An Open Letter to Men: Part One. ~ Hannah El Hamalawy

Via on Oct 22, 2012

No. No sacrifice. I will not sacrifice anymore.

Laying my humanity at the alter, in search for my divinity. No longer whole.

In search for your affection. In search for perfection.

Accepting only the great is no acceptance at all. It is a lie. A half-truth. Unreal.

The “spiritual” relationship.

The demands. The shunning of fear and jealousy. The importance of no conditions and of asking no questions. It is all a farce. And conditions more than it frees. Restricts more than it liberates. Murdering my love and me.

No. No more. I will not adjust. There is no sacrifice.

Take me in my ugliness. Love me in my rage. Accept my jealousy. Even my desire to control. It is all fleeting. A game.

I do not own you, though I desire you to be mine.

I do not control you, though I desire you to be mine.

I do not punish you.

I do not command you.

I do not persuade you.

Still, do not make me believe that which is not true. Do not neglect to tell me that which is true. I beg you. Be honest. No matter what it is.

Please, do not rob me of my freedom.

Do not rob me of my chance for divine love in the divinely human way. There is no greater beauty. This is why we are here. To love divinely through our humanity.

Please. Do not conceal things. Do not be fearful. Be brave. A man.

Reveal yourself. Display your weaknesses, your strengths. Share your dreams, your feelings and passions—even if they lie with someone else. Somewhere else. Away from me.

Allow me to see you as you are. I implore you. Allow the truth to shine through. Allow it, so that I may reveal myself to you. In all my might and glory. In all my hunger and despair.

Unleash me.

The “spiritual” relationship.

Ideas. Ideas. Even the greatest ideal, nothing more than an idea.

I let go of my ideals. I am not spiritual. I am divinely human. Humanely divine. That is my destiny. And yours.

Let go of your conceptions. Release your restraints.

Be honest. No. Be truthful. Honesty is such a misinterpreted word…it allows for abuse. Sanctions excuses. Instead, be truthful. As you are.

Truth is simple. Untouched by manipulation. Pure. Present. Aware.

Do not be afraid of hurting me. Your truth enlightens me. Frees me.

Gives me the chance to connect to the real me, the greatest me. The one that has no boundaries. The me, I wish to become. The me, I have always been.

See now, how much your truth frees me?

Do not be fearful. We are stronger than you think.

Hannah is a writer, a seeker, an up-and coming star. She knows that the grass is greener on all sides, that the light is also the dark, and that joy and pain can be felt at once. It’s hard to be a human, but still it’s immensely beautiful. And so she struggles, laughing, crying and dreaming at the same time in her quest to become Divinely Human.

 

Editor: Jamie Morgan

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4 Responses to “An Open Letter to Men: Part One. ~ Hannah El Hamalawy”

  1. Cesare says:

    Wonderful article, but the meanings hold true for women to act the same, with authenticity.

    I don’t understand your distinction between honesty and truthfulness. Can you please elaborate? Thanks.

    • Hannah El Hamalawy says:

      Thank you Cesare!
      Yes indeed. This is the reason that this is just the first part of the article…both sides need to sink into that space of authenticity. The distinction here is as follows.
      In my humble opinion…
      Many people use honesty with brute force. For instance: in their honesty there is a lack of compassion, a lack of understanding. Honesty will sometimes justify malice or coldheartedness. A man or woman for that matter (and I speak from experience as coldhearted perpetrator, as well as, receiver of such honesty) may exploit the truth, the cold facts. And may share these cold facts in a way that does not foster growth, love, understanding….
      In truthfulness, however, there is much more interaction between the individuals..though cold facts are exposed they are done so with love, compassion, a desire to understand each other… a deep willingness to connect…
      It is quite complicated to explain.
      Do you follow? Have you ever experienced this difference yourself?
      Or should I come with a easier to understand question later?

      • Cesare says:

        Thanks for the reply Hannah. I look forward to the second part of the article.

        And I totally agree with your comment about folks using honesty as a justification. It is all about the intention behind what is being said. I do find it difficult sometimes though when the people in the relationship have different intentions. It's almost as hurtful when I'm being honest with someone in what I think is out of compassion, but through their own insecurities am accused of being malicious. Don't get me wrong, I have sometimes rightfully been accused of having my honesty come across as being patronizing and condescending.

        I also really liked your line about your no longer wanting to shun fear and jealousy. If jealousy is expressed with good intentions it too can be freeing. Have you ever read the poem "The Invitation" by Oriah? (http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/) I think it's a great expression of asking for authenticity.

        • @undefined says:

          Cesare,
          Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Yes, it is definitely not easy to find harmony. It seems that either we must remain silent and unfulfilled/unhappy or speak and remain in conflict.. it certainly is not easy. I have found it very hard myself… now however, I've come to a point that I can't deny my truth anymore… no matter the consequences.
          I have also been so afraid of my own humanity for many years.. and have suppressed angers I considered 'unspiritual' but now I have understood that I will never be whole if I do not acknowledge all parts of me. All I can do now is accept my divine humanity…not just my divinity as spirit.. I certainly find your comments interesting and I look forward to future discussions with you…part 2 will be out soon. Until then, perhaps you would enjoy this: http://lavendercotton.wordpress.com/

          Thank you for the link, I'll have a look now=)

          Have a good day,

          Hannah
          =)

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