Hold My Hand.

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This is the fourth of 108 tips to Livin’ the Moment. Let’s take back our lives one beautiful, funny and delicious moment at a time.

#4 of 108:   Holding a Stranger’s Hand…Even for Just a Moment

When is the last time you held a stranger’s hand?

“But that’s weird,” you say.

What’s really weird is the lack of contact between human beings.

In the ancient and more evolved cultures, like India, human contact is totally normal, especially between straight men.

As stated in the India based website Sulekha,

“The first time (you see straight men holding hands), you are shocked. Eventually, you get used to it. In between, you go through various stages of reaction—puzzlement, wonder, curiosity, disgust, grudging acceptance, repulsion, etc.

The sight is a common enough one in these parts—grown men and teenaged boys holding hands in public like lovers that cannot bear physical separation from each other. This, in the same society where even incidental contact between the opposite sexes is still taboo.

But men cannot stop pawing each other. The way they carry on is enough to unleash the latent homophobe in most of us.”

A few years ago, after returning from India, I conducted an experiment. I had someone with a video camera hide while filming me attempt to hold hands with unsuspecting people.

Their reaction was, as expected, not positive. Watch the following:


As Kathleen Price said, “You are not here to save the world, but you are here to touch the hands that are within your reach.”

Let’s go Momenteering!

To find out how you can be a Momenteer and spread the word to Live in the Moment… email David and write Momenteer! in the subject line.


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About David Romanelli

David "Yeah Dave" Romanelli has played a major role in pioneering the modernization of wellness in the United States. He believes wellness and feeling good is so much more than fancy yoga poses, green juice, and tight-fitting clothes. Dave launched his career fusing ancient wellness practices with modern passions like exotic chocolate, fine wine, and gourmet food by creating Yoga + Chocolate, Yoga + Wine, and Yoga for Foodies.  His work has been featured in The Wall Street JournalFood + Wine, Newsweek and The New York Times; and his debut book, Yeah Dave's Guide to Livin' the Moment reached #1 on the Amazon Self-Help Bestseller List. Dave's new book launches in Fall 2014 from Skyhorse Publishing. Check out his new show Yeah Dave! brought to you by Scripps Network, the people behind The Food Network, Travel Channel, HGTV, and more.  He is a current contributor to Health Magazine, Yoga Journal, and various other publications. Discover more about his journey on www.yeahdave.com.


6 Responses to “Hold My Hand.”

  1. Kelly says:

    HAHAHA. Great video.

  2. Chelsea G. says:

    AWESOME. But hopefully you can post a follow up of people who accept your hand.

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