32 Unusual Ways to Love Ourselves.

Via Claudia Azula Altucher
on Dec 15, 2010
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Loving ourselves is the very first principle for anything in life.  Without self-love it is difficult to love others, or to give.  Although it sounds selfish and counterintuitive self-love is the only way in which we can learn how to love another one.  Seeing what is good in us is the fundamental principle behind seeing what is good in everyone, in recognizing our own divinity, and hence others’ divinities.

Warning, this might lead to better self-esteem at worst and the realization that we are all divine beings at best.

  1. Learning to say “thank you but I think I will skip” when we do not want to do something
  2. Taking responsibility for how we feel
  3. Using only positive and glorious words when talking about ourselves
  4. Before eating asking “what is the healthiest most nutritious thing I can eat now”?, then trusting what we hear, really trusting. May be ice-cream today, might be spinach tomorrow, if we trust.
  5. Taking a media fast once in a while
  6. Taking a “me” day off, for real
  7. Praying at home, in the train, in the car, during laundry, after yoga, on the street, in the shower…
  8. Taking a long walk, with only ourselves
  9. Remembering our priorities
  10. Honoring those whom we love
  11. Using place mats and the art of conversation during meals
  12. The kitchen sink is always empty and clean
  13. Making the bed every morning
  14. Taking a Saturday afternoon for a beauty treatment (can be done at home very afford-ably, here is one idea)
  15. Writing down ten things we would like to experience in this lifetime
  16. Looking at the list often
  17. Reaching out to someone we know needs it
  18. Giving something away
  19. Speaking half the times we think we need to
  20. Organizing the closet
  21. Buying clothes only if they fit 2 criteria: 1-comfortable and 2-makes me feel fabulous
  22. Avoiding drama at all costs
  23. But 22 (above) does not mean we avoid dealing with issues we know we need to deal with
  24. Speaking up when is necessary
  25. Learning to be compassionate towards others but also and most importantly to ourselves
  26. Going to bed at around the same time every night
  27. Making sure we go to the bathroom for number 1 and 2 every day
  28. Looking at our reflection and going “Wow you are hot”
  29. Appreciating that it does not need to be perfect, it just needs to be
  30. Using our energy efficiently
  31. Sending love towards Mother Earth
  32. Playing, often.

If you liked this post see the 32 Unusual Benefits of Yoga and the Yoga Guide to Finding the Man or Woman of your Dreams



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How to Actually Love Yourself. Like, Actually. For Real.

Relephant bonus:

Image: Eva Blue/Flickr


About Claudia Azula Altucher

Claudia Azula Altucher has studied yoga for a long time. Her only focus these past eight years has been on Ashtanga through which she studied at the Ashtanga Yoga Research Institute in Mysore, India (three study visits so far), and at Centered Yoga in Thailand (focus on practice, philosophy and pranayama). Currently she studies at Pure Yoga in NYC. She has taught yoga classes in both Spanish and English. She is also the Author of: 21 Things To Know Before Starting an Ashtanga Yoga Practice (you can get a free PDF at her blog). She writes daily at ClaudiaYoga.com And you can follow her on Twitter: www.twitter.com/ClaudiaYoga


33 Responses to “32 Unusual Ways to Love Ourselves.”

  1. James says:

    I really need to print this up, frame it, and hang it on my wall.

  2. Glad you liked it James

  3. bindifry says:

    sweet 🙂

  4. OK, not sure why this keeps disappearing…. spooky… glad to see you here Bindy!

  5. YesuDas says:

    This is great, Claudia–thanks! I like the way your list includes both "soft" and "tough" love.

    When I was teaching at an evangelical Christian university, my (very) conservative office mate was convinced that the "self-esteem movement" was the root of all evil in America today. Absolutely denied the need for self-love; self-love, in his Calvinistic worldview, is the problem, not the solution. And yet, as absolutely repugnant as this notion is to me, he is a sterling fellow who is very supportive of his students and colleagues and gives of himself a lot. And I've met plenty of people like that. So I think there must be some kind of failure to communicate around this issue–as though there were some semantic impasse we are failing to bridge.

    I blogged about this a while ago myself; this is longish, but it might be of interest: http://littleteaboyseverywhere.blogspot.com/2010/

  6. YesuDas, I guess I can relate to what you say, there seems to be a misunderstanding along the lines that self love is bad, I suppose I am a victim myself sometimes, It is work NOT putting myself down occasionally and I have to come back to my list. To me is pretty fundamental that if we do not see the good in us we cannot see it in others, then again, one of those easier said than done…. thanks for the link, will check your blog…

    I really love Marianne Williamson's:

    Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

    Usually does it for me, it brings me back home, to the starting point 🙂

  7. elephantjournal says:

    You're so awesome, Claudia. Thanks for this! I'm a huge fan of your posts. ~ Angela R.

  8. Angela, thank you! I just smiled at what you said in facebook too 🙂

  9. YesuDas says:

    I love MW. That passage reminds me of when Jesus told Peter to cast the net on the other side of the boat, and suddenly, after fishing all night without catching anything, they caught so many fish that the nets were beginning to break and the boat in danger of swamping. And what did Peter say? "Go away from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man!"

  10. Hmmm… Yesu, so Peter follows Jesus' instructions and goes to the other side and suddenly (obviously!) his net is full, and then he says to Jesus "go away I am sinful", I don't get it… I would have been like: "thank you Jesus, that was awesome, I'm gonna eat so much fish now, and feed everyone around, this is cool!"!, what am I missing?

  11. YesuDas says:

    "It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us."

  12. oh, I see! … ha!, even Peter, afraid of the light….

    I am thinking of that song now, I can see clearly now the rain is gone… is gonna be a bright bright bright sun shining day…

    Thanks for that story

  13. I like #19 – I've been working on that. So often we talk to fill silence and we do not need to do that!
    What a great list to share with others. Thank you!

  14. Maureen, , I keep working on 19 too, every day, it is one of those that needs work indeed! amazingly enough it is the one that has also given me the best results along the road of daily life, so many times just by not saying anything I see problems being solved without much trying… just by being. Thanks for your comment

  15. yogiclarebear says:


  16. Thank you Yogiclearbear 🙂

  17. RFMullane says:

    I love it! Thank you for giving us a list of things we should remind ourselves of everyday…

  18. You are welcome RFMullane 🙂

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  25. Love this list…one of my all time favorite elephant blogs. Thanks Claudia!

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  27. Noemi says:

    I would like to know what kind of prayer you refer to, thank you. Anyway I love to-do-for-myself lists, even if sometimes I need not to follow any recipe. I love both. And I wonder how some “advices” are bot very personal and both very general.

  28. Honey says:

    #22 & #24 can sometimes contradict one another. One person's 'drama' may be another person's 'speaking up'.

  29. ewinsor says:

    I love this list except # 28. I reject the entire new cultural imperative to be "hot". Seriously, when did this shallow sexed-up notion of being attractive (a word from pornography that connotes speed and friction – NOT smooth well-lubriacted sensuality) become central to how we talk about our well-being. What if I don't want to be "hot", like some female prop in a sexist commercial for Axe body spray? What if I would rather be radiant, serene, joyful, elegant, sensual or striking?

    Please, can we let this over-tired and sadly lacking term go once and for all?

  30. June jones says:

    Totally agree…