July 24, 2020

Let’s Stop Arguing & Spreading Hate on Social Media.


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I stopped engaging in arguments on social media.

Because I don’t care? No.

Because I think my voice doesn’t matter? No.

It’s because I’m a lover, not a fighter. 

You don’t echo in a social media argument where people lack the skills required to receive and express themselves healthily and respectfully.

The energy that is being put out into the world is so negative that it’s overwhelming and poisoning. 

I see your pain. I see your love. I see your confusion. I see your compassion. I see your fear. I see your desperation. And I feel it all.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

I believe the only way to stop the divide is to fill it with love. I believe in the power of love. I believe in supporting the goodness in the world. So, I will not engage in war. I will plant flowers instead. I will focus on love because what you focus on grows. 

“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” ~ Jimi Hendrix

It’s beautiful that there are many, many people of great character, of every race, religion, gender, and sexuality putting love out into the universe. That people can speak their truths without hurting another. These people are doing their part for the greater good. Spreading that positive energy without silencing their purpose.

It’s terrible that people are losing their lives, their loved ones, their business, and their spirits over the amount of destruction, madness, hatred, and black and white thinking (a cognitive distortion). These are ultimately unhealthy expressions of pain and fear. 

We are one, and our energy ripples to another and another. It’s all connected. When does it stop? When we choose not to spread it. 

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” ~ Desmond Tutu

So while the majority of the world is feeding the negative and growing the divide, I’m in a different space feeding the positive. I am planting seeds and watering flowers. I’m writing about my pain and letting others know they aren’t alone. I’m sharing my wisdom. I’m encouraging and loving others. I’m supporting and acknowledging those who are able to speak their truths and create positive ripples of change. 

While people are arguing on social platforms with one another, spreading and filling their bodies with stress and turmoil, I’m watching my kids play with the neighborhood children; no involvement with the madness out there.

I’m watching them all come together, playing ding-dong-ditch, leaving flowers on everyone’s porch. I’m enjoying watching my children as they enjoy one another because they love their hearts, not because of what they look like, who they’re attracted to, or where they came from. And I am wholeheartedly enjoying every second of it; I am filling my faith in humanity. 

I stopped engaging, not because I don’t care; I stopped engaging because I do. I care so deeply that it hurts. I will send you my blessing and walk away.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” 

During these times of extreme controversy, stand with love—the way that leads to peace.

Ironically, promoting peace is seen as an invitation to those spirits whose demons are irritated. The pain-bodies and egos come out and try to attack, needing to be seen and heard to feel powerful because, to a pain-body, love is weak. It’s a vulnerable place to be fighting “guns with flowers.” 

Use your power to spread love and kindness. And to encourage—to inspire. 

Use it to teach people to see their souls and the souls of others. 

Use it to heal yourself and encourage others to do the same. 

Don’t drain yourself of your peace by engaging in arguments. Step outside, just far enough away from the negativity of a painful spirit. 

Begin with love. Begin with peace. And let those ripples flow.

“World peace begins with inner peace.” ~ Dalai Lama

I often refer to an old native story when it comes to times that evoke such complicated feelings:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Which wolf are you going to feed?

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