Divorce is never easy and can be quite devastating emotionally.

It’s almost as if you feel you are a flower that hasn’t been watered in some time and you begin to shed your beautiful blossoms, one petal at a time.

I wrote this poem a month after we filed for divorce. The emotions were raw but also, as I reflect backward, quite hopeful, too.

 

Finding Me. {Poem}

Wisdom from above

Divine intervention
Guidance adorned

Thoughts running awry
Endless journey
Forever discovering

Pathways discovered
Fate has its hand
All shall be determined

It’s merely begun.

 

When we feel inner conflict, the first thing most of us do is accept the pain and swim in the tears of doubt, anger, resentment, and fear. It’s completely okay to have those moments of sadness and cry the tears for something that is lost—but also to remember not to drown in those negative emotions.

Being present helped me to accept the changes that were happening in my life and that moving forward was a new beginning. I believed that I had the free will to create my own path—that this journey was a gift.

When we lose people, places, and things in our lives, it isn’t necessarily a bad thing but, rather, an important acknowledgement that we are growing. To foster this growth, visualize yourself grounded with sturdy roots.

You are a vibrant, colorful plant with flowers opening, expanding, and continually growing. You are thriving.

Believing is the key to thriving and growing new petals as we blossom again and again.

~

Author: Heather Siebenaler
Image: Author’s Own & Hillary Boles/Flickr 
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