Living in an ashram on the banks of the Ganges in the foothills of the Himalayas, it sometimes takes me an extra few days to catch up with world events.
With no TVs, my news is limited to what I see on Google News while drinking a cup of tea in the morning, or what shows up in my Facebook feed when I open it about once a week.
It has, therefore, taken me too long to see the wave of #metoo posts rising in the West and slowly but surely causing crucial ripples here in the East. My life of 46 years has bridged not only the Western and Eastern hemispheres geographically, but also Western and Eastern models of understanding and responding to ourselves and our world.
The tragic rape and subsequent death of a young woman in Delhi five years ago tore open the tightly sealed cultural box of sex crimes and sexual harassment in India, and out of it flew a newfound openness to discuss what had previously been taboo. “Yes it happens. and no, we don’t talk about it” was pretty much the modus operandi until Nirbhaya occupied the front page of newspapers and our collective conscience.
Last week, I had the great honor of being on stage with Nobel Laureate Kailash Satyarthi to address an auditorium of college students on the wide prevalence of sexual abuse and the necessity of addressing and preventing it. I could barely believe the words that were coming out of my mouth in India, in public, in a microphone, with dignitaries on stage and a hall full of people. This is a program that could not and would not have taken place 10 years ago as the issue was not being discussed in public fora. So there is some progress, but much is left to be done.
I could share many #metoo experiences from the first 25 years of my life in America, ranging from those situations where I had the ability, the physical strength, and the presence of mind to prevent or stop it, to those situations where I did not. Suffice it to say, for the purposes of this article, yes, I get it. Fully. Yes, it is rampant. Yes, it is outrageously unacceptable. Yes, action must be taken—legally, legislatively, professionally, academically, and culturally. Yes, social norms must be fiercely and courageously examined and, where necessary, rewritten.
While my first 25 years were steeped in the land, culture, and social norms of the West, including its models and philosophies of psychology and healing, the last 21 years of my life have been spent immersed in the East, in a deeply traditional ashram in the foothills of the Himalayas.
You are Not this Pen
Each morning during our prayers at five o’clock we chant, “Sansaara ko swapnavat jaano.” The world is but a dream. “Mahalon mein raakhe chaahe jhonpadi mein vasa de. Jaahi vidhi raakhe Raama, taahi vidhi rahiye.” Wherever God puts you, whether it’s a mansion or a shack (literal and metaphoric), recognize that it is all divine blessings and be grateful for them.
The teaching of Aham Brahmasmi—I am Brahma, I am God, all is God, there is nothing but God—is a fundamental tenet of Vedantic teaching. Om Brahm, Om Brahm, we are taught to chant with each breath and each step: left, right, left, right, Om Brahm, Om Brahm. There is nothing but God. It is all God.
Within my first few weeks at the ashram, my Guru held up a pen in front of me and told me, “You are not this pen.” I laughed in anticipation of a punch line that surely was coming, as one giggles on the first “knock, knock.” We may not know who’s there yet, but we know it will be funny, and our laugh begins bubbling to the surface even before the punch line is delivered. Obviously I wasn’t a pen. What else? What was the punch line?
My Guru did not laugh, though. This was not a joke. He looked deeply into my eyes and said, “Today you laugh because you know you are not a pen. But you still identify as the physical body and mind. You think you are your body, you think you are your emotions, you think you are your history and identity. But you are no more your body than you are this pen. Some day you will laugh the same way when I tell you are not your body as you do when I say you are not a pen.”
Aham Brahmasmi, Om Brahm. It is all God. There is nothing but God. The rest is an illusion, we are taught.
The practice of Neti Neti is an ancient meditation technique to attain the experience of the supreme Self, the Supreme Soul. “I am not my clothing,” we begin. Okay, everyone agrees with that. Then, eyes closed, seated in meditation posture, we go deeper and deeper, silently at our own pace, in our own mind. “I am not my skin beneath the clothes. I am not the blood flowing beneath my skin. I am not my organs.” We know this, of course, because when our skin peels, we do not experience any loss of the self. When we donate blood or receive a blood transfusion, we are neither losing nor gaining any aspect of our identity. I could donate an organ to you, and, while that would be deeply generous, I would still be here and you would still be there. So “I” does not get transferred in the kidney.
Then, deeper. I am not my cells or the hormones or neurotransmitters released from them. I am not the electrical transmissions along the axons of my neurons. Therefore, I am not my emotions or my thoughts which are chemical, electrical patterns of energetic transmission in my brain. If I were my thoughts, then I would cease to exist in those rare moments of thoughtlessness or between my thoughts. If I ceased to exist between my thoughts, who would think the next one?
So we practice this on and on until there is nothing left to discard. No layers are left to the onion of our Self. In that space, which Buddhists tend to refer to as emptiness (shunya), and Hindus tend to refer to as everything-ness (purna), I have an experience of the true Self—borderless, formless consciousness.
My Brain Too
My experience of the Self comes to me through my brain. In order to peel the layers back, in order to go deeper and deeper, to extricate myself from the chains of my false identities, I need, ironically, my brain. It is my brain that processes the mantra, my brain that permits me to shut down some parts of it while activating others so I may have the experience of oneness with the world.
Just as our eyes are not the rainbow but are the medium through which we experience the rainbow, just as our ears are not the mantras but are the medium through which we hear the mantras, similarly, our brains are not “I” but are the medium through which we can experience “I.”
And our brains are impacted by sexual assault.
A lesion in my optic nerve will not render the rainbow any less beautiful, but it will impact my ability to see and enjoy the rainbow. An infection in my tympanic membrane will not impact the powerful alchemy of mantras being chanted by priests, but it will impact my ability to hear them and therefore my ability to be healed by them. A sexual assault—verbal or physical—does not change the nature of my deepest, highest, most true Self. But it does impact my ability to experience my Self. There is something about being violated in this way that cuts through to the core of how we experience our selves. Something gets forever shifted, a note in the symphony of Self gets forever tweaked.
It is an injury that doesn’t heal like a black eye or broken nose. It is an injury to the very experience of who we are and how we process our existence on Earth.
Changing the Experience of Our Self
In the West, we tend to glorify our issues. They become our identity. We have taken the statement required in 12-step meetings into our core consciousness. “I am an alcoholic.” “I am an addict.” “I am bulimic.” “I am a rape survivor.” The list of possible identities is nearly endless, and they are insidiously enticing. Bill W., the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, instituted a practice of verbal admission to cut through the denial preventing us from overcoming addiction. It was not meant to become the core of our identity.
If our experience happened more than seven or eight years ago, even if it was grossly physical and violated every inch of our bodies, inside and out, there is not one cell left to which it happened. Every cell of the body sloughs and regenerates. The skin is quickest at every few days. Some organs take seven or eight years. Rarely, though, is it our liver or spleen that was touched, grabbed, groped, or penetrated. The parts of our bodies that were, if the inappropriate behavior was physical, have long since been sloughed off and replaced.
Our bodies have healed, but our brains have not. It is in our brains, in the patterns of electrical, chemical, and magnetic energy, that we store this pain and the identification with it.
However, we now know that our brains can be changed.
What the rishis, sages, mystics and prophets of the world’s religions have been telling us for thousands of years, scientists are “discovering” today. These patterns of thought and behavior exist in two-way communication with how we think and act. Not only do our brains create/impact/direct what we think and do, but what we think and do creates/impacts/directs the neuronal patterns in our brain. Changing our behavior, changing our breath, changing our thoughts, and changing our beliefs changes our brains. Changing our brains changes our experience of the self and the Self.
Survivors meditating is not the solution to sexual misconduct. But it is, I have found, the bridge between knowing #metoo and living as #metoo.
For me, the pendulum between violated body and untouched soul has been a journey not of either/or, but of yes/and. Yes, we must join together and do everything we can to hold this in the light of our collective, cultural awareness and insist that laws, rules, and norms all change. And, through our spiritual practice we can live with the experiential awareness that, yes #metoo and yes, the “me” to whom it happened, is not the deepest, highest, truest experience of I.
Yes, #metoo, and yes, Aham Brahmasmi.
Author: Sadhvi Bhagawati Saraswati
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