{This article is written in partnership with LELO. They’re dedicated to a self-care movement aimed at those who know that satisfaction transcends gender, orientation, race, and age—ecstasy without shame—and we are honored to work with them. ~ ed.}

Disclaimer: if you think intimacy devices are passé because they desensitize your nerves, you might unfortunately be stuck in the twentieth century.

Today’s devices are app-controlled with a rainbow of pressures, patterns and nuances to nourish and build up nerve sensitivity, strength and orgasmic gains, not to numb the orgasm out of you. We go soft, slow, and deep here, not hard, quick, and shallow.

You know that yearning moment, when your partner has the pressure and yummy pace down to perfection during tantalizing, oral sex? Your motor is purring, the sensation is climbing higher and still higher and then….foreplay is done because you need penetration right friggin now!

That’s how this gal, yours truly, relates to the LELO Switch wand.

There are two motors, it’s a double-ended masterpiece encased in a silky smooth and ribbed vibrating massager. Nobody seems to make vibrators as satin-like or silent as LELO does, in case you value comfort and privacy. It has one delightfully rounded, narrow end for my foreplay needs to get my kitty purring and revved up. The other end, a bulbous tail, for when its penetration time.

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You’ll wanna keep this magic wand in your treasure box, in more ways than one (wink, wink).

I tend to like it when my device or lover brings length to the erotic table, so it was an adjustment for me to feel a penetrating end with this much girth, which I definitely wasn’t adept to. But it’s been a fun, new adjustment since variety is most definitely the spice of life when it comes to intimacy.

I also truly love my LELO Enigma Double Sonic (my last LELO toy I got) for when I am craving clitoral pleasure to ride the waves of turn-on, but when I crave the feeling of having intercourse and big penetrating sensation, the LELO Switch is my new ride or die toy.

The hypersensitive, app-controlled foreplay end is so good, I am having climactic peaks sometimes before I get a chance to switch ends for the deep and wide penetration. But I am a girly that loves external pleasure as much as internal pleasure so it’s refreshing  and delightful that the Switch can deliver both.

The Switch is equipped with 10 settings capable of  nuanced pressure and pulsating fluctuations at lightning speed. Like Whoa, Rock Me Mama! It gets and keeps me purring and building up with absolutely zero lag time.

How I Actually Engage the LELO Switch:

As a long-time sexual wellness explorer, I want to get the most out of this high-end tech, yet sensual, experience. I know that laying there passively and making a wand do one-hundred percent of the work isn’t going to be engaging enough for me, or helping this exquisite design reach it’s full potential.

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So I breathe in through my nose, and press the vibrating, more finger-like, narrow end gently against my clitoral area on the #4 ‘Stimulated’ setting and I exhale out, through my clitoris. And Oof! Bigger, fuller engagement is reached when I feel a deepening sensation within my nerve-endings.

I remember how wildly powerful this sensation felt the first time I did this orgasmic breathing, in through the nose, out through the clitoris, while receiving oral sex. I was immediately hooked and then realized how powerful meditation and breath work really is, and the best part is that orgasmic breathing works whether you’re partnered or utilizing the perfect tool like the LELO Switch.

These have become My Three Favorite Strokes with The Switch: 

1. I like to use the narrow, rounded end on the stimulating 3-5 settings to do quick-ish upstrokes on the clitoral area to build turn on, as fingers would igniting sensation and sexual excitement. It gets the blood flowing and activates the erectile tissue in the clitoris like pleasurable little tingles of lightning strikes!

2. Once I have an ample amount of wetness and excitement in the clitoral region, I use the narrow, rounded end to do long, slow downstrokes from the clitoris to the introitus (opening of my V where penetration happens). The girth of the narrow end perfectly matches the feeling of my partner’s two fingers doing long, slow downstrokes, pulling all the blood in my clitoris down towards my opening. This is where it gets scorching with an almost unbearably deep pleasure. Now we’re swimming in the erotic deep end. 

3. The substantial, ball-shaped tail packs a weighty presence and I found that I enjoy it for both external and internal excitement. I mean, it covers the whole clitoral region for one, the size combined with the vibrating patterns is lip bitingly-good pleasure. And as far as internal penetration goes, let’s just say that it’s so round and bulging that I need to be teased at the opening for a while before I can swallow such Big Energy.

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On the partnered front, I would be remiss if I didn’t put attention on the capabilities the dual-motor Switch has for mutual, partnered stimulation; whether it’s for two queer women or an anal-curious heterosexual couple that want to explore various types of penetration. This satin wand beautifully lends itself to so much potential and creativity.

In closing, let’s collectively acknowledge that a woman’s pelvic anatomy is truly built like a double-ended (the clitoris and vaginal opening) playground. To see them as separate, or ignore one completely, feels like intimate negligence (!). The two parts work in tandem to stimulate and move blood flow up and down between one other and the movement of the blood flow helps create pleasure. One affects the other greatly and the more adept we get at stroking skillfully and with masterful play, the more capacity we unleash for new heights of turn-on, sexual health, and nourished mood.

So, I definitely encourage you to invest in a Double-Motor Tool for your Double-Stimulation Playground and let’s play boldly, elegantly, and enthusiastically in 2026!!!

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