepathy and empath are exposed to a general population. In one episode of star trek next generation an ambassador concealed his empath abilities and shamelessly exploited non empath. Do you see parralel in our society? The sales person you can’t say no to, the charismatic politician…etc. You believe that the empath is just suffering. .what would happen if they harnessed their abilities.
Another episode I highly recommend you watch. Star trek voyager empath are rounded up and destroyed by a fearful species. Remember a fully aware society can be destructive.

    anonymous Jun 30, 2015 8:44pm

    what youre describing isnt an empath, its more along the longs of a sociopath or psychopath. Im not a psychology expert so I wont claim that i know for certain, but the selfish manipulation of others like that is something a sociopath would do. by the very nature of an empath you wouldnt try to harm others. Did you read the whole article and the section about not being able to take from others? Even if you are aware of your gift/curse which I personally am, you wouldnt sit around thinking of how to manipulate people and use it that way, nor do empaths really ever have the power to learn how to control it at will like your describing. I respect your opinion but….. you're using star treck as a reference? really? Thats pretty obtuse in my opinion. One of the biggest parts of being an empath is feeling what other people feel, half the time more than they even do themselves so hurting others and manipulating for personal gain doesnt fit at all, empaths go out of their way to avoid doing things like that. you would have to lack morals/remorse and have similar observational skills… similar but quite different. and when you apply that criteria you end up talking about a sociopath / machiavellian person.

      anonymous Jul 20, 2015 5:25am

      Very True Brad. I have always sensed/known things I can’t explain since I was a child. I just know things and absorb all hidden energies around me, even feeling the emotions of those miles away. I have never and could never bring pain to another. Incapable. I am an INFJ which is 1-2% of population. INFJs are empaths though not all empaths are INFJs. We would make the best CSIs due to our abilities.

anonymous May 25, 2015 12:31am

What about empaths who drink to dilute their sensitivities?

    anonymous Jun 26, 2015 8:05am

    Hi Juliana.
    I can relate to this. I got help to overcome my problem and am totally healed now.
    Its not just drink, empaths can be addictive in nature to do just as you suggested.

anonymous May 24, 2015 4:50pm

Incredible. I don’t think anyone has described me this well and with so much detail. I think the only one thing that I would add to myself personally, is that I tent to forgive (never forget) those that have stabbed me and been intrusive in some ways. I guess I like to give second chances to certain people and I try to see the positive in them. This includes when I have removed myself from someones life, because of their negative-toxic energy. I always hope they have changed in some way, even though deep down inside I know they haven’t. After a second or third chance, I completely dim the light with them and never turn it on again. I have learned and became an expert at turning my switch on and off, even though its painful with some people. Some have labeled me as weird, strange, full of it, even called me a fibber or story teller, not realizing I speak from the heart. Then when they realize I was right, they apologize or want to know how I knew. Thank you, Thank you Alex for this wonderful article.

anonymous May 24, 2015 11:16am

Thank you so very much, Alex, for sharing this. In my mid-40s, I am just now discovering that I am an empath and not just an unlovable freak that is way too sensitive and has a knack for choosing to love people who can’t (or choose not to) return it to me. I cannot express how comforting it was for your piece to help me realize that I am not alone and that it is possible for me to find someone who can understand and love me just the way I am. Much gratitude for reaching out to me and other sensitive souls. Peace and love to you.

anonymous May 24, 2015 8:03am

I find that I have to be very careful about owning things that are second hand as I can feel the energy from previous owners. It's difficult because I'm not always in the financial position to own things that are brand new.
I can even pick up energy on things that people have touched. I was sent a book a few weeks ago. Before I even received the book, I knew it was coming. I picked up a lot of energy from that book.
I don't tell people that I am an Empath…husband doesn't even know…he doesn't believe in these things. There are a small amount of people who have picked up on it though…possibly similar people.
I used to be scared and confused about being an Empath, but not so much now.

anonymous May 24, 2015 4:40am

This is me .I always am very intuitive and sense other people’s pain .and get exhausted when I go out to concerts or big crowds or even out with friends I need down time . Amazing great article ,saving this

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anonymous May 23, 2015 9:06pm

I did not know I was an empath until recently. I see this in my 4yr old granddaughter, how can I possibly help her. She’s much too young to explain protection to.

anonymous May 23, 2015 8:40pm

Wow! Now I understand my friend better! She’s most definitely an empath. You described her to a tee. Thank you so much for enlightening me!

anonymous May 23, 2015 9:25am

"They are very sensitive to light and sound, so these things can also have a detrimental and draining effect on an empath’s psyche. An empath will likely need to hold on to their partner’s hand or arm during such occasions, finding that their partner’s energy forms a soothing welcome block and temporary release from the energies that surround."

And yet, I know that you would agree if I asserted these characteristics of "empaths" are not mutually exclusive, and all humans share these qualities to varying degrees, and not all empaths are incapable of navigating places like grocery stores without their significant other?

It is possible to be sensitive to the tones and moods of people around you without also being hypersensitive to things like gluten, sound, and confrontations. (I know you didn't mention gluten, but I think we can all agree it's implied for the subset you believe you're describing.)

It all just reeks of a hypersensitivity born out of an insulated existence. And what does it mean if someone is not an empath? Are they a dullard? A less sensitive or intuitive person? There are many, many types of intuition, just as there are many types of creativity. I would love to hear from an individual who considers him/herself an empath and has also confronted major hardship, loss, or poverty! Speak up if you're there!

I think what bothers me the most is that your hypersensitive readers will self-identify as "empath" and then use that as an excuse to keep themselves insulated. Maybe I'll be wrong? Thanks for writing it anyway; it has inspired a new perspective for me. 🙂

    anonymous May 23, 2015 8:47pm

    I'm here.What would you like to know?

    anonymous May 24, 2015 5:18pm

    You put a good argument forward Amelie. I have to agree that an innate sensitivity does not make one incapable of existing in the real world. Some may learn to avoid situations that they find challenging, and that seems to be the description in the article. Others may identify their vulnerability and wish to learn to deal effectively in those situations. Others are forced through circumstance to deal with 'overwhelming' sensory or emotional challenges, family disruption, conflict, bankruptcy, poverty, family violence, general modern chaos, busy noisy lifestyles, conflicting personalities in their immediate family. I guess those that learn to deal with their sensitivity without shutting down become the truly remarkable people in our society. Strong and able to connect deeply with loved ones and support others without falling apart themselves.

    anonymous May 26, 2015 3:21am

    Im here as well. This article is for the hyper sensitive individual. I can say I have mostly harnessed my abilities. I have been through trauma in my life. I do not like the victim label. Most true Empaths are not victims but incredibly strong (mentally) people. I do not need to hold any one hand to go grocery shopping. I lived in a city of 30 million for 5 years. The feeling is like a hum of the city. Since it was a Chinese city I found Asian people to be the most in control of their overt emotions.
    In order to deal with life most true Empaths create blocks or shields.
    Relationships are always a problem because of mirroring.
    I'm not sensitive to foods, noises etc. Animals and plants equally have life force so I'm not vegetarian or vegan. I do need to eat.
    I'm a business person I mostly use my abilities to anticipate clients needs. I tried psychology but encountered many emotional vampires…which I suspect are lurking in some of the replies to this article.
    I hope this clarifies some key differences.

    anonymous Jun 19, 2015 4:04am

    I’m an Empath and have suffered major hardship, loss and also poverty.

    anonymous Jun 28, 2015 11:16pm

    I faced a great deal of financial, mental and emotional hardships, panic attacks and was even hospitalized, but eventually made it through as a result of therapy and recovery. I have been diagnosed with so many "issues" it's not even funny, but then they'd just go away after I worked through them. I don't tell this to many people which is why I'll remain a guest here to comment. It was still expected that after all of this I wouldn't be "so sensitive" anymore, and I made things worse for myself by getting into situations I thought would help me "grow thicker skin". Then I was told that I'm an empath and that sensitivity is not because of weakness, it's because of perceptiveness. That has changed my life.

    anonymous Jul 9, 2015 8:51am

    I identify myself as an empath. My therapist identifies me as an empath. I have had plenty of hardship, poverty, and loss in my life. I am far from insulated. My parents fought, every single day. As a child I remember worrying what they were doing to each other. I took on the role of peacekeeper at a very young age. Do I run from conflict? Sure. Sometimes. Mostly though I try to resolve it. Years later I gut a gut feeling that my son (in kindergarten) was being molested by my brother-in-law. I had only a feeling. Therapists and teachers assured me my son had not been violated. Well, at age 27, he found the courage to tell me the horrible truth. All those years, I thought I had misjudged the situation, so I second-guessed all of my intuitive thoughts. I did not insulate myself, rather, self-doubt. I have learned an incredibly valuable lesson from that. I must trust myself, and move forward accordingly. For now, that means rebuilding my family again, with as much honesty as we all can muster.

    anonymous Aug 4, 2015 8:28pm

    MAJOR Hardships ,Trauma, (abuse, of many types) … Then, Physical Issues a plenty 🙂 .. Cancer , Kidney disease …and some more … All root back to my Empathic giftS … I had no idea what I was doing feeling Everything and everyone , except that I knew it was a way + a gift to Protect myself and others … Thinking that this would eventually , give Me some Peace . It didn't , until just in the last few years … When after a severe Concussion , I realized …. I didn't Have a CLUE who I was !! ? (in my 60s) … I have finally Met Myself ! 🙂 … I have needed to spend much time alone , as WE 🙂 have a lot of catching up to do … I also realized, that thru my Empathic abilities I learned to INNERstand 🙂 people and Love them in spite or because of what I saw and felt… (nice) 🙂 …. 'THEY' say ; You can't Love another Till you Love Yourself … I Totally disagree … It was from Learning about ,feeling ,and loving Others … When it was MY turn , to meet Myself … it was Kind-of like. , Love at First 'sight' 🙂 !! I will get back out to The World and My Pals as I feel ready … Labels are not Conclusive ! We're All doing our best , in this Strange World … and we need more Connection Not Division eh ? 🙂 … We Are ALL gifted in Very different ways …. Happy to Be HERE (usually) …. Thinking What a Grand Adventure This Is ….( even if it 'seems' i did it Backwards) ….. 🙂 😉 🙂 🙂 !! ~*~

    anonymous Aug 21, 2015 11:43pm

    Amelie. It is okay if you don't fully understand it. It isn't about intuition although that would be much easier to deal with sometimes. You are correct that empaths can negotiate grocery stores and crowds. The part that you don't seem to grasp is that sometimes it can be overwhelming if there is a lot of negativity in the room. It can be very confusing. Let me try and give you an example. Lets say you are going to a store. When you leave you are having a normal day. Everything seems fine and you are in a good mood. If the crowd is balanced then it is easy to stay balanced BUT if there is a high level of negativity your good mood can shift without warning or reason. You can find yourself extremely angry, borderline violent, and not understand why. Nothing physically has caused it, you don't know these strangers or what their circumstances are. It makes no sense. Conversely if you find yourself in a positive atmosphere you can become almost giddy and excited for no reason. It's not like it is something you can control. Being around sadness can bring you deep into a sad depression again for no logical reason. Here is the true test though. When you leave the environment you balance back out again. You can literally walk in and out of a given environment and take on the traits of that environment, lose them and take them back on again. We are generally taught to be logical beings so for people that don't experience the effects it is logical to try and find a rational explanation. But the effects are not rational and/or logical. All humans have varying degrees of sensitivity and intuition. It's natural, but we are talking about those sensitivities being on steroids for a lack of a better term and they can completely absorb you at any time without warning if the environment is ripe.

    anonymous Sep 15, 2015 11:54am

    I was going to tell you my story, which i began to type….i would have wound up writing a book, so i had to delete and shorten. Lets just say, because of my hypersensitivity as an empath, i have faced tremendous pain and loss. I've been abused as a child, physically, emotionally and sexually by far more than one. Endured terrible relationships. Lost my three beautiful daughters. Lost my mother and aunt to suicide. A month after my mother passed and was buried on my birthday, my house burned to the ground and i lost everything, including my 6 month old rottie, my cat and boxes of pictures from my mother's that i never even got to go through. Now, because i have not bedn able to work because of fibromyalgia and bipolar depression, child support has gotten beyond my control…now my license is suspended and i havent been able to drive for three years, I've just been stuck in the house. Surrounded by people that don't understand me and utterly stuck and hopeless.
    I wish i could get my husband to read this article and finally understand me. Having lost everything including my freedom and being completely misunderstood has made me feel like i have absolutely no purpose in this world.
    Maybe some day i will write the a book and releave my heavy heart….maybe that is the purpose of all of my suffering and loss.

      anonymous Mar 13, 2016 12:20pm

      I've been through the same things, childhood abuse, bad relationships and lost my 3 kids. Child support issues. I also believe I'm an empath but after so many years of taking shit from people i see them for what they are. Most people are not good. First let me say, if you receive disability benefits you can get your child support payments drastically reduced. Look into applying based on your issues. Me, I became an escort. I'm not able to work everyday BC I have PTSD but I make enough for my needs and then some. I stay away from people and do my thing. I'm beautiful and take care of myself. I'm pretty much done with people, they never bring anything good except for money.

anonymous May 23, 2015 8:01am

You nailed it. Thank you. Living a life of being misunderstood is how an empath feels constantly. I’m so happy people have this opportunity to see it from our side!

My heart does break and bleed- it feels like 1,000 times a day. A true blessing and a curse;)

Good vibes to you!

anonymous May 22, 2015 6:12pm

An amazing read. I have been in love with a fellow empath, Becky, for over two years now in a mostly long-distance relationship. Although, she did not realize she was one until I told her. It is uncanny how we sense each other's presence, each other's energy. And we have allowed each other to wander freely in each other's heart and soul. As you say, when we are connected, it is a truly magical experience. But when we are slightly disconnected, it is a grueling energy-depleting ordeal.

The biggest thing we are dealing with right now is how to give each other enough space to be our authentic selves. Thank you, Alex, for helping us understand the beauty of what we have.

anonymous May 22, 2015 4:01pm

As an empath myself it was really difficult to find an eprson who loves me unconditionally but i found it. I felt this inexplicable draw to my boyfriend for 12yrs before we dated and I have to say I am so lucky to have a man who loves me unconditionally. He may not be happy about me avoiding certain situations but he is ok with it. He always tries to calm me down when I need it and is there for the really tough times.Trusting people is so hard when you are an empath. And sometimes draining. I always have my friends asking me for adivce on their problems and it is draining. But my boyfriend keeps me grounded. He is the same as me. I actually got genetic testing done and found out I am one of the few people with the empathy gene. I wonder how many empaths have this gene too.

    anonymous Jun 7, 2015 9:56pm

    How do you get genetic testing to find out if you have the gene? I would be very curious to find out if i have it. This article describes me so perfectly, i have delt with this for my whole life. Everyone just calls me "sensitive". lol I never realized there are other people who feel things like i do.

anonymous May 22, 2015 1:38pm

Touched by the accuracy of this post..and found that it described many conditions. At times, I found myself substituting the word “human” for “empath”, at others “introverts” and yet others “Capricorn;” all other labels for me.

This is a key.

anonymous May 22, 2015 10:54am

I only wish I had been enlightened decades ago. Great read and spot on!!

    anonymous May 22, 2015 12:26pm

    Me too Patti! It was a revelation for me too figuring out my empath connection! Thank you!

anonymous May 22, 2015 8:05am

Alex, this is a beautiful article and I totally appreciated the clarity it brings to those of us that feel so deeply. Thanks for sharing! Would you be so kind as to say Matt Giordano and Rebecca Rasmussen are the people in the photo, it wasn’t an easy decision for us to be totally vulnerable and pose in front of a camera for the world to see so we would be totally grateful for the acknowledgement our artistry as well. Thanks lovely and keep sharing your heart

    anonymous May 22, 2015 12:25pm

    Hi Matt, Thank you for your comments and also for allowing the use of yours and Rebecca's your stunning photograph! Really appreciate it, the credit is just above. So happy with the image featured in the article as it reflects the sensitive nature of an empath perfectly. Much gratitude, Alex

    anonymous Aug 5, 2015 6:29pm

    The picture of the two of you is simple beautiful. Thank you for sharing your beauty with me and the world.

anonymous May 21, 2015 6:05pm

Wow!! This explains me to the letter!! I have been called a hermit. agoraphobic, and other things. Ive known for years that im an Empath because i have always picked up other peoples joy, pain, health conditions, etc. When you say in this article that going out into society drains us, you are absolutely spot on. It can take me days to recuperate and i even feel ill with no explanation- no medical one anyway lol. I am a medium. and an empath and that causes me to just KNOW when im being lied to, or used or really truly loved. Thank you so much for validating what ive known for years. And, yes, it will absolutely take a very strong man to understand who i really am for me to ever be in a full time relationship.

    anonymous May 22, 2015 12:23pm

    Thank you Patty, so pleased that you could resonate with this! I wrote this straight from the heart, I'm a true empath and knew there were many out there so similar so I'm pleased you connected with it and like you say, found validation in it. Really appreciate your comments and for taking the time to let me know a part of your story too… Alex

    anonymous May 24, 2015 6:50pm

    I know exactly how you feel. I am exactly the same way too. It is so difficult to find others like us. Good to know you are out there. I am 60 years old and have yet to find a man that can handle who I am. I know too what is true and what isn't. And I am not wrong. I cant help it, its just the way I am. I too get ill for no reason it seems, although now it usually is when someone is plotting harm against me or my family. Or just plotting harm in general. I just know. Thanks for sharing. It does do my soul good to know I am not alone.

Melissa Luciano Jan 7, 2018 4:58pm

This was the most amazing article I have read on empath love. Every line just kept me wanting more. It is so incredibly accurate. It's difficult to believe someone else can completely understand what you feel and who you are when so many don't and we live in a world that makes you question if it's all even real. Thank you for having the courage to write this article.

Grace Isaacson Dec 16, 2017 6:38pm

This is so true. Thank you for putting into words what I never could have said.

Michele Donlan Dec 15, 2017 10:53am

I love this article. Thank you for being so kind and taking the time to write this. I too felt as though it was written for me. I loved it and how true it is,..

Antoine Larchez Aug 24, 2017 7:43am

Incredible article ! So insightful and relatable. You made my day! :) have a wonderful one yourself!

Adekunle Asubirain Aug 23, 2017 6:11am

For many years I searched for many words to describe myself..."magical", "weird", "sensitive","deep".............this article does a lot of Justice to my personality. So real

Antoinette Weiss Falone Jan 15, 2017 5:00pm

Amazing! I want to forward your article to all around me so maybe they will finally understand me! You Nailed It! Thank you for the Validation and Affirmation..Most of the time people don't get me and I don't get them.. so lonely, frustrating and debilitating, then comes the blessings that get you through another moment.. I am also a physical empath, so draining, confusing and terrifying.,

Diane Bradley Dec 26, 2016 11:27pm

Every word is me. The only difference, I find great comfort to unwind with a mate. To be held, foot or back rub, or just hold me. But I do have to trust his soul.

Diana Determan Nov 3, 2016 4:20am

Very well written. Too much of it hit home for me its scary. You have an expressive and creative mind that really shows me the picture and feelings of what you are speaking of.

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Melannie Davis Jun 28, 2016 2:42am

This brings tears to my eyes to finally read the words that explain who I am, how I feel energies & view my relationships in relation to the world around me. It is indeed a blessing & a curse. But I choose to focus more on the positive & the blessing it is to be an Empath. I'll be sharing this article with my loved ones. Thank you for putting into words what some of us can't...yet!

Shelly Webster Jun 28, 2016 2:17am

In my younger years meeting men, they would always have a hard time FIGURING ME OUT. I finally would just say "don't TRY to figure me out" I hated it. Made me feel weird. I've always known I was different and quirky. This article made me realize perhaps why and it gives me hope that maybe I can finally figure myself out!!! Thankyou!

Asma Shoaib May 25, 2016 12:48am

This is truly mee. I am drained now and wanted to revive. ... feeling like leave everyone for sometime. I reallyyyyy want ME and only ME time

GeNe VieVe Apr 19, 2016 1:06am

Great article. I felt like i was reading about myself.