Now that I have “me” first, I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Just like it says.
Why is it so important to marry yourself first? It’s because if you don’t have a good relationship with yourself first, most likely you will not be happy with the person you are with.
Being married to yourself simply means having a good relationship with yourself.
Acknowledging that deep voice inside of you that you sometimes hear but not necessarily acknowledge. It talks to you when you are in doubt, and something sounds right or wrong. It’s talking to you. It’s the time making sure that you are taking care of yourself and your basic needs. It protects your own interests, but sometimes you might misplace it with ego. And there is a difference.
Sometimes you might override it like you would on your keyboard resolving important tasks. But it will occasionally remind you that it is there and that you simply just have to hear it and acknowledge it.
Those are your basic needs speaking. That’s your intuition speaking. Those are your feelings speaking to you.
Do you ever get to stop and look at the mirror? But not to look for what’s wrong with you, but to look for all the right things?
Today I had that privilege to look at myself in the mirror and see all that good stuff. I said to myself, “You know what? You are such a beautiful human being inside and out. I simply can’t stop looking at you! I see what you don’t. I see that you have grown into a beautiful, mature woman and that you simply didn’t get a chance to recognize that in yourself.”
Today I simply got married—to myself. I thought how I deserve a beautiful diamond ring on my finger with three beautiful stones. The stone in the center would be slightly bigger that the other two that are next to it. And I thought of who would buy me that? The people from my past and present dates, their faces were going through my head.
Guess what? I realized that none of them could really marry me. They all would buy me a ring, but I wouldn’t want to be married to any of them. None of them have had what I am looking for.
Having a beautiful ring on my finger was supposed to pay the price of not being with who I want to be, or simply for the sake of not being alone? It’s so not worth it! How about I marry myself first?
The ring, I can’t buy. But I can imagine it on my right hand on the ring finger. I already stand taller and full of grace. It is the reminder to respect myself:
To respect the person that resides in this body and her needs, to let her voice be heard, and to let her stand tall with me.
We will acknowledge each other and be whole. She will be my guidance. We will make decisions together.
Then, when the time is right and we get to meet the “right one,” we’ll place another ring on the ring finger of my left hand. And that will be the reminder of a bound: one to “the right one” and another one to “myself.”
All the three of us will walk together proudly, gracefully, and well balanced.
Walking equally, I’m holding two hands—my hand and my “right one’s” hand.
Saacha Vitalle is a yoga teacher, dance instructor, healer, motivational speaker and writer at heart. She is currently pursuing the Certification for Health Coach with the The Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She is a lover and a rebel with an open mind and heart. You can connect with Saacha via Facebook.
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