Parenting 101: Say you’re Sorry.

Via on Aug 8, 2012

Not just parenting. Being human. It’s the Tao of Louis CK.

Weird, sad, funny, badly acted but wonderful. And ultimately touching:

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Top Reddit comment: “Can’t wait to show this to my 5 and four year olds…If you don’t say “I’m sorry” they’re gonna haul your ass to jail. Internet is making parenting a lot easier.”

About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | facebook.com/elephantjournal | twitter.com/elephantjournal | facebook.com/waylonhlewis | twitter.com/waylonlewis | Google+ For more: publisherelephantjournalcom

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3 Responses to “Parenting 101: Say you’re Sorry.”

  1. cathy says:

    Thank you EJ for another real and important lesson/adventures in growing up for adults and children.
    As a teacher.. I am a stickler that the child says "I am sorry".. as sometimes an indiferent 'sorry" becomes an unhearted attempt at ending something rather than the human connection and energy change which a real apology needs.

    Thank you again.

  2. Natalie Baginski says:

    HUGE topic for Montessori teachers and Montessori parents.

    As a Montessori teacher, I never ever ask that a child says "I'm sorry" unless the child actually means it. So often a child will not say it because truly, in that moment she is not sorry. When the child who isn't sorry sees empathy and compassion toward the child that was wronged, usually the child decides on her own she wants to also show some compassion and will offer a heart-felt apology when ready. This goes for young children around six or under. When they are older the kids are required to talk it out and share feelings and go back and forth until everyone is understood. Agreements are made about future behaviors and expectations and the Montessori teacher or parent will ask a child who hasn't apologized if she would like to. Almost 100% of the time apologies are given without prompting. Now and again though, when someone is still angry she won't apologize and we just model an understanding that you can't force someone to feel something such as remorse. Having to walk away from a person who won't apologize is a good reminder that we can only be resonsible for ourselves; it's a good opportunity to model compassion and accepted. Maybe that person is having a horrible day, or was abused, or has such an inflated ego it's almost impossible for her to relate with how others' feel. We teach kids they are not responsible for how others act and feel and sometimes we're wronged and have to just accept the situation and walk away in order to keep the peace.

  3. Jennifer Ryan says:

    I have banned the words "I'm sorry" between my partner and me. It's too easy just to form the words. We are practicing acknowledging the other's wounded feelings and describing the way we plan to avoid the issue going forward. Remorse itself doesn't help a person learn and grow.

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