Love Like an Outlaw.

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Jan 1, 2012
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“Love is the ultimate outlaw.

It just won’t adhere to any rules.

The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice.

Instead of vowing to honor and obey,

maybe we should swear to aid and abet.


That would mean that security is out of the question.

The words “make” and “stay” become inappropriate.

My love for you has no strings attached.

I love you for free.”

~ Tom Robbins, Still Life With Woodpecker


Outlaw love doesn’t know the rules. Sometimes it’s yes, and sometimes no. But never maybe. Never game playing or wishy-washy answers.  It doesn’t beg. It doesn’t whine. There’s no sleepwalking allowed here.

Outlaw love is bareback, riding down the mountainside and letting go of the reins.

You know this outlaw. It’s in you. It’s somewhere between the lump in your throat and that spot that tightens in your chest when you get scared. It has no regard for calendars or clocks or time zones. There’s no reasoning with an outlaw. No bribes, no threats work here, it’s already been broken 50 times. It’s not about what you’re getting. Not at all. It’s only what you give, willingly, without hesitation.

Outlaw love sometimes says, “I don’t know how the hell to do this, but I’m doing it anyway.” It says, “I love you” and means it, and doesn’t worry if you’ll say it back. It sometimes doesn’t even say a word. It doesn’t have to. It’s there, in the stillness, between your breaths—always.

You can’t keep an outlaw locked up;

this must be given.

For all of those you love:

take no prisoners.

Love them like an outlaw.


About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is a wellness cheerleader, yogini storyteller, and self-care maven. She also writes for Huffington Post, Yoga International, Mantra Yoga+ Health, a beauty full mind, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. Kate's books are now available on and Barnes & She is passionate about helping people fall in love with their lives. You can connect with Kate on Facebook and Instagram.


24 Responses to “Love Like an Outlaw.”

  1. ARCreated says:

    do not entice me to take the time to reread this brilliant work 🙂 love this post!

  2. 🙂 Thanks! I was re-reading Still Life after I made that book list post…so good!

  3. Andréa Balt says:

    You know I enjoy pretty much everything you post. But every now and then, I absolutely fall in [outlaw] love with your words. This is one of those days.

  4. Daiva says:

    beautiful! thank u

  5. Thanks, lovely! Giddyap!

  6. Deborah Davis says:

    I agree WHOLEheartedly! And, oddly enough, just posted something similar on two other sites! Love LOVE how you present it.

    (and… a heads-up…. “bareback” means something else too, related to specific “love acts” that entails risky behavior)

  7. Thanks Deborah! (And yes…I'm aware of the other bareback connotation…gave me pause, but I figured in this case I wanted to keep the analogy anyway. They don't make condoms for hearts…best to be bareback & throw yourself into it.)

  8. Emily Seipel says:

    Tom Robbins is right about everything (though I'm more of a "Cowgirls" gal myself) .And you're pretty spot on too, Kate . Thanks for a great post.

  9. I needed that reconfirmation! Thank you Kate. LOVE this: "Outlaw love is bareback, riding down the mountainside and letting go of the reins." That's me! The trick is to find someone who won't fall off when it turns into a bucking bronco! 😉

  10. Ah, well…that's why every good outlaw knows that sometimes the most loving thing is to say goodbye and ride on. xo

  11. "Cowgirls" is awesome. Anything Tom Robbins is amazing, actually! Thanks Emily!

  12. jaze0752 says:

    OMG….this totally defines me!! Now I know!! Thank you so much for sharing this!!!!!

  13. you have no idea how appropriate your posts have been for me the past few weeks Kate!

  14. This is beautiful, Kate. And very freeing. Thanks for these words!

  15. Eric says:

    Spot-on. Esp. the final paragraph.

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