Your Ugly “V” Is Normal & Gorgeous. (Adult)

Via Tanya Lee Markul
on May 23, 2012
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Update: Labiaplasty – The Australian Classification Board decides what vaginas must look like in soft porn. If a vagina has excess tissue it may be labelled as “offensive”, so porn companies must digitally edit or remove parts of the labia, leading to only one type of vagina see in porn magazines:

Meanwhile, politicians are ignoring real problems.
 
This is insane. “Remember, Australia also classifies women in porn whose breasts are too small as possible child porn and it’s banned. So no A cups.”

LABIAPLASTY HUNGRY BEAST: EP 14 from HUNGRY BEAST on Vimeo.

Update: Of Vulvas and Vaginas. ~ Debra DeAngelo {Adult}

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You don’t like your bits and twinkles?

Have you seen the documentary film, The Perfect Vagina? It’s certainly not for the faint of heart. I sat through the entire thing feeling squeamish, legs crossed tight, one hand over my eyes and a little curious about the look of my own undercarriage. Why all the tension and peculiar interest? The film is about vaginal cosmetic surgery, and according to this film, it’s growing in popularity.

So what is it about the vagina that’s causing a ruckus? Ladies and gentlemen, meet the labia minora.

Photo credit: Wikipedia

According to Wikipedia: The labia minora (singular: labium minus), also known as the inner labia, inner lips, or nymphae, are two flaps of skin on either side of the human vaginal opening, situated between the labia majora (outer labia, or outer lips). Inner lips vary widely in size, colour, and shape from woman to woman.

Labiaplasty (930,000 Google search results), also known as vaginal rejuvenation, labia minora contouring, labial reshaping, female genital surgery or labial reduction, is the surgical procedure of reducing the length of the inner labia or inner flaps. (I have also learned of a  procedure called vaginoplasty that tightens the vagina and muscles surrounding it.)

There is one profound question one cannot help but to ask: Why? 

As if we need another item on our already massive list of things to stress over, or another body part to obsess about. Why is it now a big deal if our inner flappage is a bit longer than the outer bits?

According to the film, women who want this surgery are seeking a more ‘youthful’ appearance and/or want to balance out the appearance of their labia minora with the surrounding tissue. Some women have claimed to be embarrassed of the length of their labia minora. Some say they’ve been ridiculed or teased by family members or partners. Others claim the length has caused them to have problems doing certain activities or from wearing certain clothing articles. Others say that it has caused (psychological) difficulties in the bedroom.

The influence/pressure for wanting a more ‘balanced and youthful’ appearance is said to come from the aesthetic vah-jay-jays featured in pornographic magazines and films or the skilful yet deceitful technique known as beauty magazine airbrushing. Some also blame plastic surgeons for developing such a procedure and the women who have the money to pay for it (the average cost ranges between 5,000-10,000 USD).

Photo credit: Flickr Commons

I also can’t help but to ponder, when did waxing and shaving become a part of our beauty routine? According to sex researcher Dr. Debra Herbenick, young women’s pubic hair has been steadily disappearing over the past decade and that younger women tend to shave it off while older women choose to wax. What happened to good old-fashioned ‘maintenance’ where we left a bit of the forest intact? Trees do look naked without leaves. Is a bit of pubic hair just not sexy anymore?

Anyways, I tried to find some statistics about large labia minora cases (also known as labia hypertrophy) and unsurprisingly could not find any solid numbers. In all honesty, I’m sure this number is huge.

But, just because your labia minora peaks out from your labia majora, does it really mean you have a problem? According to the documentary the typical size of the labia minora ranges from two to ten centimetres (0.8 to 3.9 inches). Supporting this range, a study by the Department of Gynaeology in the UK in 2004 shared the length of the labia minor of women between ages 18-50 to be 0.78 to 3.9 inches.

The fact of the matter is, the labia minora comes in varying symmetry, sizes and colours and are influenced by things such as genetics, childbirth, hormones and age.

What are the risks of the surgery?

I’ve read that some of the risks can include temporary numbness, bleeding, pigmentation changes, pain, decreased feeling in that area, asymmetry between the inner and outer labia, excess scar tissue buildup (that can appear as lumps), hematoma (broken blood vessels or blood clot), puckering of the skin and sexual dysfunction. It is also important to note that there has not been any substantial findings or research as to the long-term consequences of such a surgery.

If you really love me, don’t you also love my dangles and bobs?   

What exactly is the idea of the perfect vagina anyway? Not too tight? Not too baggy? Or in the words of this film “hairless, neat, pink and tucked-in”? If you ask me, the perfect vagina is a myth.

Photo credit: Wikipedia (A variation of female pubic hair  on a mature female.)

I asked ten random guys ages 25-35, if they thought the size of the labia minora matters. Here are their responses:

1. “It does not matter. What’s important to me are a woman’s curves.”

2. “I don’t think this matters. I don’t think men are that fussy.”

3. “For me it doesn’t matter at all. I actually think it’s quite sexy if you can see them.”

4. “I think it’s a total misunderstanding that any female would get this surgery. I think it’s a total minority of guys that would wish this for a woman. This part of the body is like the ears, it’s a part you cannot judge by prettiness and it doesn’t make sense to me to alter it. This type of surgery, if done just for looks, is a waste of money. Genetically we are coded to be turned on by a woman’s vagina pretty much however it looks.”

5. “All labia minora are created equal.”

6. “I for one, don’t care at all.”

7. “I’d much prefer that she is comfortable with herself versus being neurotically insecure enough to get surgery.”

8. “I don’t think vaginas were meant to look ‘pretty’.”

9. “Couldn’t give a damn.”

10. “I’m sure a guy is just happy to be there.”

There we have it.

Perhaps we should stop reading/watching so much porn, stop perusing beauty magazines and comparing our vaginas. We could also save ourselves a lot of pain and/or money by bringing pubic hair back. 🙂

Making love, looking good, feeling great about who you are doesn’t involve being what someone else thinks you ‘should’ be. Of course it’s a person’s own choice to have this type of surgery or not, but no matter what, a little more self-love couldn’t hurt. It’s not always easy, but a little bit goes a hell of a long way.

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About Tanya Lee Markul

Luring the magic of what is natural back into our daily lives, Tanya Markul is a freer of creativity, of inner beauty + power, and an enthusiastic igniter of the wild spirit! She re-writing the wild flower sutras, and offers a refreshing & badass view on spirituality, wellness & authentic living. Sensitivity is her tree trunk, flower stem, and nucleus. It is her belly, and her heart. Tanya is an artist of life, a faery of trees, a wanderer of the dark, a writer of heart, a misfit yogini, and an Urban Priestess apprentice. She believes in the power of your personal weird, quirky, magic, and that only path toward inner freedom & light, is through the dark — eyes closed, heart open. Tanya is the creator of The Urban Howl, Yoga Write Now & Waking Wild. Join her free forum for monthly yoga & writing practices here. Join her free forum for 30 days of exercise for 30 days here. Join her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter & get her free weekly & quirky newsletter here.

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212 Responses to “Your Ugly “V” Is Normal & Gorgeous. (Adult)”

  1. […] after I had the exchange with the bridesmaid I read an article in my favorite e-zine about labia minora reduction surgery. No kidding. Apparently it’s a new craze in Great Britain and there’s a documentary on it […]

  2. Cats Rock says:

    I’m only sixteen, but honestly, up until reading this article, I always thought that perhaps this ‘labia minora’ thing was actually a deformity. I thought there was something wrong with me and was afraid that it would effect my ability to have sex in the future (which I discovered it didn’t). Thanks for making it clear that I’m not the odd one out! Also, I think young girls should be taught these things so that instead of freaking out like I did, they can know what’s going on down there and be happy with their bodies.

    Great article! Thanks 😉

  3. 3letterjon says:

    Some men do. And some women like it that way.

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  5. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Hey Cats Rock! I'm curious why you thought this way? What made you think the labia minora was a deformity? I agree with you completely – it should be talked about more – especially because it's 100% normal! 🙂 I'm glad you're here little sister. 🙂

  6. Carolina says:

    Cheers to vaginas everywhere!

  7. krista says:

    I don't shave because of my boyfriend or guys I have dated/slept with. I actually like the idea of not shaving and have done it before- but it was extremely uncomfortable. It really does not feel good to have hair 'down there,' at least for me. So in that way, it's a personal choice. My decision to shave legs/arms is more societal.
    Thanks for the article, it is so saddening how we are brought up to look at and relate to our bodies with disdain (especially the 'private parts' for females). It would be beautiful if we could stay as children with the mentality that we are wonderful and beautiful just as we are.

  8. amen! I just like the way it feels…no surgery inducing or weird fetishes!

  9. I have no issue with my "parts" but I love being clean shaven and I wax 'cause it's less work and softer 🙂 Hair is not a "Bad" thing…neither is underarm hair or leg hair but I like the feeling of being smooth and hairless and trust me NOTHING I did would make me look prepubescent LOL I like the way it feels to be without body hair let's not disparage personal choice either!

  10. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Cheers!!

  11. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Thanks for the comment, Krista! I'm all for personal choice – especially if we are doing something to please ourselves and not anyone else.

    I think most of us are still children, we have just lost seeing the positive in situations in addition to the beauty and awe. 🙂

    xoxoxoxo

  12. What a wonderful topic. I'll jump in and provide one male's perspective that might, or might not, provide useful insight. I like lightly trimmed natural pubic hair the best. I want to be able to find you without getting lost in the woods. Ease of access and struggling through the overgrowth can affect my mindset by becoming a distraction. Visuals are important but it's really this practical issue that can determine how adventurous I become. Cleanliness and scent are critical once I've gotten this far.

    A lack of pubic hair is also sexy but shaved hair can leave short stubble that actually hurts a bit, probably not unlike a man's facial stubble. While the pain is nothing to grouse about still it is a ditraction that creates a focal point when that focal point should be you – your heart, your emotions, the energy one can feel when pressed chakras to chakras…the union between two lovers.

    So, for me at least, it's about balance, as with all things. Trim, with a hint of the wild beast that resides in each of us….clean, fresh, natural and inviting…

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  14. Brooke says:

    I love this article. Another body part to obsess over, exactly. Thanks for writing!

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  16. earthtone says:

    How it looks is not as important as what you do with it.
    Actually I prefer some hair down there. When it's shaved it is kind of "pedophile-ish". I prefer a vagina that looks like it is part of an ADULT woman. Not to mention the stubble, constant maintenance and the irritation that occaisonally arises. If the hair is an embarasement at the beach just wear a "boy short" bikini bottom.

    This "shaved bush" thing is a new phenomenon. Even though this may sound strange, having of a naturally bushy vagina in front of me makes me feel young again.

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  18. Chris says:

    It's truly heartbreaking. The cultural images forced on woman are baffling. Your labia are part of you and a beautiful one at that. All the more the pubic hair is the perfect from for it, sure a little maintenance here and there doesn't hurt but if I'm going to be with a woman I want her to look like a woman. No more swollen implants, no more orange skin cancer tans, and keep sharp objects away from all genitals!!!

  19. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Thanks for stopping by, Brooke!

  20. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Hear ya! And, how is it that certain people don't experience razor burn???

  21. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Could not agree more – keep sharp objects away from our genitals!!! That should be a on a t-shirt. 🙂

  22. Mike Felber says:

    AMEN Chris! I do not like the natural sex negative presumptions that wven trimming is necessary "please please do it…" You gotta be kidding me! I am a man, am turned on by hair if I am attracted to the woman, as nature would intend. I can see the sexiness of exposing the genitalia too, but it is absurd & offensive for folks to give lip service (pun intended) to a "real" woman, but then make disparaging remarks about getting "lost in the weeds", or suggest that trimming is a hygiene need!

    No, it should be as fine to not do so as TO do so. And the implicit juvenile assumption is that all smells & sights down there that hair traps must be "bad", that normal washing cannot handle hygiene. This is mostly internalized misogyny. What about enjoying the presence & smell of a woman when she is menstruating, or a woman liking her natural scent or state, that must be "sick" if people preach folks must not cut it all off OR leave it all on.

  23. hairy down there says:

    This is a great article, with encouraging comments that make me feel like there are people out there who share my views and my frustrations. I tried waxing once and actually bled, developed a horrible red bumpy rash that looked far worse than HAIR, and never bothered with it again. I think grooming is important, but really…I don't think most guys are doing down there to do a visual inspection…if they are, let them have their porn star wannabes.

    Sometimes I want to live in the middle of nowhere and experience consciousness completely untouched by the way the world is now. But I suppose that's unrealistic. Thanks for writing this, and thanks for all the enlightened comments.

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  27. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Maybe we should start a commune. 🙂 🙂 🙂

  28. Charles says:

    Personally, I never met a vagina I didn’t like. They all have their own distinct beauty…like a face if you will.

  29. Wyndryder says:

    I prefer them fresh and clean. Hairless is a plus but not a necessity. Crusty ones aren't particularly appetizing. It depends where the crust came from.

  30. TerraRafael says:

    Women friends – want to compare your labia with others to get an idea how totally normal you are? Try the book FEMALIA by Joani Blank http://books.google.com/books/about/Femalia.html?…

  31. @ViVoColonic says:

    Thank you for appreciating us. Some times it so hard to make sure our guys to accept who we are.

  32. Jodge says:

    Quibbler, thanks for your comment. It drives me nuts to hear the entire "lady garden" commonly referred to as a vagina. We don't tell people they have a nice esophagus instead of a nice smile, right? Weird analogy, but you get my drift…

  33. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Awesome.

  34. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Crusty? 🙂

  35. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Will check it out!

  36. Eda Mame says:

    I found this site a few weeks ago. http://lovelargelabia.tumblr.com/

  37. m*rk says:

    I have always been fascinated with women's bits and wrinkles. I find them works of art and celebrate each and every one of them!

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  41. nunh says:

    I absolutely love the female form. Man here – full large lips are exciting and sexy. Insecurity is not. Sad state of affairs nowadays.

  42. GreatNorthSky says:

    Ridiculously Disgusting and Incredibly Sad, Is This The Ultimate Bottom Of The Shit We Do To Fulfill Ourselves, BTW, I am Totally On Board With West, : O )

  43. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Amen!

  44. @zebrareader says:

    I have to write that this is a subject that never occurred to me. I am a heterosexual woman and had no complaints.

  45. kay says:

    yeah!!!!!!

  46. A very interesting article, with one MASSIVE failure. You aren’t talking about the vagina. The vagina is the passage way from the uterus to the outside. You are talking about the VULVA.

  47. Jude says:

    What about the scritchy stubble??! I LOVE the feel of my pubic hair, and also on my lover.. really do not enjoy when he shaves his balls, as he does like to do for the way the shaving feels.. and I can hold my pubes out of his way so he doesn't have to deal with it if he doesn't want to, and he loves me doing that anyway and it feels good to me too.. and he just goes crazy for my 'natural look'.. "the best bush in town"! and I like feeling a grown woman having pubic hair, but each to whatever makes us feel best, as long as it is our OWN choice not imposed from outside, magazines etc have a lot to answer for.

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  49. jazz says:

    few thoughts:
    I saw that docco and thought it was great.
    have you read 'the bearded lady'? it talks about the obsession with being hairless.
    even more bewildering to me is the Hymen restoration surgery…
    its a shame its such a touchy subject that one can take to heart so easily, sometimes even overhearing a joke or comment can sting deep and make you wonder if you are normal or desirable.

  50. Billy Herrington says:

    Pussy goooooooooood!!!!!!!

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