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December 17, 2020

Is taking her back really worth the repeated heartbreak?

Some women can be so toxic to our health. They don’t want to love us properly, but they don’t want to let us go either. The more we give the less they appreciate, and the minute we’ve had enough and decide to walk away is when they are ready to love us and treat us right.

So we give them a chance in the hopes they’ve changed only to realise it was all fake. We find the strength to walk away once more and here she comes again proclaiming her love and we give in, AGAIN. A woman showing persistence to get you back once you try to break it off isn’t proof of love; its a knee jerk reaction.

A woman kissing ass or making flaccid attempts to be nicer for two weeks isn’t proof that she’s trying, its proof that she knows you well enough to know how to defuse you, long enough to hook you once again. Take away a doll, a little girl cries. Take away a relationship of convenience, a toxic woman cries.

Just because she cries doesn’t mean we should give her what she wants. Stop listening to what your woman keeps promising and start watching what her actions actually keep saying.

A lot of men and I guess some woman too, including me for the last 4 years, don’t know what its like to be loved by a real woman. We know lust, we know joy, we know passion and we know the fear of abandonment and being lonely, but we don’t know real love.

Stop chasing your idea of what love should be and recognise what love IS. Love isn’t promising to act right after she gets caught cheating time and time again. Love is her acting right from the start because she doesn’t want to mess up because she truly only wants you. Love isn’t telling your grown woman she needs to change so she can keep you; love is a grown woman changing on her own because she cant imagine her life without you.

Be strong guys, we deserve better, we deserve real love!

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