Lonely? Don’t fill the space. Breathe the cold, sweet air in deeply.

Via Waylon Lewis
on Mar 18, 2013
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Befriend Loneliness—

don’t push it away with new “love” or smother it in entertainment or distract it with technology. 

For in so doing we shall befriend ourselves—and then we will never again be truly lonely.

Lonely? Don’t fill the space. Breathe the cold, sweet air in deeply.

As some have said, “Love isn’t reserved for romance alone.”

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“Don’t surrender your loneliness so quickly.
let it cut more deep.
Let it ferment and season you
as few human or even divine ingredients can.
Something missing in my heart tonight
has made my eyes so soft
my voice so tender
my need of god
absolutely clear.”
~ Hafiz

For more: Love is Selfish. And, The Buddhist View of Loneliness as a Good Thing.



Hafiz poems and excerpts are from Daniel Ladinsky’s  Penguin publications The Gift, Poems by Hafiz © copyright 1999, and I Heard God Laughing, Poems of Hope and Joy © copyright 1996 & 2006. Reprinted by permission of the author.




About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


7 Responses to “Lonely? Don’t fill the space. Breathe the cold, sweet air in deeply.”

  1. Elly says:

    Loneliness helps one appreciate others.

  2. Jacinta says:

    Totally Beautiful ~ I befriended myself out of necessity, recovering from injury, and discovered a comforting gift in the process. Now I am trying to balance a “new normal” as I open up to social invitations 🙂 I cherish this loving space, and find I need to go slow, yet reintegrating back into society is like merging onto a highway! 🙂 Thanks for the (reminder) “rest stop” ! The view is a blessing….

  3. Farhan says:

    It would be nice if you mentioned that Hafiz was a Muslim and that when he referred to "god" he actually meant God or as he would said, Allah.

  4. comoane says:

    O Dear Farhan! As long as that matters what can we do but love?

  5. Angela says:

    Just lying here considering a search on how to be alone. I’m not used to it . I’ve always been intrigued by it, yet scared too. Time to cultivate my aloness.

  6. Angela says:

    Really what I wanted to say was Thank you W.

  7. elephantjournal says:

    God is big enough for all of us. 🙂