“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ~ C.S. Lewis
I was so very proud of my daughter yesterday evening as we sat curled up and on our couch. We were settling into a night of ‘silly program watching’—something we do together when we feel our energy needs just a little ‘lightening.’
And, then it began—that god-awful buzz, buzz, buzzing of my daughter’s mobile phone text and email alerts.
Irritated, and in order to offer a bit of a ‘nudge,’ I said,
“You have so many friends. Do you know how many I have? Just, one.”
To which she replied, and without missing a beat, “And, do you know how many friends you really need, Mom? Just only one…to love.”
Yes, indeed—friendship is not measured in quantity, rather in the brilliance of that just only ‘one.’
It’s in that gentle extension of compassion and acceptance, and the sharing of that most unconditional kind of love.
And the unending offerings of trust and of hope, even when all other paths seem to fail.
But mostly, friendship is that sense of just knowing—knowing there’s no other who will care for you in much the same way.
She’s right, you know, my daughter..that is…all that we ever really need in this life, is that ‘just one’ the one that we love.
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ~ Henri J.M. Nouwen
And so, that’s what the true meaning of friendship is—as told to me by my most brilliantly beautiful daughter.
May we all find our just ‘one’ to love.
Bonus Video: The Beatles, All You Need is Love.
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Ed: Kate Bartolotta
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