1 Step to Change Your Communication Forever.

Via Tamara Star
on Nov 27, 2011
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How can this particular 4 letter example pack so much punch?

Whether it’s a religious text, spiritual advice book, motivational seminar, or educational tool; all teach the same lesson: The power of the words we choose have a major effect on our lives.

Combine our words, our partner’s words and the history of a relationship and we’ve got one slippery slope of communication to navigate. Often it’s not even current words that have us tangled up and in conflict, it’s past words and arguments that never cleared and never went away that continue to tie us up and strap us to yesterday.

Science has proven that words, music and intention have a profound affect on water. The actual structure of a water molecule is changed in the presence of different words and phrases. Here is a fascinating short video on this subject:

What’s most interesting to note is the human body’s made up of 86% water at birth, and over 63% as an adult. If words really do affect water, then we’re not only emotionally affected by words, but physically affected as well.


Years ago I read “The Secret Life of Plants” which is about the effects of our thoughts and words on plants and animals even when we’re not directly in their presence. Both plants and animals were subjected to positive and negative thoughts at a distance and measured throughout the process. What struck me the most from that book was the realization that we too are made up of those same plant and animal materials that were affected by words and thoughts.

Words not only affect us deeply, but can create wounds and take root. Even going through the process of apologizing and seeking to understand what happened from words of the past, can hold tremendous weight on our emotional state in the present.

Sloppy fighting and communication with another person can throw words that hurt into our hearts, our emotional bodies and worst of all, our cellular make up.

Consider even the words you run on that never-ending tape in your own mind; frightening isn’t it?

So why do it?

We know when we’re about to hurt the ones we love or even ourselves, and yet we still do it; even though we know the emotional impact of our words, we say them anyways. Why do we let our anger and our fear override logic and create damage that will last far longer than the argument or situation at hand?

Because it’s a lazy habit based on not stopping to think about the outcome we desire. Happy relationships, long-term clients, job security, continued respect, solid friendships? All are outcomes that can be forever changed by an emotional response.

Trying to find the solvent that will dissolve the aftermath of sloppy words is something that couples, co workers, family members and communities struggle with around the world. Words start wars, bring people together, and break lovers apart.

Breaking the habit of swinging the large “word sword” is something we must commit to if we want peace in our lives.

Taking a breath, considering what outcome we truly desire and breaking the urge to respond from emotion is a habit worth forming.

Have you ever noticed the word nestled in the word s w o r d? Coincidence? I don’t think so.

Taking a breath, considering what you truly want in the end and breaking the cycle of reaction forces your hand in putting down that sword and having the future you truly desire. Ask yourself: What do I truly want from this relationship or situation? Keeping that desire in constant focus is your ticket to freedom.


Photos from freedigitalphotos.net. Gold sword from farconville, silver sword from vudhikrai


About Tamara Star

Tamara Star believes happiness is not an end destination, but instead the ability to see the ordinary through eyes of wonder. Want her free tips and tricks for health, happiness and love? Click here. Receive her free 3 video series for clearing the slate for more love & happiness. Click here. She's an international best-selling author and the creator of the original 40-day Personal reboot program for women--a 6 week virtual deep dive into clearing the slate on what's blocking you. Registration is open NOW here. Tamara's global reach inspires women around the world through her programs, newsletters, and teachings. She's been featured on SiriusXM radio, Good Morning America, former Oprah producer LeGrande Green's GetBOLD radio, Dr. Brenda Wade's GoodLove Radio, Daybreak USA and News Australia. Connect with Tamara on her websiteFacebook or Twitter. Tamara's work had been translated into 6 languages and featured on The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, Positively Positive, Yahoo News, The News.com Australia, The Good Men Project, and Yoga Anonymous.


7 Responses to “1 Step to Change Your Communication Forever.”

  1. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Great post.

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  2. Joe Sparks says:

    Excellent post! We do not have human beings with inherent conflicts which they must learn to live with: we have consistent human beings warped into apparent self-conflict by acquired distress patterns which act contrary to their inherent rational nature. We do not have bad people: we have good people acting bad when they are short-circuited by the emotional scar tissue which has been loaded on them by the environment. We do not have people who purposely do wrong: we have non-survival behavior enforced upon innocent humans by the unhealed residue of damages done to them. We do not have mean, destructive,vicious humans; we have kind, constructive,loving humans compelled to mean, destructive,vicious behavior by unhealed distress of which they are the first victims.

  3. Joe Sparks says:

    We are not surrounded by un-understandable creatures, forever beyond effective contact; we are among people just as good as ourselves who can be understood easily where they are rational and whose distresses can be understood and gotten rid of where they are irrational. We do not have a warped species of creatures who are inherently bent on mutual destruction; we have a divinely gifted species who create art, music, science, and beauty and make no negative moves except when " turned off" and acting as puppets whose strings are pulled by old scars of hurts, either of their wown, or ones that have become congealed in a rigid social structure and culture.

  4. Tamara says:

    Well said Joe. Thank you for posting.

  5. Tamara says:

    Thank you Tanya. I appreciate that!

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