Bent Out of Shape: What yoga taught me about relationships. ~Lindsay Jean Thomson.

Via on Aug 27, 2009

Lindsay Jean Thomson, yoga

I cannot believe you went to a Lifehouse concert with your ex-girlfriend, but you won’t come to just one of my yoga classes!

I tease my boyfriend Jed for about the hundredth time. To change it up, I’ll place emphasis on different words within the same statement: Sometimes I cannot believe, other times I cannot believe. You get the idea.

What’s Jed have against yoga anyways?

Nothing, really. He’s done it a few times and it’s just not for him. I get it — I don’t expect him to love yoga or to do it regularly, I just really, really, really want him to come to one of my classes.

Nothing says yoga or healthy relationship like making someone do something they don’t want to do, right? Right?! Of course not. So why am I so bent out of shape about this? (Get it? Bent out of shape! Ha, bad yoga joke!)

"Bent Out of Shape," Yoga and Relationships

Growing up as “the smart one” in a working class family, I was supposed to be a doctor or a lawyer…something professional and successful. But the truth is that I was miserable in my “grown-up job” post college. There had to be something more to life than employer-sponsored health insurance, paid vacation and matching 401(k). So I gave it up, and I’ve never been more content (although it would be nice to have health insurance). I know that my friends and family love and support me no matter what I do, but I can’t help but feel that some of them think I’m “just” a yoga teacher, that I should be doing something better with my life.

But berating Jed into coming to my yoga class isn’t going to show the people I love that the work I do makes a positive impact in the lives of others. Yesterday, one of my new students, two weeks into his practice, told me that yoga is changing his life. The feedback from students — you know, those who practice willingly — is the kind that matters. Jed doesn’t need to come to class to know that I love what I do. And I certainly don’t want to have the kind of relationship where I goad my partner into doing something he just doesn’t want to do, the way that his ex dragged him kicking and screaming to the Lifehouse concert (or so he says). So I’m going to let it go.

You’re safe for now, Jed.

lindsay jean thomson

Lindsay Jean Thomson’s boyfriend wants you to know that he is in no way a fan of Lifehouse. The light in Lindsay bows to the light in all other beings, including Lifehouse, although she clearly has much better taste in music than Jed’s ex. Seriously. She posts playlists and other things on her blog and would love to share yoga with the willing in her classes at International Orange and yoga mayu.

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6 Responses to “Bent Out of Shape: What yoga taught me about relationships. ~Lindsay Jean Thomson.”

  1. sublimekesel says:

    Good topic! The minute we expect our significant other to do stuff just 'cause we want them to, we are inviting disappointment and conflict. Let's stick to the important, necessary stuff (like honesty, respect, and putting the toilet seat down!) and focus on the fact that independence within a relationship is integral to its survival.

  2. McK says:

    I was curious, are you able to survive off of only teaching yoga….or do you supplement the yoga classes with another part time job?

  3. You have a nice grasp of relationships. Make me think yoga class should include relationship tips … maybe you could collect some stories and tips and write a book (collection of tips and stories with commentary).

    Steve

  4. Oh Geez, I mean this in the nicest possible way and I don't want to sound judgemental but PLEASE – get rid of him
    You'll thank me later – He is not for you…period…there …I said it…

  5. [...] it ended.  Not the yoga, but the relationship, which, for a time, effectively ended my yoga practice too. A few weeks before we broke up, I [...]

  6. ARCreated says:

    1. there are a lot of people that survive on "just teaching yoga"
    2. there are couples/partner yoga classes and some of them do delve into relationship work, honestly though if you do your own work magical things can happen anyway
    3. although this relationship did not work out make no mistake both people don't have to love yoga.
    4. yoga is not the only one way to recognize spirituality.
    5. regardless of how this turned out your self recoginition was powerful and your attitude commendable and it will stead you well in the future I would say this was a lesson well learned bravo

    I'm just sayin' :)

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