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Many people, especially those who identify as sensitive or empathic, haven’t yet learned how to self-soothe when they’re upset, or when life gets intense.

Maybe they didn’t have the kind of parents who held them or let them know that everything would be okay. Or maybe their parents were anxious and transferred that anxiety to them. Regardless of the reason, so many sensitive children grow up carrying this anxiety through to adulthood.

To take charge of our emotions, we can begin by practicing the following self-soothing techniques, which can prevent us from feeling overwhelmed by the stress of the world or by our own internalized stress. Using these strategies from my book, The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, can help us stay calm and centered.

 

1. Practice Conscious Breathing

As soon as stress hits, immediately take a few deep, slow breaths. Breathing helps us expel tension so it doesn’t get lodged in our body.

2. Engage in Positive Self-Talk

Tell yourself, “This is a transient situation. I will find the best way of handing this. Everything will be okay.” Do not let negative, fear-based voices get in the way of consoling yourself with kindness.

3. Develop a Witness State

We are larger than fear. We are larger than anxiety. When we notice ourselves getting stressed or overwhelmed, we need to say, “I am not this emotion. I can center myself. I can lovingly detach from my state of overwhelm and instead witness the feelings I’m experiencing.” Realizing that we are larger than this feeling will help us relax and give us perspective.

4. Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People’s Karma

Remind yourself that everyone deserves the dignity of walking their own path. This will help you avoid feeling inappropriately responsible for what others are going through.

5. Visualize

Picture divine white light coming though the crown of your head and darkness flowing out of the bottom of your feet. This reduces overwhelm by keeping energy flowing out of your body.

6. Use Lavender Essential Oil

Inhale lavender essential oil or put a few drops midway between your eyebrows (on your third eye) to calm yourself.

7. Place your Hand over your Heart

Just as mothers console their babies by patting their chests, we can put our hand over our heart to calm ourselves. The middle of our chest—our heart center—is the center for unconditional love. When we touch it, we activate love, which sends blissful biochemicals, called endorphins, throughout your body.

8. Practice Self-Compassion

Our thoughts make a difference. Be sweet to yourself whenever possible, and avoid beating yourself up. Remember to practice self-compassion when you’re stressed or emotionally distraught. Replacing negative, fear-based thoughts with positive, love-based ones enhances our well-being.

Being an empathic, caring person leaves us open to a wide range of feelings. When we sense love and joy, we feel grounded in our own well-being. However, picking up negative emotions can cause us to feel agitated. As part of our self-care routine, it’s important to find and use techniques that can create peace and equanimity in our lives.

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(Adapted fromThe Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People by Judith Orloff, MD.)

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Judith Orloff

Judith Orloff, MD is the author of  The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, upon which her articles are based. In the book she educates readers about empaths, highly sensitive people, and offers strategies for anyone who wants to avoid narcissists and transform difficult emotions to positive ones. Dr. Orloff is a psychiatrist and an empath who combines the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality. Dr. Orloff also specializes in treating empaths and highly highly sensitive people. She is a New York Times best-selling author of  Emotional Freedom, Positive Energy, Guide to Intuitive Healing, The Power of Surrender, and Second Sight. Connect with Judith on Facebook and Twitter. To learn more about empaths and her free empath support newsletter as well as Dr. Orloff’s books and workshop schedule, visit her website. Republished with explicit written permission from the author. Join her empath Facebook community for sensitive souls here.

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