April 4, 2012

How to Care for Introverts (in 12 easy steps).

(Via Tumblr)

“I’m an introvert… I love being by myself, love being outdoors, love taking a long walk with my dogs and looking at the trees, flowers, the sky…” 

~ Audrey Hepburn

I say this often but I’m pretty sure I was a cat in a previous life. If I believed in reincarnation, I’d be purring right now.

You know how there are only two kinds of people in this world: dog people and cat people. And, well, other people too. Not just people who like cats (or dogs) but people who are cats (or dogs).

People who need to be alone often, who are jealous of their space and privacy, who purr unexpectedly or stop purring for no apparent reason (who knows, maybe they just spotted a mouse); who never come when you call them but expect you to answer immediately when they call you. Who cry often, but nobody knows.

On the wiser side of town, they look like they’ve learned to become friends with their solitude.

I could raise my hand here and say “me, me”, but the older I get, the less black & white I see the world, but more like a faded sepia. Sometimes I dance with strangers on the street and others, I’m bothered by my own shadow.

Who sent you, Person in the Mirror? Is this god’s way of spying on me? ‘Cause I’m an atheist today.

(Screenshot Amélie via YouTube)

Overall though, I think there’s a cat in each one of us as much as there’s a dog. Only that in some, the meows are louder than the barks or vice versa.

So, just for the sake of non-violent communication with Self and others, I sometimes have to hand out this little map to my/your introverted heart and hope somebody out there can read maps.

“In an extroverted society, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that an introvert is often unconsciously deemed guilty until proven innocent.”

~ Criss Jami

(Via Questionably Late Tumblr)

{Based on Linda Kreger Silverman’s On Introversion.}

An introvert’s kind of life and sort of love: you, me & Amélie.


*Bonus – The Introvert’s Song of the Day.


I’m curious, do you consider yourself more of a cat or a dog? And what do you like or not so much about your cat/dog self?


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Ken Sears Aug 21, 2015 8:22am

I had the same experience as Shane reading this. In the usual sense of "cat person" I'm 100% NOT! I love dogs, not cats…but can't be around either due to allergies. But in the odd sense you are injecting into "cat person", i.e., what one "is", not which animal one likes, I have to admit that I am likely all "cat ". Oh yes, the more I think about it…very much so. Never thought about it like that before. Thanks for the offbeat angle. I always enjoy those.

debaumer Feb 22, 2015 8:43pm

I think that, esp. in Western society, we need to teach the difference between extroverts and introverts to parents and teachers and explain that children are ok, just as they are. You can truly screw up a child trying to change her from an introvert into an extrovert, as so many do. I've been a cat all my life, but have had the dog dragged out of me, clawing and growling, ever since I can remember. I bite now, on occasion. :p

beth Feb 22, 2015 10:25am

#13 actually care, listen and actually hear.

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