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Nobody Processes Emotion: A PTSD Sufferer’s Step-By-Step Guide for all Human Beings.

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Every disease that we go through gives us a new understanding.

Each challenge is an opportunity for strength. Some challenges can inspire others and some can actually uncover riches that all people can draw upon and share. I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and I’m begging everyone to use my tools.

I have been forced to address my emotional reality and to learn to process my emotions. As a result, my engaged presence and emotional intelligence has thrived in a way that has opened my eyes to a global epidemic of escapism and denial.

My version of PTSD, that I am on government disability for, is mainly described through explanations of social anxiety and agoraphobia. Those are pretty words. They even make me sound like a cute nervous little fellow. What is not described by those terms, and what is rarely described in public forums anywhere, is shaking until I puke or pass out or having to be taken to the hospital because I cannot stop seeing and feeling my head go through a glass window, which sheers my skin off.

Ouch.

The effect of my PTSD is obvious. It is obvious to me and everyone around me.

If I do not process my emotions in a calm, healthy manner I am a danger to myself and those around me. But the scary thing I found on this journey is that everyone is a danger to themselves and those around them if they do not process their emotions…it is just less obvious.

All panic, nervousness, anger and frustration is a physical emotional state that exists regardless of whether or not we address it. Many people can compartmentalize. Many can repress. Many can lie and say they’re doing fine. But when I looked at the emotional processing I was doing and then looked at everyone else? I realized no one was doing it.

No one was processing emotion. No one was observing their every emotional reaction and giving energy to consciously tend to it.

What I have been forced to learn to keep myself safe is a process. It is not abstract, it is tangible behavior with a step by step directive.

1) Experience an emotion. Observe the presence of a feeling.

2) Recognize the emotion.

a) Know that it is present.
b) If we’re practiced, figure out the characteristics of the emotion. (This takes years, and is not necessary to do all at once. Does the feeling have a quality? Is it comfortable or uncomfortable? Does it have a source in the present or is it triggered from the past?)

3) Allow the emotion. We must stop ourselves from running away and escaping the emotion. Say “this is the emotion I’m feeling and I’m just going to sit here like a boss and feel it for a minute, or as long as I can.”

4) We must take stock of our emotion to see if we are in a position to engage it fully, or if we have to set it aside for processing at the soonest convenience.

5) Engage the emotion. Walk up to it and shake its hand. Feel it. It is your body talking to you. Let it wash over you.

6) After it has finished with you, allow it to leave, and validate that the moment of the emotion has passed (this will give you confidence in all future moments where processing is difficult).

Every reaction we have is our body telling us something. It is a voice from within us begging for an audience, regardless of what our supposedly adult mind thinks of it. If we show up for ourselves in this way and get confident processing our emotions, we can be confident that when things are not going so well, the ones we love most are not going to have to pay for our lack of internal management skills.

When we think of the behaviors that make us cringe in society, from cruelty to carelessness, coldness to apathy, they all have a source in an emotion that someone does not know how to process. This is not symptomatic of evil, but of emotional ignorance. This ignorance is curable. Focusing on processing emotion can change everyone’s lives. I know that it has changed mine and those I am in contact with virtually or otherwise.

I know what caused my PTSD, but I was always looking for “what I could do with it” that would help others.

This is it.

We observe ourselves and process emotion as it comes up. Then we notice that we aren’t being bossed around by our fear of discomfort. Then we get confident. Then we are able to respond rather than react. Then we are able to be present more often. Then our world starts spiraling and expanding beautifully rather than us feeling trapped and frightened by everything that makes us the least bit uncomfortable.

It can change the world. One emotion at a time.

 

Relephant Read:

5 Simple Steps to Releasing Emotions & Moving On.

 

Author: Vito Mucci

Editor: Catherine Monkman

Photo: Syed Ali Wasif/Flickr

 

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mkienle1979 Apr 21, 2019 9:56pm

Wonderful article! I’m also a survivor that has a mind that continues to process the trauma over and over again. There is no greater lesson than the one that forced me to actually face my emotions. As difficult and unpredictable as life can be while living with ptsd I have found that I know who I really am by being aware of my triggers which are often hidden below the superficial happenings of day to day. Thanks for your thoughts and insights!!!

Briar Mar 28, 2016 11:07am

This is all true and people absolutely need to sit and feel comfortable with their emotions and therefore lessen their control of our egos. Also have a look at Trauma Releasing Exercises by David Bercelli as a way of releasing trauma, stress and anxiety from our body and brain. Invaluable healing technique!

Andi Mar 28, 2016 8:23am

This article made so much sense to me, as someone who also has Bipolar II and PTSD. This last year, things were really rough. I went from someone who cried a few times a year to someone who cried EVERY DAY. For months. Even when the day-to-day difficulties ceased. I was overwhelmed by emotion, but I wasn’t able to process it all.

I’m going to try this. Thank you.

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Vito Mucci

Vito Mucci is a shaman with a background in therapeutic psychology. Having survived PTSD/Bipolar 2 Disorder and Addiction, he has written a text book on Consciousness to share the many lessons and tools he gathered while deeply embedded in the struggle to process anxiety and recover joy. He lives happily with the love of his life and his stepchildren in New York State.