How to be Your Own Oasis.

Via David Romanelli
on Sep 8, 2012
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This is #30 of 108 Ways to Livin’ the Moment. Let’s take back our lives one beautiful, funny, and delicious moment at a time.

#30 of 108:  Be Still…Please…Be Still

Everything takes time. Bees have to move very fast to stay still.
~David Foster Wallace

Being still does not mean don’t move. It means move in peace.
~ E’yen A. Gardner

I come into the presence of still water. And I feel above me the day-blind stars waiting with their light. For a time, I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
~ Wendell Berry

One of the great dangers of living in New York City is that at least once a day, you’re seriously close to colliding with a biker.

These bikers are usually deliverymen screaming through the streets of Manhattan trying to get a cold pizza to an angry customer.

As a pedestrian, you have to freeze and hold your ground.

Moving one direction or another, you significantly increase the chance of collision with the biker and that spells serious injury.

The same goes with river rafting in Class V rapids, as I did once with my brother in Alaska (see pic).

The river rafting guide told us, when it gets intense, dig your paddle into the rapids to get leverage and hold your ground.  If you cower in the boat, chances are you’ll get sucked into the raging, freezing water.

In our neurotic, over-caffeinated, hyper-stimulated world, we tend to react, pivot, move, run—anything but holding our ground.

The wisest of the wise (i.e. a sacred text like the Tao) will tell you:

The sage does not attempt anything very big, and thus achieves greatness

Whatever the challenge, insurmountable task, financial struggle, or emotional pain that is comin’ at ya today like a frantic bicycle deliveryman with his job on the line…

Hold your ground.

Be still.

A vibrant inner life is far more powerful than a busy outer one.

Editor: Lynn Hasselberger

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About David Romanelli

David "Yeah Dave" Romanelli has played a major role in pioneering the modernization of wellness in the United States. He believes wellness and feeling good is so much more than fancy yoga poses, green juice, and tight-fitting clothes. Dave launched his career fusing ancient wellness practices with modern passions like exotic chocolate, fine wine, and gourmet food by creating Yoga + Chocolate, Yoga + Wine, and Yoga for Foodies.  His work has been featured in The Wall Street JournalFood + Wine, Newsweek and The New York Times; and his debut book, Yeah Dave's Guide to Livin' the Moment reached #1 on the Amazon Self-Help Bestseller List. Dave's new book launches in Fall 2014 from Skyhorse Publishing. Check out his new show Yeah Dave! brought to you by Scripps Network, the people behind The Food Network, Travel Channel, HGTV, and more.  He is a current contributor to Health Magazine, Yoga Journal, and various other publications. Discover more about his journey on


2 Responses to “How to be Your Own Oasis.”

  1. Seal says:

    This is a lovely article, but I must correct one, tiny error. At the beginning of the piece, you quote the beloved and extraordinary writer, Wendell Berry. However, "Wendy Perry" is credited. Wendell Berry is such a stunning novelist and essayist, activist, sustainability advocate, poet and farmer…we simply owe it to him to spell his name correctly. I couldn't agree with the message in this article more…we are truly moving at such a pace these days that we miss important details. And sometimes those seemingly small details are the most significant. Or beautiful. Or life changing. So thank you for this piece, and the reminder to slow down and be still. And if I may boldly suggest here, in that stillness read everything that you can get your hands on by Wendell Berry. His writing will change you…in the very best ways possible. Cheers! Happy fall! 🙂

  2. david says:

    Seal…thank you for that correction. Totally my bad and i read the NYT article on Wendell yesterday. I really do look forward to digging in to his work.