Ten Things that are Bad for Us that can be Good for You if Practiced Mindfully.

Via on Feb 16, 2013

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Ten Things that are Bad for Us that can be Good for You if Practiced Mindfully.

Inspired by Mindful Vice Training!

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It can cloud the mind, making you paranoid…or it can relax and lighten. The difference?

Mindfulness. Be present when you smoke, and like wasabi it’ll light you up without burning you down.

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it can be an addiction, a goings-through-the-motions, an act of conquering or speed…or it can be poetry, surfing sweat, the tides of life, honest and open communication (speaking in tongues, and sighing). The difference?

Mindfulness: eye contact’s a good start. Don’t fake anything: instead, tell one another what turns you on, treat one another with respect and intimate exactitude, take your time.

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it can be too much, too often, with pain, with driving, with anger, with fights, with sadness, costing too much money, sucking love. Or it can be appreciating, mixed or straight, with sacred head and shoulders, with a smile, with style, with humor and passion. The difference?

Mindfulness. Read here for some more in-depth perspective via Ted Rose.

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it can help us work and achieve and build and sort and help and extend and connect…or it can disconnect, suck away our power and passion and dreams into a lost world of stale cocoon. The difference?

Mindfulness. Take breaks. Be present. Do one thing at a time. Remember your mission or vision, instead of getting lost in the technology loop.


It can be delicious and nourishing and help us get done what we want to get done and do what we want to do and it can delight and entice and fill up and…oh, who doesn’t love food. Or it can be too much, too fast, too cheap, to processed, but sweet and salty and greasy in a way that makes us want it without ever quite getting full. It can fill us and keep filling us until we’re walking about lugging an extra hundred pounds, losing years on our life. It can give us diabetes at the age of 18, say, it can provide an eternal itch of never-satiated hunger. The difference?

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Mindfulness. Eat real food: less processed, closer to its original form. Less packaging, plastic, preservatives, chemicals, less patents and laboratories and politics, more healthy, cancer-free. Go with Michael Pollan’s three simple rules. If you’ve seen it advertised, avoid it. If your great grandma ate it, go for it. Eat sitting down. Don’t eat while doing something else, like…driving. Or walking. If you eat too much, go easy on yourself…and stop.

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It can be free, with no parking hassles, and it can be free exercise, with fresh air. Or it can be commuting through hours of traffic, paying too much for gas that comes from Canadian tar sands or helping to fund war and strife. It can be elegant, or it can be cheap and dirty.  The difference?

Mindfulness. If you drive, drive something that gets reasonable mpg. Old cars and trucks can be an elegant joy to own and drive—and more eco, in that you’re not adding to the buy-sell supply-demand cycle. New cars, if hybrid or say electric, can be clean, efficient, and your purchase helps revolutionize the business of the automobile. Or bicycle, or walk, or bus—and you’ll enjoy health, community, sunshine, valet parking, no insurance or maintenance charges.


News & Entertainment:

It can be fun, bring us together with our friends, it can be art, it can be connection, it can be calming and enlightening and change our world. Or, it can blur our thoughts, make us into smiling masks, cows and sheep, it can be the opiate of the masses, it can harden with hate and rhetoric and fill the space of the mind and airwaves that otherwise would be reserved for ideas, visions, dreams and flashes of insight. The difference?

Mindfulness. Put away the lit up screens, once in awhile. Don’t walk while texting. Don’t drive while phoning. Do one thing at a time, and do it well. Only go to movies that one really wants to see: remember our hours may seem limitless, but we’re all given just so many grains of sand in our hourglass.

Lady Justice does plenty of judging. She doesn't, however, prejudge. Notice the sword of "prajna" in her right hand.


It’s no secret that New Agey types love to (ironically) hate on others for “judging.” What they mean, or what we mean, to criticize is pre-judging. You know, prejudice. For judging can be a good thing, or a bad thing. In Buddhism, judging is viewed as essential, a potential positive. It’s prajna, or discernment, the sword of wisdom that pierces confusion or neurosis simply.

I judged just yesterday when I chose to eat (and share) an organic apple over the processed potato thing and dyed-red pear and hot dog smothered in…something in a white flour preservatived bun that looked as if it’d gone to the moon and back—in 1968. Of course, we also judge that we need two to-go coffees and a plastic lid and to waste dozens of paper napkins when we go out. Judging is a tool that can create a more eco-responsible world, a kinder world, a healthier world—or a speedier, cheaper, more selfish world. The difference?

Mindfulness. If our judging is motivated by reality, instead of by preconceptions (a la climate change deniers, say, who put partisanship over science), we see reality instead of our own views reflected in our experience. As Sherlock Holmes said, it’s our job to see whatever is, no matter how unlikely, instead of creating a supposition and finding the facts to suit.

“I never guess. It is a shocking habit,—destructive to the logical faculty.” ~ Sherlock Holmes

“It is a capital mistake to theorize before one has data. Insensibly one begins to twist facts to suit theories, instead of theories to suit facts.” ~ Sherlock Holmes

“Eliminate all other factors, and the one which remains must be the truth.” ~ Sherlock Holmes

“When you have eliminated all which is impossible, then whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth.” ~ Sherlock Holmes

mahakala dharmapala "four karmas"Losing our Temper:

We all lose our mind from time to time (me: daily).

For me, in my business life, my anger is usually wisdom: it helps me break free of bullshit—but only if I don’t take it out on others. In my personal life, it’s harder—we never want to hurt those we love. In Buddhism, it’s the fourth karma: ie, it’s playing basketball on the moon blindfolded, ie, only for those who can handle some advanced, difficult stuff. That’s not you or I, most likely. So how do we transmute our anger? What’s the difference between wisdom and neurosis, here?

Mindfulness: the trick is not to expect us to ever hold our mind 100% of the time. Peace is not a state of mind; it’s more like surfing. Instead, as the Buddha advised, treat one’s mind like a guitar, tuned not too tight, not to loose. Lose your mind, or temper? Just come back to the present, without blame. Leave the room if you have to. As Buddhism advises, if you’re angry, turn your self into a piece of wood—ie, do not act out your anger. Just leave. Anger is frustration, and fear, usually. It’s also something we regret 2.5 minutes later…so just go quiet or get away for 2.6 minutes.


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Mindfulness Itself:

Spirituality and religion can help us to be kind, and patient, to learn, to connect with community—or they can become fixed, dividing, materialistic dogma. Mindfulness itself can be meditation, at its root—training us to connect with our own basically good human nature—or it can be a spiritual shawl, self-serious religious veil we draw around us to look and pretend and busy ourselves with the act of “being spiritual.” The difference?

Mindfulness, at its root, is meditation: in Buddhism, it’s called a self-burning flame. Or a self-cutting sword. So remember: we’re doing all this not to look or act serious and cool. But to lighten up, ground down, stand tall and smile sadly—acknowledging the sadness and weight of the suffering and confusion of this world, and at the same time appreciating the elegance, joy, compassion and fun that is our human birthright, if only we choose to claim it.

So meditate. Don’t do it as a religious act, but as a practical one—like brushing your teeth, you can do it twice a day, just after we wake, and when we prepare to go to bed.


What’d I miss?

What else? Suggest in comments, or write your own, and I’ll add it in with credit.

About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | facebook.com/elephantjournal | twitter.com/elephantjournal | facebook.com/waylonhlewis | twitter.com/waylonlewis | Google+ For more: publisherelephantjournalcom



53 Responses to “Ten Things that are Bad for Us that can be Good for You if Practiced Mindfully.”

  1. Freya Watson Freya Watson says:

    Hi Waylon, you touched on a few chords there for me! Yes, mindfulness – but also mindfulness about our own patterns. I've become aware over the years that it's not simply a matter of approaching a substance/issue/subject with a sense of the sacred but that our own self-awareness about when and why we 'use' it (even if 'it' is entertainment) is equally important. I've seen some smoke weed several times a day and appear to thrive, while others do the complete opposite despite having a deep reverance for it. In along with mindfulness there is that little thing which I could call wiring – others might call it genetics.

    But I've also seen the reverse of this – things that would normally be considered 'good' for us ending up being 'bad' for us. Those who overdo the meditation, spirituality, yoga – hiding in a practice to the detriment of other areas of their lives.

    Balance has a lot to do with it.

    Really interesting territory!

  2. I think the undercurrent here is intention. If we do these things (or anything) to be present, to engage, to "pick strawberries," then they can benefit us and the people with us. If we are doing them to escape and avoid being present, even the most "mindful" action can be harmful.

  3. oz_ says:

    In general, good advice, but you got this one badly wrong:

    "New cars, if hybrid or say electric, can be clean, efficient, and your purchase helps revolutionize the business of the automobile. "

    Both use large quantities of rare earths (so do wind turbines, for that matter, rendering wind power distinctly NON green) -please see:

  4. Guy Leisure says:

    I would add weapons as a sub-set of technology.
    I am seeing more gun-radicals and those two words should not be combined in thoughts or actions.

  5. Tina Curran says:

    Shouldn't that say 'self-burning flame?' (not self-burning blame)

    Thanks. Good article.

  6. Canuck says:

    Hello Waylon. I really enjoy reading many of the Elephant articles. This one did catch my eye as well, but I can't say I agree with everything that was written. The point about marijuana is far off the mark I think. Perhaps smoking pot a few times a year, and attempting to be mindful could have some benefits…but I could argue even that. Five decades of observation along with a formal education around substances has informed me that substances that alter our brains chemistry to the extent of pot and alcohol (to name just a couple), need clearer boundaries. Someone might read this and think "as long as I'm mindful I can smoke pot every week and it will be OK"…and that would be wrong. As a society, we could all do with a lot less pot and alcohol, "mindful" or not.

  7. KucharczykL says:

    What’d I miss?

    Mostly everything! The world is filled to the brim with things that are good if exercised mindfully.

  8. Uma Simon Uma Simon says:

    Very mindful article. Thank you.

  9. Thomas says:

    In my view mindfulness is not the answer to making these and other activities wholesome, constructive or positive. Mindfulness is an old buddhist concept that in its popular form has been made to mean something like "practiced with awareness and intention" But awareness and intention can be produces on and from many levels of depth in ourselves, we can be aware of ourselves being stupid and we can intend to do stupid things. Just watching ourselves leads nowhere. The buddhist tradition understands the necessity of training these things, they are not things given for free. As many other ancient concepts, mindfulness in its popular form is just another quick fix. We wish we could just "do it", but try and you shall see that you just end up forgetting all about it after a week or that it becomes another dogma by which you live your life. Truth is what we really seek, and real training is what is needed to attain this.

  10. Robin says:

    I so enjoy reading the thoughtful, compassionate Elephant articles, and also find the diverse comments interesting.
    As a parent of teens and young adults we have many discussions about most of the topics you have mentioned. There is nothing more inspiring and convincing than a young mind and heart on fire to change the world however, what I have learned from them is that one can make a strong case for or against ANYTHING when our own path has led us to find supportive truth. Nothing is meant to be permanent. There are as many paths as there are possibilities. We all need the courage just to do the next right thing. I love the way the words mindfulness, intention and balance have been referred to. Whenever I read these articles and the comments the word openness also comes to mind.

  11. Hunchback says:

    How about a '?' after 'love food.' The 'judgement' section needs editing. Maybe a sense of wonder would add something. You offer suggestions of what mindfulness could mean in different situations, but it sometimes sounds doctrinaire, like a closed circuit between question and answer. If one is preaching to the choir that doesn't matter much. If you're trying to reach a wider audience, it helps to recognize that different people are starting in different places. We're not all hipsters, even at heart. Blogging works better as an expression of opinion, of view, of experience, than as an instruction of what we should do or think.

  12. Tammie says:

    You rock.

  13. no one special says:

    sorry, but sonds like a lot of self-justification for pleasures/comforts the world cannot afford anymore. Millions of people are starving, climate change is going to be catestrophic and soon (see fantastic Boston Phoenix article this week, Feb 15, 2013 by Wen Stephenson. I'm no saint and obviously, we downsize as we can given just trying to survive, but let's not justify Western excess. Form what I can see- I may well be wrong- most people are addicted to something- if you smoke MJ daily- that's not moderation. Do some smoke occassionally- sure, but a lot don't. Only y ou know. Ask yourself how you would feel if your supply ran out. And don't get me started on addiction to the internet.
    The buddha had the brilliance to pull back from self torture and advocate the middle way, but the American way is nowhere near that. Renunciation is a path factor. Ethics are a third of the path. there are no shortcuts. I wish all well and respect all that you contribute in whatever way each of you does. May you be well and peaceful and free, but please don't fool yourselves. If freedom is what you want, it takes sacrifice. may you rmindfulness take you to greater appreciation for renunciation which is really all about simplicity.

  14. emmahempstead says:

    gorgeous. wonderful article waylon. each of the items on the list touched a nerve for me.
    maybe one you missed: connection. can be craving, obsessive, lonely, desperate. can be beautiful, calm, pleasing, complete.

  15. Padma Kadag says:

    Waylon…Mindfulness is quick becoming misunderstood and articles like this one adds to the confusion. If we are strictly talking about buddhist "mindfulness". "Being present" means what? In the buddhist sense, being present means much more than our notion of being present. "MIndfulness" really is protecting your "view" which requires gaining some insight to protect and it also means understanding the idea of protection. So why is it being trivialized? You can advocate mindfulness only after you yourself are realized. I propose that our notion of mindfulness is not what is meant by those who practice vajrayana. That mindfulness begins with refuge and bodhicitta. I get the feeling that you proselytize buddhism and I am not quite sure why that is necessary.

  16. Hey, don't hate on Waylon for speaking his own truth. It seems that he's dedicated his life to helping people find the benefits of meditation for themselves. This article resonates with me as a young person who uses mindfulness as a part of a "balanced" life.

    I have always practiced EQUANIMITY with my meditation. Really, none of these things are GOOD or BAD. We are all just energy, swirling around.

    The Buddha spoke HIS truth. This is Waylon's truth. They don't have to be the same. The Buddha said, "find the truth within yourself." A real "Buddhist" would understand that 😉

    I liked this article a lot so I posted it on kevinellerton.tumblr.com, which is about integrating mindfulness into the western paradigm (to "reach beyond the choir" as Waylon puts it). Keep it up Waylon! You're doing a great job along The Path.

  17. Kevin Anderson says:

    There is no ‘my” truth. There is only truth.

  18. Padma Kadag says:

    "Mindfulness is simple recollection of the recognition of your own nature." HH Dudjom Rinpoche from "Essential Advice for Solitary Meditation Practice"

  19. […] is, opinion is dangerous…it biases all of our views of reality. So, well, meditate more, and see things as they […]

  20. Catherine Beekmans Cat B says:

    I'd say the sun is one of those things that can be enjoyed mindfully & in excess can be dangerous.

  21. samitee says:

    "If our judging is motivated by reality, instead of by preconceptions (a la climate change deniers, say, who put partisanship over science), we see reality instead of our own views reflected in our experience. As Sherlock Holmes said, it’s our job to see whatever is, no matter how unlikely, instead of creating a supposition and finding the facts to suit."

    Using the term "denier" is childish and has no place on such a fine website as this. The facts of the matter are a lot more complicated, unfortunately. There are those of us who consider ourselves environmentalists who care deeply for the planet and have a high regard and respect for science and yet we disagree with CAGW theory. Labeling people "climate change deniers" merely reveals the attacker's ignorance regarding the science and ongoing debate amongst the scientific community. There are thousands and thousands of well respected scientists who do not believe in the religion of catastrophic anthropogenic global warming theory and the corporate interests it serves. To label everyone who doesn't agree with you as a denier is sad and frankly, not very mindful at all.

    A common fallback position when losing an argument (especially a scientific one) is to assault your adversary with ad hominems which attack an opponent's motives or character rather than the position they maintain.

    In climate science specifically, there are many who use this tactic to attack serious researchers who ask probing, valid scientific questions. These attacks illustrate that they know how inadequate their science is and cannot argue from a scientific standpoint, therefore they fall back to the ad hominem and label anyone who disagrees with them as a "conspiracy nut", "denier", "kook", etc. as displayed time and time again on this website and in your articles, Waylon. It is extremely polarizing and certainly not "mindful" by any definition of the word. This tactic often works due to a deliberate campaign to exploit basic sensitivities, namely fear. Fear that the planet is boiling over, guilt about the damage done to the environment, etc. There are real, dangerous problems we face on this planet (pollution, lack of clean drinking water, lack of electricity, etc). Many of us who have spent long hours studying climate science are not convinced that carbon dioxide is a pollutant that is destroying our planet. Labeling us as deniers, rather than having open dialogue about the science is a slap in the face to the word "mindfulness." … (continued on next post)

  22. samitee says:

    People who challenge the claims of the IPCC are often labeled skeptics. Skeptics do not deny that warming has occurred, rather we question the cause of said warming. The IPCC said it was due to human production of CO2. This is the real political agenda and partisanship you speak of, not science. This is why any opposition is considered troublesome and requires silencing and ridiculule/ad hominems. Real mindfulness does not engage in sophomoric rhetoric as you've displayed here and elsewhere.

    The IPCC claim is an unproven hypothesis. Science advances via the scientific method (not computer modeling) which proposes a hypotheses that other scientists challenge in their proper role as skeptics. That is part of the scientific process. The word skeptic has a very different connotation between public and scientific realms, negative for the former and positive for the latter. Scientists act as skeptics by trying to disprove the hypothesis. Global warming skeptics are acting appropriately and for you to childishly label anyone who disagrees with a non-existent media created "consensus" is irresponsible.

    The IPCC hypothesis was untested. Professor Richard Lindzen of MIT, Dr. Timothy Ball, Dr. John Cook and many other well respected scientists agree that consensus was claimed before the research even began. The IPCC attempted to prove the hypothesis, putting them in the untenable position of eliminating, ignoring, or manipulating anything that showed the hypothesis was wrong. They had to shoot the skeptics who were the messengers of the inconsistencies, data cherry picking and other problems, just like you are doing now. This wreaks of partisanship and has no place in the scientific process. You really should do some more research on this subject because from what I have read you are severely misinformed and it's a stain on your otherwise excellent website.

    Evidence showing that the hypothesis was wrong has continued to emerge over the last decade, but the IPCC with the assistance of the majority of mainstream media simply ignored it, and continue to do so because it doesn't fit in with their global corporate takeover agenda. IPCC projections have been drastically wrong time and time again because the hypothesis was wrong from the beginning. That the skeptics were correct was verified as CO2 levels continued to rise, while global temperatures have leveled and declined. But instead of amending the science as the scientific process calls for, alarmists such as yourself simply continue to change the terminology and move the goal posts. They stopped talking about global warming and started talking about climate change. Leaked emails from the CRU for 2004 explained this clearly:

    Asher Minns, Communication and Centre Manager at the Tyndall Centre: “In my experience, global warming freezing is already a bit of a public relations problem with the media.”

    Bo Kjellén, former Chief Climate Negotiator, Sweden; senior research fellow, Stockholm Environment Institute: “I agree with Nick that climate change might be a better labeling than global warming.” (continued on next post)

  23. samitee says:

    Climate change was an ideal label because activist scientists could use it to explain any weather event. Heat, Cold, Wet, Dry, Floods, Droughts, Hurricanes, lack of hurricanes, Fires, lack of fires, tornadoes, lack of tornadoes, etc. This is not science, it's activism and you're guilty of it as well, Waylon. The public does not know that such events are normal (as all the statistics can verify), so alarmists have an endless supply of frightening examples. The public also does not know that climate change in general is normal. It has often occurred more quickly and with greater magnitude than most people are aware of and current weather conditions are well within normal.

    Those of us who have done our homework and know how much the climate changes naturally are those who were previously called global warming skeptics. We have now become climate change "deniers" with all the holocaust connotations of that word. Shame on you for engaging in such negativity and sensationalism on elephantjournal. The fallacy is that we are anything but deniers. Indeed, many of these skeptic scientists spend their careers educating people about the amount of climate change that has, and is occurring. We care about the environment just as much as you do. We care about real issues like poverty in the third world, hunger, pollution and REAL problems that deserve our collective attention. We are upset when we see hundreds of billions of dollars lining corporate pockets on a non-existent problem when real problems go unnoticed and unfunded.

    For the readers: Next time you witness personal attacks on scientists, or anyone who disagrees with popular opinion, call the attacker to answer for this despicable tactic. Ask them to address the outstanding science questions only. A simple answer of "consensus" or "the IPCC says" is insufficient. Does this author even bother to address the valid questions raised in some of his other articles that dispute some of the outlandish claims made in said articles (See wildfires are not a season, as one example, or the silly polar bear article as another)?

    One day, when someone calls a person a climate change denier, informed observers will see this as conclusive proof that the abuser knows nothing about climate or the scientific method as displayed on this website. Mindfulness? Please. Don't insult your readers.

  24. George (G-Wake) says:

    I think its very dangerous to think of substances and external comforts as ways for mindful interactions before we've had an honest look at what underlines our fears. The reality is that most of us are so deep in our attachment to our sense of self and avoiding suffering at all cost that the result is that we quickly wrap our senses with things that detach us from experience the raw nature of reality with the excuse that we are looking for higher states of consciousness. This self delusion is so poignant in our western culture that to think we can just tell ourselves to be mindful and everything is going to be perfect and no consequences will have to be paid. We have to give up all hope that we can free ourselves of this delusion by simply wishing it away. There is work to be done. Layers have to pealed. And we have to be willing to experience our raw vulnerable selves fully before we can really appreciate what temporary pleasures may come from dancing with the phenomenal world. Otherwise we are just going along with mara and endless cycle of samsara.

  25. Robin Turner says:

    Excellent article. You could add an infinite number of things to that list, but you got the big ones, I think.

  26. kim1111 says:

    Sadness: a hurting, painful, depressing, aching, dulling feeling, or an opportunity to slow down and be with ourselves, get to know ourselves, and take care of ourselves – reaffirming, understanding, acknowledging, and ultimately – growing and feeling better in a peaceful and intelligent way.

  27. Maitreya says:

    Great post! Let's also be mindful when making excuses for our indulgences. Not being a puritan here, just saying that we often make "spiritual" excuses to avoid going deeper in our personal discipline. Choosing pleasure over what is beneficial for us, is a choice that has consequences. If we are aware that we are enjoying the shadow, we just need to be aware of the consequences.

  28. george says:

    This article is basically rationalizing anything we could possibly do if only we reach out to the higher power of mindfulness.

    I don't care how mindful you are, intoxicants are not good for you. Is murder good for you if done mindfully? What about slandering others? Or littering? Based on your anger rationalization (which is also NOT good for you), you would probably say no, because those harm others.

    Ahimsa doesn't make a distinction between self and other, it simply says "non-harming." Marijuana and alcohol and anger harm you. Personally, I don't care if anyone smokes weed, drinks alcohol or even shoots up heroin (I'm radically pro-drug legalization). However, they shouldn't delude themselves into thinking "it's all good, man" just because they're 'mindful.' Even worse, they shouldn't spread false dharma.

    And if you're trying to say that mindfulness is buddhist meditation, consider that 'samma sati,' or 'right mindfulness' is what the buddha actually taught. He very clearly does not just teach bare awareness. He teaches that right mindfulness needs to be used to cultivate wholesome states of mind and eliminate unwholesome states. He also says that right mindfulness is connected to the entire eightfold path, which is about largely about breaking ties with our sensual indulgences in order that we experience a deeper truth.

    Again, I'm not trying to tell people how to live, but using a buddhist guise to suggest these things are actually good for you is a disgrace to the dharma.

  29. jellyjamland says:

    Hey Waylon, awesome piece! :)

  30. Keith Artisan LivingArtisan says:

    Life … is addictive and painful until mindfulness enters the picture. Think that covers every possible base….

  31. Valorie says:

    One of my favorite articles you have written!!! The blurbs on Judging & Prejudging and Losing our temper should definitely have some follow ups with longer thoughts. They are beautiful things to think about when we have such negative connotations to things. Confrontation is another thing we commonly associate with bad-ness, but really, sometimes it helps us to confront things, and it is not negative but clarifying and reassuring; talking to friends when we are unsettled by a relationship, or holding ourselves accountable are just a few examples of positive confrontations.

  32. Janna says:

    I very much enjoyed this. Great list. My mother always said/says 'all things in moderation' sometimes I fear too many of us are cutting too much out in an attempt to live well and good. 'All things' makes much more sense to me and you nailed it. Thank you for your words and, also, your instagrams!

  33. Adrienne says:

    I just want to say thank you. Sweet Jesus thank you so much. It’s all gonna be just fine, isn’t it?

  34. Chica says:

    I am really loving this writer!

    Sometimes I like to smoke a cigarette. I never smoke daily, or even weekly. But, if I am out with friends, and I am having a good time, or even if I am home…and relaxing with a cocktail….Sometimes…i'll take a cigarette out of the freezer & enjoy it to the fullest. I get SO MUCH shit from people about it, so I try to hide it. I honestly don't care that others are concerned about me smoking maybe….20 cigarettes a year. I enjoy it. Funny how people look down their nose at me or say things like "And you're a yoga teacher?!?" if they see me smoking, or if I admit that I do occasionally. Um HELLO! DUALITY! We live in a dual world, we cannot be %100 yogic all the time. If we could be, we wouldn't be here…lol…

    But, the reaction I get from the "yoga community" is stupid. So, instead started to be sneaky about my habits that others don't approve of…which is LAME. I shouldn't do that.

  35. R P says:

    Just a thought: The point about mindfulness and how that approach can make the same things positive or negative, healing or harmful forces is well-taken; I like the ideas here and my quibble may seem trivial: I feel like the title “Things that *are* bad for us that can be good…” is problematic when you have something like food on the list. Food can certainly be as harmful as a drug if mindfulness is totally absent. But to classify it as something that “is bad for you” is to reinforce the idea that food – something our bodies need, that in essence nourishes us – is primarily an indulgence, something to feel guilty about. There is so much baggage attached to food in our culture, and it’s tied up in body image and sinfulness, etc. that it becomes normal to talk about it in this way, but I feel like this perpetuates the problem. I realize that “Things that CAN be good or bad DEPENDING on whether you approach them mindfully” is a less catchy title, but it would change my feeling about the piece.

  36. I agree. but everything when done excessively can be dangerous . The list is endless.

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