August 18, 2011

The Urge to Purge. Feng Shui Advice.


Via Daily Transformations

We’ve all had glimpses of this on the first warm spring day when we throw our windows open and look around our homes suddenly noticing the winter clutter that’s accumulated over the cold months.  But what about the constant clutter that creeps up on us during the daily ins and outs of life?

Not a clutterholic?  I’m still betting that you’ve got your share of excess so stay with me and let me know what you think when you’re done reading.

Clutter is not only bad for your health, but it blocks your prosperity.  There’s literally no room for new energy. I can almost guarantee that if my client is overweight or having money troubles, there is a source of clutter and excess in their life.

The first thing I share with my feng shui clients is to go through every room and fill a bag.  Yes~a whole bag and give, sell or recycle its contents.

Clutter and holding on to things is a big fat sign to the universe that you don’t believe you’ll have the resources to replace or buy it when you need it.  Holding on “just in case” sends a strong signal of poverty consciousness.  Someone out there can use what you’re not using and might really need it.  Trusting that when you realize you must have widget A to use with widget B; you’ll be able to buy it sends a signal of trust.  Holding on to your “just in case” items that you haven’t used in years sends a signal of fear.

Excess items block the energy from flowing in your home.  Ever wonder why you feel so relaxed on vacation or at a spa?  The rooms are sparse and functional.

Let’s start with your bedroom:

Go through all of your drawers and closet.  If you haven’t worn something in 2 years, you’re never going to wear it.  I promise.  If you haven’t loved it enough to find a match or accessory to make it work, you don’t love it enough to keep it.    Studies have shown that we all wear the same 11 outfits week after week anyways.  Less is truly, the new more.  When we have less, we tend to mix and match and get creative.  If you stand in your closet not sure what to wear in the morning, it’s a sign that you have too much.

Sheets and Bed:  If you’re like most people, you’ve replaced sheets but not thrown the old ones away.  If you’re having trouble letting go, think of homeless people that don’t have any, and then drop them off at a local donation site.  Blankets?  Same thought process.  I recently noticed I had 3 down comforters and I’m not a pack rat.  One of those is being donated this week.  Sure it was expensive, but I’m not using it and the idea of someone out there being cold at night gives me the strength to say goodbye.

There should be nothing under your bed, period.  Shoes stored under there? Get a behind the door rack. The energy needs to flow so you can get a good night’s sleep.

Now the bath:  How many half used jars and bottles do you have under that sink and in your closets?  I get a cheap thrill out of using the last of something before allowing myself to buy another.  Make up?  Do we really need all of it?  Same rule as your clothing.  If you haven’t used it, lose it.  Towels have the same rule as sheets.  Get rid of the old ones when you buy the new ones.  Go through your medicine cabinet and throw out expired products and your “just in case” items.  Remember to trust that if you need some medicine, you’re going to be able to afford it rather than keep expired products that could be dangerous.

Your office: Consider having 6 pens and no more.  Buying pens and paper can be a habit like any other.  Go through your piles of paper and either file them, transfer the data somewhere else, or recycle them.  Business cards accumulating?  Spend a rainy sunday afternoon and transfer the data and then throw them away!  Go through your books and donate the ones you’ll never read again.  Some reference books and books that you love to read over and over should be kept.  But let’s face it; you don’t need to keep your Office 04 for Dummies when it’s 2011.  I actually found a farmer’s almanac from 1994 the other day.

Your kitchen:  Like the bath, the kitchen can be a place where half empty bottles collect as we buy new items.  Go through you refrigerator and get rid of the duplicate bottles of condiments.  I’m notorious for letting herbal remedy bottles collect.  Old dishes that aren’t sentimental but are beat up and chipped?  Donate them.  You’ll be surprise by how good you feel when you toss all of those plastic cups and mismatched coffee cups.    Tupperware cabinet?  You know what to do~

Now my thoughts on gifts and sentimental items:  If someone gives you a gift, it is yours to do what you want with it.  If you don’t love it, keep the memory of the person but donate the gift to someone that might love it.  Things you don’t love in your home and your closet wear down your energy.  Keeping your children’s toys well past the time they’re grown doesn’t make you closer to them.  Much better to give those toys and clothes away to families in need and enjoy the time you’d spend walking around those boxes and creating room in your garage or basement playing with your kiddos instead.

Trust me.  Clutter weighs you down whether you realize it or not.  Grab a friend or a coach to give you courage and go for it.  Once you start, you’ll be hooked on the feelings of freedom that come, and I promise, those feelings are worth it!



~photo credits.  Toilet by glogster.com.  Closet by apartmenttherapy.com.  Bed by simplybeds.com.  Bath by homeandfurniture.com.  Clutter by whoiseleni.com.  Bag by theofficedealer.com

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skerplatd Jan 18, 2019 7:14am

I liked seeing this article again. Lovely inspiration and something to do on a hold winter day.

Melissa Jan 10, 2019 12:02pm

Thank you for such amazing and helpful advise on each room…I never usex to be a keep things just in case person yet over the years I have realized my spark dimming my energy fading and my house becoming more and more cluster filled with each child we have. Gifts and clothes and messes…I have become exhausted keeping up with everyone’s stuff and they cry when I attempt to clear it out. I feel so sufficated and stuck and anxious and overwhelmed. I plan to clear out excess and then nevwr get around to fully clearing out all I want to due to mamaw alwats bringing them home shortly after taking them and they see some stuff and tear it out or when I do get rid of a lot their mamaw brings more stuff in even after I’ve asked her not to, them told her not to! It’s very frustrating…disrespectful and rude. My spouse has a hard time letting things go because he was raised moving a lot and most times it was a grab you clothes and leave the rest behind, leaving things he loved had an impact that caused a small keep this and this thing even if not used. But he isn’t a hoarder or packrat by far. Any advice on how to help him and my children release this negative energy holding habit? You’re very knowledgeable about Feng Shi from what I can tell and I would love to hear from you! Thank you for such great advise!

jadecoqui Jan 10, 2019 9:13am

This will allow joyful living in the home. Love this article. I have some clutter to get rid of.

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