10 Reasons You Shouldn’t Send Your Kids to College.

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on Mar 14, 2011
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Okay, enough is enough. In 2006, I wrote an article for The Financial Times on why I won’t send my kids to college. I’ve written, more or less, the same article for several publications including AOL, Yahoo, one of my last books (I forget which one) and the Washington Post wrote an article on my opinions on the subject.

Here is a recent article I wrote on why you shouldn’t send your kids to college.

So, it disturbs me when people cling to the notion of going to college like it’s the holiest water come down from God to bless them. Seriously, you could walk around and say, “Jesus never lived,” and people nod their heads and say, “Okay, there is religious freedom in America and what he just said is fine,” but if you say “Kids should not go to college,” its like you breached the highest, holiest, divine hymen of American religion.

One person wrote on a Yahoo message board (where the elite post their thoughts):

“The government should take his kids away.”

Please, that would be great for me. Maybe I can visit my kids on holidays inside their government compounds. I hear that inside the Department of Commerce, there are lots of jungle gyms my kids could play on. And there are 3D video games projected onto the walls of the State Department where Chelsea Clinton’s future kids will play. But until then, my kids who were taken from me by G-Force Government Agents can play the games. When Chelsea Clinton’s kids are old enough, my kids can babysit them. That would help them build their rolodex for when they later on want to work at hedge funds or the world famous U.S. Department of State.

Another person wrote:

“Mr. Altucher, who went to college, wants to now keep everyone underneath him so he can reap the benefits of their poverty.”

Yes, I admit it. I need everyone to be less educated than me so I can feel good about myself. If you didn’t go to the same school as me then its a gurantee you are less intelligent than me. As I write this I see I misspelled “guarantee” in the sentence before mine. I’m not even going to correct it. Because in the next version of the American Dictionary they will include “gurantee” and say as the definition: “See ‘guarantee’. “ Because that’s the way I roll.

Ok, those were the spurious disagreements with my article. I don’t even honor them with an official number, like many of those “list” blogs that people hate. But now I’m going to make a list blog anyway. Who cares? So once and for all, the final:

10 Reasons Parents Should Not Send Their Kids to College

1. People say: Kids learn to be socialized at college. Are you kidding me? I’m going to spend $100-200k a year so my kids can learn how to make friends with other people their age? Let me tell you about how your kids will be socialized in college and you know this to be true:

—-Your kid should put a dime in a glass jar every time he or she has sex in his first year of college. After the first year of college, he or she should take a dime out every time they have sex. They will never empty that jar. I might be exaggerating (it’s hard for me to do the math on numbers in four digits like this when I look back at my own experience). So assume that’s step #1 on the socialization of our children in college.

—–Do the same exercise above with the dimes but replace “sex” with “vomit”. That’s part #2 with the socialization.

—–You can also do the above exercise with the dimes (give your kid lots of dimes before they say, “Okay, Dad, see you LATER!” when you drop them off in the parking lot of college) but instead of “sex” or “vomit,” say “classes I will skip because of either sex or vomiting.”

2. People say: Kids learn how to think in college. This argument was said to me by Kathryn Schulz, author of “Being Wrong,” a good friend and author of an excellent book. But she knows more than anyone that no matter how much you think you “think,” you’re going to be wrong most of the time. And by the way, does it really cost several hundred thousand dollars to learn how to think?

—I would argue that college is a way to avoid learning how to think. If I want to learn how to play tennis, the best thing to do is go out on a tennis court and play tennis. If I want to learn how to drive a car, I better get behind a wheel and drive. If I want to learn how to live and how to think, then the best thing to do is begin living my life and thinking my thoughts instead of still having my parents pay for my life and my professors giving me my thoughts. See below to see how I learned how to “think”.

—In a related blog post, I will also write “ways people can learn how to think”.

3. Statistics say: College graduates make much more money than non-college graduates. Clearly anyone who states this has failed “Statistics 101” in college. We might know correlation but we don’t know cause-and-effect here. Since our generation, (post-baby boomer) basically everyone goes to college except people who absolutely failed high school, then of course it makes sense that achievement-minded people make more money than  individuals who are not achievement-oriented.

—A better statistical study, which nobody has done, is take 2000 people who got accepted to Harvard 20 years ago, and randomly force 1000 of them to not go to college. Then, at the end of 20 years to see who made more money. My guess is that the 1000 who didn’t go to Harvard would’ve made more money. They would’ve been thrown out of the nest to learn how to fly that much earlier and a five year head start would’ve made enormous difference (I say five years because thats the average amount of time it takes to finish college. Not four, as many think).

4. One person said: Not everything boils down to money. Specifically, one brilliant commenter on one of my posts said, “I’d say the overwhelming majority of people don’t go to college as a financial investment. They do it because they want to explore career options in an easy environment. They do it because there’s a particular career they want to be (unfortunately weekend hackers don’t often become doctors) They do it because they want to drink and party on the weekends. They do it because the point of life is not making money.”

—I’m going to be angry for the first time on this post, if not this entire blog since its inception. What a stupid statement that is. If it’s not a financial investment, then why has the cost of college gone up 1000% in the same amount of time its taken healthcare to go up 700% and inflation to go up 300%? It’s a financial investment because college presidents have scammed most kids into thinking they can’t get jobs without college. So they jack up the prices knowing kids will be forced to pay otherwise suffer the perceived opportunity cost of not going to college.

—Also, the commenter above says “the point of life is not making money”. I’d like to thank him for saying that. Otherwise i would’ve gone through life thinking the entire point of life was making money. I’m assuming what he really means by that statement is that it’s great for kids to read books about philosophy, literature, art, history, etc in an environment that encourages discussion among peers and experts. This is what college is truly great for.

5. My Experience. I think of myself as an educated person so let me tell you my own experience:

College itself was spent:

—Meeting and fooling around with girls for the first time in my life. I’m glad the banks loaned me enough money to do this. And fortunately, extreme failure and embarrassment in this arena didn’t effect me at all later in life.

—Learning about alcohol and the occasional recreational drug for the first time in my life.

—I took an enormous amount of classes in Computer Science. None of which helped me in my first actual non-academic job. In fact, I was so bad at computers after going to both undergrad Cornell in Computer Science and graduate school at Carnegie Mellon in Computer Science that my first non-academic job (HBO) had to send me to two months of training courses at AT&T so I could learn a thing or two about how computers were used in the real world. My first task at HBO was to get some computer they gave me “onto the Internet”. I ended up crashing the computer so bad they had to throw it out and I also wiped out everyone’s email on that computer. I thought they were going to fire me but they just banished me for two months instead. The only way to get fired at HBO, I was told, was to stand on your boss’s desk and pee on it.

—I borrowed every penny of my college education. I took courses every summer (they were cheaper and quicker then) and I took six courses a semester. I still graduated without about 30-40k in loans. It took me 10 years (and selling a business) but I paid back every penny of my loans.

—On top of my courses, I worked about 40 hours a week at jobs so I could afford my expenses. My parents did not pay one dime of my expenses except for maybe my first semester of college. And for graduate school I got a full scholarship and stipend.

The way I got educated in reading, philosophy, history, art, etc. was fully on my own time. After leaving graduate school I took relatively easy jobs as a programmer on campus. I spent hours every day reading books, and then at least another hour or two a day going to the campus library and reading criticism on the books I had just finished.

This was the entirety of my liberal arts education. And it was all for free and has served me well since then. And I was actually paid while I was doing it.

If you can’t read a book without being on a college campus and paying $100-200k a year for the honor of being there then you probably shouldn’t be reading books anyway. Or at least wait until you learn the value of a dollar before making that extreme expense.

6. Parents are scammed. If you are a parent and wish to send your kids to a college then, just to summarize, here is what you are paying for:

—Your kids are going to have sex one to five times a day with people you probably wouldn’t approve of.

—Your kids are going to drink, smoke pot, probably try LSD and other drugs before you even get home.

—Your kids are going to cheat on most of their exams. When I first started college I wanted to be a psychologist. I read every book on psychology. In Psych 101 I got a D- on my first exam, which was graded on a curve. Apparently the other 2000 kids in the class had access to older exams which were stored at all the fraternities and the professor never changed the exams. I had to ultimately drop Psych as a major. My dad said, “why do you want to major in psychology anyway. Girls won’t like you because you won’t make any money as a psychologist.” I said, “but then I’ll never know if the girls like me for money or not.” And he said, “Girls won’t like you because you have money. They’ll like you because YOU ARE THE KIND OF GUY who can make a lot of money.”

—Your kids are going to make connections with other like-minded individuals (people focused on drugs, socialism, sex 24 hours a day (not a bad thing,) people cheating on exams, and people with rich parents who will help your kids get jobs at Goldman Sachs).

—Your kids are going to think they are smarter than you almost immediately.

—While you are working 60 hours a week and borrowing money to send your kids to college, your kids will be sleeping good chunks of the day, relaxing on the weekends, and enjoying the blissful pleasures of the lazy life for another four years until the real world hits.

7.Alternatives. See my just-published post on alternatives to college

And by the way, I know my title said “10 Reasons” and I only listed “7”. I didn’t learn to count in college. But maybe you can help me fill out three more reasons in the comments. I had a great time in college. And although I worked very hard I managed to enjoy the beautiful nature around Ithaca and really appreciate being away from home. I graduated a year early so I could save on tuition. In order to graduate early I had to maintain at least a 3.0 average. Unfortunately, on the last day of classes I realized I was heading for a 2.999 and would not be able to graduate. I had to go to my Fortran (blech!) professor and beg him to upgrade me from a D+ and a C-. Fortunately, he did. And I got my degree.

Related Posts:

8 Alternatives to College

I’ve Been Completely Humiliated by Yoga (I put this in “related” because its definitely an alternative education for me at the moment)

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41 Responses to “10 Reasons You Shouldn’t Send Your Kids to College.”

  1. Claudia says:

    Having grown up in a country where College is free I was shocked to find out what the cost was here in the United States. I actually went to college in my late 20s and payed for it by myself after working 40 hours a week and then participating in the school activities for another 20 … I agree, knowing the value of money, having had to work for it made me very conscious of every class I took, I WANTED to learn…

  2. Blake says:

    I'm with you. The only reason to go to college is if you are going into a field that requires the degree. Otherwise it's a waste of time and money.

  3. Blake, I agree. Its a shame now that we are graduating a generation of indentured servants instead of creators and innovators. Student loan debt is now even higher than credit card debt and homeowner debt. What a sad thing for our youth.

  4. This helps me with my list of excuses (number to be determined) why not to save for a college education. Right now I'm on number one is, husband has been unemployed since Dec '08. He does, by the way, have a college degree and MBA. Ironic.

  5. René Cousineau says:

    James, thank you.

    Currently, the fate of my college career is up in the air ever since I withdrew from CU almost a year ago. Being at that school was the single most miserable experience of my life. I have wanted to be a writer since I was in the fourth grade, and never questioned that until I got to CU and it completely crushed my will. Not because of harsh criticisms, not because of the workload and not because I hated my teachers (because I didn't). It all came down to this disheartening fact: the only thing that I really learned from being a student of English and writing, is how little anyone even cares about literature, or any of the other arts anymore—including the kids going to school for it. In fact, especially them. When I realized that it didn't matter how great my lit analysis papers were, that I could bust my ass, get an A-, and the girl sitting behind me who didn't even read it could still get a B after bullshitting the entire thing, I knew it was time to leave.

    I was working two/three jobs at a time to get myself through school for something I love and am passionate about, for which I'll still be in debt for years even after having not finished. I was surrounded by people who were there on their daddy's dime, dicking around and majoring in English because "it's the easy major." I think parents want to believe that their kids are different, and maybe they are, but there are very few of us who actually care about the education more than the degree.

    Going to read your alternatives to college right now. Again, thank you for honestly expressing your viewpoint. I hope that more people will agree with you than you expected.

  6. jaltucher says:

    Rene, I'm honestly jealous of the options you have in front of you. Its an entirely different world than 25 years ago when i went to college (wanting to be a writer). You have the world in front of you and so many ways to make a living while you pursue your art, your spiritual path, and whatever else you want to pursue. Good luck and feel free to keep me updated.

  7. *K* says:

    haha this was great. love love love it.

    I, like renee, started as an english major at a semi-well-known and well-respected small private school in the midwest. I was the first in my family to go to college, and my parents were SO PROUD of me for going, let alone to such a "competitive" school (ha. ha. ha. my parents seriously thought private = better, and while I got a great education there, I do not think it was worth the $32K/year price tag, of course, at 17 being inundated with acceptance/scholarship letters, who is really calling the shots?).

    I quickly realized, with the help of my "advisor," that no one cares about english literature or writing and that I would likely never get a job in my preferred field (famous author, duh). my advisor suggested I switch to the business school and get a marketing degree where I "could still write and be creative" but hopefully actually get a job when I finished school.

    graduated with a marketing degree and about 100K in loans, looking at jobs paying around 25K/30K a year, that won't even allow me to make my minimum required loan payments! now, I worked 40+/week at multiple jobs when I was in college, and had a good chunk of academic scholarships, so don't think I squandered my loan money partying (although, to be fair, I did my share of partying too!) – I took the smallest amount necessary. BUT, I don't have a trust fund, and my parents are of that old farm mentality that says "when you turn 18, we are no longer responsible for you." and they weren't. end of story. from 18 onward, I paid for my rent, my car, my insurance, my food, my clothes, and my schooling! I was broke, but self-sufficient 🙂

    I decided the answer was more school, a better degree! so I got a JD, again working a lot and with several scholarships. graduated from law school with a total of $130K in student loans (both undergrad and law school), to which a third of my (not great but not horrible) monthly salary goes. I'm making it, financially, okay. I'm not rolling in cash like people seem to assume when you say you are an attorney, I have very limited savings for retirement or emergencies, and I still buy 90% of my clothes at target.

    I so much debt from school that I will be paying it off until I am well into my forties and fifties. meanwhile, my boyfriend didn't go to college. he still partied and socialized and had a great time in his twenties, like I did at college, and he still has a decent job. he is currently paying his way through community college (in cash, no loans) to get an associates in web design, after which his current company has basically promised him a sizeable raise and promotion.

    I would venture to guess that after my debt payments, we are close in what we bring home in monthly income. yes, some would argue I have higher earning potential, but how much higher, and at what cost? I literally HAVE to continue practicing law to even have a realistic chance of making those loan payments. he can walk away from his current job at any moment, risk-free, to travel the world, change to a more creative field, work part time, have a baby (ha, the irony), start his own business, etc. etc. how much is your personal/financial/vocational freedom really worth? I see him going far with his skills and limited post-high-school education, with NO DEBT, and I wonder who really made the better choice…

  8. jogriffithyoga says:

    I have been thinking a lot about this. I am very happy I went to college and what I learned there (majored in clarinet performance at a well respect conservatory and anthropology), but this has little to do with my professional life now. I choose a school that I had scholarships to and so had no debt, and am unsure if I would do the same majors in the current climate if it would mean high student loans. Now I am thinking about going back to school for physics, but physics is one of those majors that while you could learn outside of school, the degrees mean something in the job market. Lots to think about.

  9. Sav says:

    I sent myself to a Big 10 school. Now I'm 100,000 in debt and I wish my parents would have helped me. Even a 60,000 a year job can barely keep up on my 600 a month payments. 600 a month for 20 years, might I add.

  10. jaltucher says:

    Sav, I hear ya. And its hard to take a leap to start a company which may, or may not, generate the money you need to pay down that debt. And 100k is nothing compared to the debt some kids are graduating with. I still don't understand why this isn't a national discussion the way healthcare was last year.

  11. TripleB says:

    Nice post. There are a lot of interesting things happening online – are you familiar with:

    See I don't really think HBS is going to teach a concept like Discounted Cash Flow any differently or any better than anywhere else. A really focused, diligent person could determine on their own what skills they need to have, and apply themselves in learning and mastering those concepts.

  12. Damn James, forget sending my kids to college … can I go instead? 🙂

    I have to agree with your posts and thoughts here James, I grew up in the world that told me I had to go to college. $40k in debt later, I don't do anything related to my schooling and could have done it without spending a penny. I can't do it over but I can help my kids by teaching them what you know to be true in this post.

  13. Goodieb says:

    As a result of undergraduate and graduate expenses I was seriously in debt. So my 'education' may have increased my earning potential, but I was so in need of a way to pay for it, that my actual quality of life suffered. When you need money to pay your bills, you will take pretty much any job. So does formal education make you more successful. Not really.

  14. Lexa says:

    I went to college because thats what people do apparently. I got a dual degree in four years and worked the whole time. I dont remember a damn thing. All i remember was realizing i didnt have to go to bartending school because i drank so much i knew what was in everything already. I was busy, but i did a whole lot of screwing around and it was awesome and it really just delayed the whole issue of going to work every day from 8-5. I would tell people you have to go to college because it IS a big party. It IS a lot of running around being a jerk. I am so glad i did it because it relaxed me a bit. I got all of the nonsense out so i can act like a normal person now.

  15. jaltucher says:

    I agree TripleB. Stuff like the khan academy are going to keep popping up. I'd rather my kids get a college education from that and then go out and experience life and meet people outside their age and socio-demographic group.

  16. jaltucher says:

    Chris, yessir! I wish I could go back and do it again. Why the hell did we all act like we had a gun to our heads when we went to college?

  17. jaltucher says:

    Lexa, it was a big party. I majored in Computer Science. Then went to grad school for computers. Then had a job for four years programming on campus. THEN got a job in the " real world" as a, of course, computer programmer.

    Guess what? they had to send me practically to rehab computer courses so i could learn the BASICS of programming. Thats after I had just spent the past 8 years studying it. What the heck!?

  18. Brandi says:

    Aww I loved going to school. My dad worked at the university I went to, so I got to go for very cheap, and my parents paid for all of it. I am working in the field I graduated from (I'm currently a behavioral therapist for kids with autism, and my B.A. is in psychology). And in fact, I'm considering more education to do what I really want, which is being a private practice therapist. When I went to school, I did not party, I soaked up every bit of education that anyone wanted to give me. I minored in philosophy and met some amazing professors that encouraged free thinking. I also had the opportunity to study abroad in Greece and Turkey, for the same price as my semester tuition at the university. The education I got there was priceless. Anyways, I guess everyone's experience is different right? I respect the right of anyone to go, or not go to college. When I have children, I will encourage them to follow their passions. If they want to be doctors, or teachers, or psychologists, or social workers, they had better go to school. If they don't want to go to school, that's okay too. Choices are beautiful.

  19. jaltucher says:

    @Brandi, its great when your dad works there so you can go for cheap and free. thats the only way i recommend it although I still think a gap year at least would be useful for most people. But it sounds like you made the best out of a good situation.

  20. AlpineLily says:

    @Author- maybe YOU cheated on college exams but I never did! So don't apply your ignorant blanket statements to every person who attended college! You also totally blow off the large group of students who are working their way through school and not just blowing their parents money, which again, is a big slap in the face for those of us to took college seriously. Don't get me wrong, I partied very hard and took advantage of all the fun college can offer, but not every student is a cheating slacker!

  21. jaltucher says:

    @Alpine, thanks for your comment. You use a lot of exclamation points. I maybe should've mentioned (I believe I did in one of the links) that i graduated early to avoid getting into more debt (which meant 6 classes a semester plus 2 courses a summer) and I had to work about 30-40 hrs a week to pay my living expenses. I then was in massive debt (I paid for every semester of college but one). I much prefer a world now where our youth are allowed to create and innovate and not graduate with overwhelming debt. I'm glad your experience was different.

  22. jaltucher says:

    @Helen, thanks. I'm mostly basing them on this one fact: student loan debt is now higher than credit card debt and home loan debt in this country. What a travesty that this country, which tries to keep itself as "the best" is now graduating a generation of indentured servants rather than the next generation of entrepreneurs, employers, and inventors.

  23. 13thfloorelevators says:

    This is spot on. Some people do very well without a college education, but most people who do not go to college will be lucky to get a job at a grocery store or as a barista. Their life goals will consist of becoming a manager. This article is nothing more than middle class delusion.

  24. 13thfloorelevators says:

    It's unclear why you feel obliged to generalize about what "everyone" cares about based on your limited experience at a shitty state school.

  25. your mom says:

    Uh, ok, but there is no doubt you did not attend a top 14 law school. If you had, you would either be working at a decent firm by now, thus paying off your loans rather quickly if you prefer, or taking advantage of a LRAP, and your school would be paying them off for you.

  26. your mom says:

    Your kids will be working at Safeway, you dipshit.

  27. your mom says:

    This amounts to generalities drawn from a string of poor choices. College is a tool. If you are too stupid to figure out how to use it, it's nobody's fault but your own.

  28. jaltucher says:

    she might be my mom actually

  29. jaltucher says:

    the sad thing is the loans are only getting bigger because the college presidents think they have a gun to the had of the students. its really a travesty and nobody is discussing it.

  30. jaltucher says:

    The one issue is: student loan debt is higher than credit card debt and home loan debt in this country. Thats not a laughing matter. College costs have even skyrocketed past healthcare costs (in terms of rate of inflation of those costs). Thats not a laughing matter either. America is going downhill because eveyrone who graduates, regardless of whether they are from the ghetto or greenwich, is graduating with so much debt they cant be creators or innocators. Thats not a laughing matter. Its sad and its causing our youth to graduate with mindless fear.

  31. jaltucher says:

    Sorry this make you so angry. The problem with "college is a tool" is that the cost of that tool has gone up faster than the costs of healthcare, food, energy, and just about everything else in this country over the past 30 years. And there's better tools now that are cheaper and better to get an education (the Internet) and there are many more options open for entrepreneurship, jobs, etc. Lets find the right tools and use them for the right purposes instead of using one tool to do everything.

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  39. Cynthia Long says:

    Congratulations on a very brave article. I would take the idea further though – college or no college is not the core of the issue but rather the nature of our political, religious, cultural and educational belief systems that funnel our children into a rigid paradigm that destroys creativity and independent thought. Our world is set up to create followers, not leaders, artists, rebels and activists.. the ones who really make change and lead fulfilling lives. This is why you find the world's wealthiest individuals are rarely traditionally educated, why the world's greatest artists are so often "drop-outs" or self-taught. Sometimes you need to play the game, to be a part of the system to change it, but most often you don't. I gave my kids the choice to attend school or not from kindergarten on up. Mostly they chose not to. I now have one son starting at an amazing arts college on scholarship because he wants to be there, and he's always made his own choices about his social behaviour, so he certainly doesn't need college as an excuse to drink. One day we will learn to trust our kids, and perhaps even trust ourselves, to be who we really are, and we can all stop pretending. Until then, most colleges will continue to churn out converts of our corrupt legal, medical, financial and business systems, and many of them will spend their lives shut in little cubicles in front of a computer, paying off mortgages, car loans, student loans, and then their divorce lawyers fees, until it all starts all over again with today's children paying for their own children's mind-numbing college educations. It's a deeply flawed, antiquated system, and one day it's going to come down.

  40. DiAna says:

    How many brilliant minds are not given the opportunity to contribute to the world because they simply can't afford to go to college?
    Of course there are always student loans. Loans that carry interest rates the equivalent of highway robbery. Loans that keep us indentured slaves as we continue to buy into the illusion that a college degree, a house with a white picket fence in the suburbs and driving cars we can't afford are what makes us happy. Loans that feed Big Banks and Wall Street as we continue to watch our collective quality of life in the U.S. circle the drain.
    I dream of a paradigm shift happening. One that provides access to affordable higher education for all people, not just the well off and well connected.

  41. laydipahukumaa says:

    College is a choice and if your child wants to go then you should do EVERYTHING in your power to send them. If you can't afford it, no problem. Teach them about scholarships and other options. If they don't want to go, then don't push them. It's not for everyone.

    I personally have transformed into the person I always wanted to be. I came from a small town. Grew up in poverty. I received half of my tuition in grants and received scholarships. I NEVER would have been able to accomplish what I have as a human being if it weren't for my college experience.

    Help your child find the right school for them. There are alternative schools that aren't as structured and allow space for people to grow and be themselves. I went to The Evergreen State College which doesn't use a grading method but rather gives you credit and each program you take, the professors write out a full account of what you did. The learning is integrated as well rather than disembodied knowledge. A student is even allowed to create an "independent learning contract" which means they write a vague description of what they would like to work on, on their own, under the guidance of a sponsor (usually a professor.).

    Yes it is expensive, but there are some ways around that.

    Sidenote: I have only had three partners my whole life (I'm 22 and a senior) so did not sleep with strangers. Several people did but that's why you teach them to be safe. I can't say I've never participated in any form of drugs but again, teach them to be safe or find someone who can. Several schools try to teach kids how to engage in drugs in a safer manner these days. My high school taught me not to think, while my college really opened me up to critical thinking and integration.

    My point is, people are very different and schools are very different. Everyone should really consider what they want to do with their lives and if they're good at the subject they're pursuing. They should visit the schools they're considering and learn about ways to lower the costs of school.

    If you want to go to school then do it. You can find a way. And you'll find a way to lower your debt. Make the best out of it. It's all about perspective.