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*Excerpt from The Genius of Empathy (Sounds True ©2024) Judith Orloff, MD.
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I often get asked the question “Are empaths on the autism spectrum” because of their similar tendencies to experience sensory overload from noise, light, smells, sounds, certain kinds of touch, and crowds.

They both also need quiet and alone time, perhaps more than other people.

In my clinical practice, I have found that while some empaths have autism, those on the spectrum aren’t typically empaths. People with autism often have developmental and cognitive challenges that empaths who are not on the spectrum don’t face. Plus the spectrum includes many variations, including the genius traits often associated with what was previously known as Asperger’s Syndrome (now labeled as ASD).

But there are various gifts and challenges both for empaths and those on the autism spectrum.

While researching for my book, The Genius of Empathy, I had the honor of speaking with Dr. Temple Grandin, a professor of animal science at Colorado State University, who openly shared her own experiences being on the autism spectrum (ASD).

She told me that when she witnesses animals or people getting hurt, her empathy immediately clicks into action to help. This can be an advantage to stay emotionally centered in charged situations. In the past, it was believed that those on the spectrum may lack empathy. Dr. Grandin brought up an important point when she said that those on the spectrum do have empathy but may express it much differently. It will be interesting to find out what future scientific research discovers about the relationship between empathy and ASD.

Empathizing with Our Differences

Perceived or real differences can present obstacles to empathy. Studies have shown that it may be harder to empathize with experiences that are different than our own. We also tend to take comfort in similarities since we generally know what to expect, rather than in areas where we may differ.

However, just as it may be challenging for people who are not on the spectrum to understand those who are, it may be equally challenging for those on the spectrum to understand those who are not. To enhance your empathy, be mindful of this conditioning so you can begin to open your heart to others whom you may not initially understand. You can also learn to have empathy for your own uniqueness, needs, and differences.

For instance, not everyone sees the world in the same way. There is a creative variety of cognitive styles, such as autism spectrum disorder and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), and each style has its own pluses and challenges.

It’s important to see loved ones, friends, and coworkers who have these differences with empathic eyes. It is equally important for them to see your differences (from them) with empathy as well. Do not judge others as inferior, though some cognitive styles can present more emotional issues than others. The goal is always to remove obstacles that keep our hearts closed or foster misunderstanding.

You’re learning about each other. It is an ongoing dance of connection, respect, tolerance, and love.

Surely we all need as much empathy as possible in our lives. It is a basic, life-affirming quality to nurture. I hope you can prioritize it and your own healing.

When you encounter obstacles to empathy, pause and be gentle and patient with yourself. Don’t force anything. Always show yourself loving-kindness.

Love just keeps growing when we hold it close and care for it well.

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