The Unnecessary Taboo on Love.

Via Ashley Barnes
on Feb 4, 2016
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I’m not talking about sexy love or family love. Those kinds of love are acceptable.

No, I’m talking about deep, heart-felt, now-you-know-for-sure-that-you’re-enough-in-my-eyes love. Spiritual love. Holy love. Love that resides within and never ends.

We have the capacity, the longing, the heart-stopping need to love and be loved. Without limits. Without guidelines. Unfettered, unabashed, unfiltered love. And yet we hold back.

Over my lifetime I’ve had several relationships in which I wanted to pour out my very heart and soul (and secretly part of me still longs to). But I didn’t. I didn’t allow myself because I’m only supposed to give my love to my children, to my parents, to my lover. And these unspoken boundaries limit our capability to express what’s inherent inside each of us.

Who designed this cramped box labeled “Love is…”?

Love is in our blood, in our bones. It courses through us despite lifetimes of suppression. It is who we are—just waiting to be released, expressed, exposed…for the mind-exploding, soul-healing, heart-opening act that it is.

To share love is raw, it is opening. It is holy pain and joy lodged in the deepest cracks of our being. It is the ultimate act of connection and healing. And we have a gaping love deficit in this world.

Marianne Williamson once said, “Our real job is to love the world back to health.” Let’s start with honoring the love we all hold in our hearts. Let’s start with encouraging each other to give that love away to anyone we wish. Not just acceptable love, but love that denies and expands the boundaries. Love that makes the mundane holy. Love that says “f*ck you” to the unspoken rules and “come hither” to the hearts of our fellow man.

Let’s love like the Great Ones loved. Love without abandon, with our hearts on the table ready to be broken at any moment, yet still offered up as a sacrifice to the greater good. Let’s love men and women, friends and strangers, lovers of all forms.

Let’s say “I love you” to anyone we want, simply because we feel that way. Let’s deny the internal pressure to hide our feelings because they’re somehow inappropriate. How can love ever be inappropriate? The expression of love doesn’t bind us to entering into a relationship. We simply must love because it’s in our nature, it’s who we are, deep on the inside.
How do we help the world?

We love.

Love ourselves.

Love our neighbor.

Love our enemy.

Love the fortunate.

Love the less fortunate.

Love the dictators.

Love the soldiers.

Love the hateful.

Love the lovers.

Love the animals (all of them, even the very tiny ones).

Love the plants and trees and water.

Did I mention to love ourselves?

We love with the heart of the Creator.

The spirit of angels.

The vastness of the universe orbiting within our souls.

I love you. Each and every one of you. Let’s go love the world back to health: one lover, one parent, one child, one stranger, one love-starved being at a time.

 

Author: Ashley Barnes

Editor: Cat Beekmans

Photo: Amanda Bowman/Flickr

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About Ashley Barnes

Ashley Barnes is an author, speaker, coach, and healer. She is a graduate of the University of Louisville with an MS in Leadership, Foundations and Human Resource Education, a certified Integrative Nutrition Coach (IIN), and a Usui Reiki Master/Teacher. Her mission is “angel work”—the healing work we do for ourselves, which then allows us to be a healing force for the world and her calling is the written word. In her private practice in Louisville, Kentucky, she offers her clients Integrative Energy Healing, a unique combination of her expertise in coaching, energy healing, and personal development. Her book, The Angel Inside is due to be released in March 2016. You can contact her and learn more about her work at her website.

Comments

3 Responses to “The Unnecessary Taboo on Love.”

  1. Lin says:

    Wonderful, Ashley! Hey…I LOVE YOU!!!! <3

  2. ashbar says:

    Thank you Lin! I love you too!! <3 <3 <3

  3. Michael says:

    Yay!!!!

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