Does Your Relationship with Money Need a Makeover?

Via Jeff Bogart
on Sep 6, 2012
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Here’s one more inspiring reason to practice Karma yoga: you’ll be happier.

That’s right. According to Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton, authors of the forthcoming book, Happy Money: The Science of Smarter Spending, buying less for yourself and more for others is key to one’s happiness.

I know, you’re thinking, “How can that possibly be true? The Ralph Lauren cashmere sweater I’ve been eyeing would make me so happy.” Or, “I’d feel so fab in a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes.”

However, after embarking on a decade-long study about money and its relationship to happiness, the authors Dunn and Norton found that, interestingly, what we do with our money plays a principal role in how happy we are.

Truthfully, I wasn’t entirely surprised at their findings. After working as a financial planner for over 25 years, I’ve learned that it’s not about the money. It’s about our relationship with money. And like any other relationship, our relationship with money can be either toxic or healthy.

It’s my job, of course, to help my clients develop a healthy relationship with their money. That’s why at the beginning of 2012, I tied together my wealth management expertise with my passion—yoga—and founded Yogic Investing. Yogic Investing takes you and your money off the mat, expanding your yoga into your money life.

Unquestionably, money is complex. It acts as a medium of exchange and is our standard of measurement. Like a double-edged sword, it can represent opportunity as well as be used wisely or recklessly. Some argue that without money we would not have advanced civilization, spirituality or enlightenment.

There’s a popular story of three servants who were each given 10 talents (money) by their master. All of the servants eventually returned the talents, but two of the servants figured out how to create opportunity with them, and the master was pleased.

The lesson here: You should look at your money not only as a measure of self-worth, but also as a medium for opportunity, not just for you but for others, too.

Ty Warner, the Beanie Babies billionaire of Ty Inc., set the internet afire this summer when he opened his wallet (and his heart).  Lost in Santa Barbara, he stopped and asked a woman for directions. At the time, the woman was trying to raise money for a stem-cell treatment she needed. After getting directions, Ty cut her a $50 check and promised to be back with more. Days later, the woman received a $20,000 check in the mail. She wrote in her blog that she was “flooded with indescribable emotion.” But I can’t help thinking that Ty might be even happier.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that you go live like a Buddhist monk. I tell my clients that our giving, our charitable gifts should be planned just like we plan for our next yoga class, the week’s meals or retirement. Instead of focusing on how much we have, it’s just as important to think more carefully about what we can do with what we have. Maximizing our happiness is not entirely about maximizing our wealth.

Can we indulge a little less in ourselves and more in others?

It’s not just a key to happiness—it’s yoga.


Editor: Brianna Bemel


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About Jeff Bogart

Jeff Bogart is a Registered Investment Advisor who lives in Cleveland Heights, Ohio. He has been practicing yoga for over eight years and has been helping people with their investment and planning issues for over 25 years. He recently decided to merge two of his passions, yoga and investing and created the website He and his Belgian sheepdog, Carlos Santana, participate in Therapy Dog programs, specifically, hospital and nursing home visits and children’s reading programs.


5 Responses to “Does Your Relationship with Money Need a Makeover?”

  1. timful says:

    Generousity breeds abundance. When you spend too much time counting money, you begin to convince yourself that money is valuable. And, if you begin to believe that a dollar is valuable, then you begin to believe that anything that costs a dollar must be valuable too. You lose sight of what truly makes you happy, and want things simply because they cost something… and the more it costs the more you must want it… especially if you can get a "good deal." And, so you fall prey to every marketing gimmick, and never have enough of what you want, instead of remembering that the greatest pleasures in life don't cost money at all.

    Giving money away helps get you off that treadmill. Do it whenever you can. Always leave big tips. Shop at small stores where everything costs more. Don't look at price tags or what is on sale. You will be surprised to find that you end up with more money not less.

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  3. Natali_78 says:

    Thanks for the helpful post. Unfortunately, today many people are too selfish and do not care about others. I think that's our financial behavoir is very important and can say a lot about our character. Also I am sure it's necessary to work on your attitude to money since the early childhood, parents should talk with their kids and explain what's right and what's wrong. Children should understand how to make wise financial decisions and how to use borrowing services and installment loans for people with bad credit properly. As for me, I think that my financial behavoir can be much better than it is now and I would like to get to know how I really can improve my financial situation and become more frugal.

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