Women, it’s time to honor the “moon cycle” of our men.
I have come to observe through life, love and anecdotal conversations that men, too, have their own equivalent to a woman’s “moon cycle,” that is related to the release of their seed.
Within the theory of Ayurveda, men’s shukra (or seminal fluid), is the energetic equivalent to a women’s pushpa (the blood of their womb), as well as female sexual fluid (also shukra).
These fluids are distilled through many days of work from foods and liquids to become a precious, life-creating substance. Although semen is created daily (85 million sperm per day per testicle), it takes 72 to 90 days to develop mature sperm.
No wonder men in the after-flow of a love union are like big, lazy lions, completely reclining, with no interest in doing anything whatsoever—just like women, who feel the need to seriously chill at the onset and during their monthly flow.
Putting aside the many theories and practices about men releasing their seed, which is really very individual, seasonal, constitutional and unique to every man, there is a wonderful period of absolute lunar, yin, receptive, relaxed, content, open and loving space that men enter into, that deserves to be honored—particularly by women who are often the ones to start poking that Lion King get up and do something again.
Why do women disturb men when they are so beautifully resting in their lunar nature—a quality women long to be reciprocated, when it’s their turn in the cyclical flow?
Just as men are often resistant to honor their ladies on their “moon” or menstrual cycle, when they need the most loving and nurturing support, ladies need to be called out for disturbing men in their spontaneous—but very real release of precious essence—their own “mini-moon.”
For those precious few hours, to a few days, these Lions deserve to be served and adored as “Moon Kings” too; I have yet to meet a man who is not into this idea, as they know it to be innately true—and actually love the regal name, which gives permission to lounge around like a maharaja, in the way that those lovely “Moon Queens” also are waiting to be held and respected.
Male and female orgasm naturally produces a cascade of oxytocin and a regenerating rhythmic entrainment between our brainwaves and our heart rhythm, that creates the feeling of a downward stream of bliss that is healing for every level of our being.
The relaxation that follows after reaching this peak is a sacred time for men to experience the healing power of ida nadi—the “lunar current” of our parasympathetic nervous system, by resting in the whole body surrender. A woman’s sexual release creates the same melting-into-being, but is often energizing, as it is not anywhere near as “depleting of essence” as for men; hence the rhythmic differences that can emerge post-union.
Men and women can begin to authentically recognize the beauty of ida nadi within the shukra-pushpa (seed-ovum) release cycle and give that support and love to each other, by creating a natural rhythm of serving the Moon King-Queen. This can be in the smallest of ways of royal treatment, like feeding them in bed or making a special ojas tonic (Ayruveda recommends warm almond milk with honey and cashews sprinkled on top—yum!)
You start to love both being and serving the Moon King-Queen (I made up these titles and they work!)
Love your Moon King up and he will come to know exactly what a Moon Queen needs to receive when your cycle arrives—not “to give to get” but to help evolve our collective culture to remember our instinctual bodies.
Prrr and grrrr! All Hail the Moon Kings!
*Excerpt from the upcoming book Tending the Heart Fire: Living In Rhythm with the Pulse of Life. (Soundstrue, Fall 2013)
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