Late for Love.

I’m known for being late… but like the plane I nearly missed on Wednesday I wonder if this will be my final final call…(as said by the Jetstar lady).  I once saw a clairvoyant and she said “you will find your true love he will be your soulmate, the love of your life.. oh but I’m sorry it will be a long, long, long, long, way away .. I mean she actually said all those longs… and I would certainly meet other people but for true love I must wait…well that was about 8 years ago… I’m not sure how long is long, I’m kinda hoping I’m not 70 something at the end of that last long!! 

Sex in the City had all those seasons (and 2 pretty good movies)  because it hit the nail on the head!! Along with countless songs, movies, poems, and literature all about finding it, keeping it and loosing it, we are consumed by love… Finding your one person is as you move past your 20’s actually hard!…as in ’not easy’… speak to anyone dating who is 40 plus and there will be an eye roll and they will tell you how precarious it is to find that connection, the one that feels right.  Finding like minded souls is challenging, gosh at times finding someone you like enough to go out and have beer and pizza with can be hard, never mind anything else.. and if you do God forbid there are different goals, commitments, beliefs, geography, expectations, then add to the complexities there are families, finances and other things that when your younger wouldn’t need a look in… You could find yourself saying bugger it I’ll live a life on my own… a fulfilling, busy, fun life where you can do whatever you want to do every day without consulting another,  a life where you don’t have to compromise and never have to deliver ‘its me not you’ to another person again! …. tempting!!! 

But and there is always a but… we are not made to be alone, we have an inbuilt need to belong, we need to be loved, we need to love, we need to connect, we need to be together, it is how we are programmed its in our DNA.  The knowing that someone out there ‘gets you’ and inspite of your weirdness (and we all have something) they love you.  You both know you have found that elusive piece of the puzzle, that like the odd shaped and weird coloured jigsaw piece that doesn’t seem to fit anywhere, when its in its right place it fits just perfectly ?, its ‘Love’ that delicious feeling of connection and emotional excitement drawing you to another soul, its giddy, fun and lusty!  Surely we all want to be loved, its part of our genetic make up, a fundamental desire to be desired.

As Atticus says looking too a perfect conclusion…,”When I arrive at death I hope I am late (a no brainer for me ), a little drunk (also not a difficult ask) and in love ..(now that’s the clanger!) That elusive search for your soulmate .. with mutual life ticks ✅ …is surely the biggest treasure hunt of all ?.