Show Me Who I Am. ~ Angie Ducharme

Via elephant journal
on Sep 11, 2012
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There comes a time for all of us when we realize we are not victims of our experiences, but creators of them.

When this spark of awareness ignites inside us, we often feel the need to withdraw and incubate for some time. It becomes hard to assimilate this new awareness of ourselves and initiate the healing of our unconscious experiences when constantly interacting with others.

“Solitude is the beginning of all freedom.”

~ William O. Douglas

When we spend time in silence, the whole part of ourselves takes over and starts to put the pieces together, making us more capable of wading through the waters of lessons and feedback in the world. Our new awareness settles into our being during our period of incubation.

We know this has happened when we feel the urge to re-engage into the social world again. This is where we find out where we stand. We make this discovery through our interactions with others. We attract what we are, what we have become.

“In your life you choose and create the people and events designed to bring you the perfect opportunity to know yourself as you truly are.”

~ Neale Donald Walsch

When our interactions with others spark unwanted emotions, they are revealing to us unhealed aspects of ourselves. We should observe these feelings with interest and curiosity in order to understand them, rather than react to them. We have done nothing wrong. We are all on a journey of discovery and this is nothing more than that—a discovery.

The best of all reactions would be to inwardly thank that person for their participation in our healing. When we experience another individual with love we intuit the origin of his/her anger, sadness, pain. If we do not find compassion in our hearts for each person we encounter, we still have healing to do.

“We live in a house of mirrors

and think we are looking out the windows.”

~ Fritz Perls


Angie Ducharme is a spiritual/psychological blogger and life empowerment teacher.




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10 Responses to “Show Me Who I Am. ~ Angie Ducharme”

  1. Christy says:

    I believe that many of the issues I have along my spiritual journey arise from not taking this incubation period that you suggest. I raged and fought against the idea that everything in my experience was happening because I created it.

  2. Angie says:

    Hi Christy – Everyone takes a different path to discovery. There is no right path. There are sometimes easier paths ;). Wading through the sea of experiences is definitely easier when we take the time to listen. Through our experiences, we make preferences and these preferences are trying to make our way to us. Taking time to allow guidance and inspired action to come through speeds up the process. The process of allowing saves us energy to enjoy life! ~Angie Ducharme

  3. Michael says:

    Great article! Cuts through the rhetoric and targets the underlying 'reality

    And "The best of all reactions would be to inwardly thank that person for their participation in our healing. When we experience another individual with love we intuit the origin of his/her anger, sadness, pain." – This is so true for me! Though I don't always 'thank' the person I have increasingly come to see beyond (forgive) or through the surface behavior to the source of the pain/anger et al. within the 'other'. Then I am grateful for the signpost they provide pointing me to something to realize or experience or understand.

    And a quote from Emerson: "Every person is my 'superior' in some way and in this way I learn from (the person)"' At least I believe every encounter is a opportunity to gain the insight into myself you mention.

  4. Angie Ducharme says:

    You are so very lucky to own this insight! Life is way more enjoyable when we know that we're all in this together!!! Thank you for comments and share. To Understanding! – Angie 🙂

  5. Visit me at "An Expression of G.U.S." ~ in joy, Angie Ducharme

  6. Visit me on twitter @333Angie333 and on google+ at Angie Ducharme ~ communication gone wild 🙂 ~ We are one, Angie Ducharme

  7. Christy says:

    Thank you for the reply – I see some yoga and meditation in my future 😉 – New life goal; peace out and allow the good to come easily!

  8. Now that's a mantra to live by 🙂

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