Then & Now: from Rescuer to Healer.

Via Nadine McNeil
on Aug 17, 2012
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Archetypically, both represent the same coin; one side shadow, the other side light.

I now realize that buried in my old way of being were the seeds for my emerging self.

The rescuer is an addict. The drug of choice is to “fix it,” whether “it” is a person, situation or thing.

Driven by fear to save everything and everyone around them, the rescuer does this at a tremendous cost to his or her self. Such a person may be prone to harbor feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.

Being in this role gives them the illusory justification that they serve a purpose.

The healer acting from a place of love knows that he or she has been assigned a divine mission, one that is to be carried out with deep grace, humility and reverence.

The healer is grounded within his or her self and is not easily swayed by naysayers and skeptics. He or she knows that the portal to healing is accessed through their feelings.

The more a rescuer gives, the greater the desire to numb their feelings—of anger, resentment and low self-esteem.

The healer on the other hand is nurtured through their act of giving as it comes from a place of connectedness. We can only connect and heal when we are centered within ourselves.

Rescuers give away themselves while healers understand the ebb and flow of giving and receiving; the gateway to opening their heart.

What the world needs now are healers. It seems to me that all rescue missions have failed or are on the verge of, economically, politically and otherwise.

As we continue to heal ourselves, soon we begin to awaken to the possibility of sharing our healing with others; being a stand for another to shine bright!

The process of healing is like a waterfall, in a state of perpetual renewal. When we’ve healed one part of our wound, we are lovingly prodded to ‘dig deeper.’ My experience shows me that courage gives rise to love. The greater my willingness to heal, the more my heart expands.

We don’t need to go anywhere to begin our process of healing.

It all begins, right here, right now.


Editor: Kate Bartolotta

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About Nadine McNeil

Yogini. Humanitarian. Spirited. Compassionate. Storyteller. All of these words conjure up aspects that make Nadine McNeil the person she aspires to be: an evolutionary catalyst committed to global transformation. Now fully devoted to expanding the reach of yoga through what she refers to as the “democratization of yoga,” she designs and delivers workshops to a wide cross-section of communities who ordinarily may not be exposed to nor reap its benefits.To join her mailing list and to learn more about her work and receive special offers, please click here.


7 Responses to “Then & Now: from Rescuer to Healer.”

  1. Thank you, Nadine.


  2. Suzette says:

    The beauty of this article is in it's simplicity and we know how difficult it is to 'get' simplified, how difficult it is to get to the other side.

    Thank You Nadine….confirmation and affirmations.

  3. Karen A says:

    Definitely an Affirmation, right here, right now.

  4. John V says:

    Wonderful; thank you.

  5. Leslie Gore says:

    Almost there. After twenty-five years as a successful healer, one day I woke up out of healing. It's not any more noble than rescuing, in truth. A healer must pretend to be healthier than his or her clients in order to establish who is the giver and who the receiver – basically an ego trip, and not much different from asserting dominance. Witness endless platitudes posted online by people who have a healing practice that prohibits them from complaining, admitting weakness, or ever getting sick. No one is a healer. At best we are information dispensers who create an ambiance in which people are allowed to heal themselves. Drop the missionary stance. Take no credit. Travel light. Peace.

  6. Laura says:

    beautiful! much gratitude!

  7. alrishi says:

    I agree with Leslie: The healer doesn't heal, but only facilitates healing. The healer can't MAKE a person heal. The person heals themselves, albeit sometimes with help. This same dynamic happens with teaching: the teacher facilitates learning, but cannot MAKE someone learn. The agency is not in the healer/teacher, it's in the patient/student.