June 19, 2013

How to Turn Fear into a Superpower.

A Letter From Your Over-Worked Super Power.

Dear Beloved, 

I wish to speak on behalf of my brothers and sisters: Anxiety, Terror, Panic, Nervous, Apprehensive, Worry and Chicken Shit. I’m writing to tell you that I Love You and I am in full support of your life, your dreams and your happiness. I know it may seem difficult to believe but if you hear me out, it may transform your life forever.

You have been told to conquer me, overcome me and avoid me at all costs.

It seems that somewhere along the way you were told that I am your enemy. This is not true. Truth is Fear, yes I, am your ally and one of your most essential superpowers. It seems society has told you that I am what prevents you from moving towards your dreams. In fact, the opposite is true. The times that you are unable to fully appreciate the moment and you are unable to move forward towards your dreams is because you have been unwilling to welcome me, to breathe into me, to feel me fully, to embrace me and to hear the message that I bring.

By trying to rid yourself of me, numb me, medicate me, suppress me and resist me, you have tried to rid yourself of the joy of the moment and the joy of being alive. Silly isn’t it? So let’s learn to be buddies again, shall we? Because you deserve to live life fully!

Now let’s get clear on who I am, just to make sure you see me in my truest light.

I am the primal response that you feel in your body when you believe that you or some-one you love are in danger or are unsafe. I am the hormonal and neuro-chemical response initiated in the brain that allows you to act quickly and respond efficiently to danger, to run like a cheetah or fight like a lion for your survival. I am a powerful force that will keep you alive in a life threatening situation. See how essential I am. Who told you that I was your enemy? What hog hoosie whollup! The problem is not me (fear itself), it is Your perception of danger, safety and threat.

In these current times, it is very rare for your life and your safety to be immediately threatened.

There are very few ferocious animals, murderers or terrorists roaming the streets, (although if you watch the news and read the papers you may have been fooled to think they are in plague proportions). They do exist but your other valuable friend and superpower, instinct will let you know when a real danger is present. If there is no danger present, instinct will tell you that everything is ok.

However, if you are listening only to your thoughts that have been fed with all sorts of beliefs from society and mainstream media, you may choose to believe you are in danger, even though reality and your instincts have told you that you are safe and everything is ok.

When you believe that everyday experiences are a threat, you will experience me on a regular basis.

I guess this could get a bit annoying and tiring for you. For that I am sorry. But I am programmed to respond according to your beliefs, so You are my master and I am your beloved servant.

It is not my fault that you have over used me, I was just doing what I was told. It seems that some of the things that you fear (call me for often) is change, the unknown, making a ‘mistake’, and your own brilliance, all of the things that need to be embraced for you to reach your dreams and awaken. Strange how you humans fear these great things. When I worked for animals they only used me for their survival.

I suggest that you read the tips below that Courtney has put together for you.

She is very clever but she forgets to embrace me sometimes too. Over time you will awaken to the truth that I, Fear am your beloved servant: Joy, love, peace, bliss and freedom will be eternally yours when you do.

Yours Faithfully,


Tips on how to be bosom buddies with fear.

Reality Check: When fear arises, quickly assess your circumstances to locate the perceived threat. Undertake a reality check. Dive down deep to your instincts, often felt in your belly (gut feeling) to check if everything is ok. Ninety-nine percent the time you are physically safe. Hundred percent of the time you are spiritually safe (which is why the awakened don’t even fear death of the body).

Breathe: If everything appears to be safe and your instincts tell you everything is okay, take a few deep breaths. Meet the fear with a loving breath. If fear is resisted and not breathed into it becomes immobilizing. Breathe deeply and focus on the words of your instinct, everything is ok.

Be Open: Welcome, embrace, feel and openly experience the response in your body.

Identify the fear trigger: is likely that change, the unknown, a potential mistake (lesson in disguise) or your own massive brilliance, yes You (it is your essence) have triggered fear to rise. These are all necessary things to embrace along your path to growth, awakening and living your dream.

Celebrate: The presence of fear shows that you are growing, changing and moving out of your comfort zone and into the unknown, which is where the true magic happens. Fear is often the messenger that you are moving into growth territory. Yay!

Transform: Continue to breathe into the fear until it transforms into adventure and excitement or simply primal life force. I like to call it the growth buzz.

Move forward: Use this primal life force to move you forward and continue with the task at hand. Go and be your brilliant yet humanly flawed self.

Meditate Daily: Sit down, close your eyes and calm your adrenals and nervous system everyday, by not identifying with untrue fearful thoughts and by breathing into the instinctual truth that you are safe, loved and enough. Om Love Thy Fear Om!

Fear is our loving friend. Without it, we would not survive in danger and we would have no indication that we were growing and moving towards our goals and dreams.

Go give fear a big hug and reclaim your true position as the master of your own life!


Courtney Prosser is a nature lover, wellness junkie and lover of all things true, fun and real. She has guided many on their path, working for 15 years as an Meditation Teacher, Counsellor, Wellness Coach and Author. She has travelled the world and studied with indigenous healers and shamans. She has sat at the feet of enlightened masters in India and spent thousands of hours alone in nature listening to the subtle guidance within. Connect with Courtney on her website or on Facebook.


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Kelly Gajer Feb 13, 2014 9:07am

After reading this I feel so grateful suddenly. In my Psychology class yesterday (2/12/14) the topic turned to fear and anger, but our instructor steered the conversation back towards the subject of fear. Many in the class were confusing the emotions that trigger fear with those that trigger anger. Anger, for me is best understood as an emotional response to some moment in time that can be traced back to loss. If I can connect to the source of that loss, understand the basis of what's triggering it, I find positive ways to resolve, amend, move forward, and forgive. Anger I've learned possess some very elusive motives. Fear, on the other hand, has been easily much more traceable to a specific source. Lest I forget however, it can also be as mysterious as trying to locate Bigfoot. But fear it seems isn't so much about matching anger's possession of loss as it is wanting to comandeer and take control. I've worked a lot in my life and in recovery to find those pink elephants yanking diligently for possession of my control. I ask politely for these pink elephants to please permanently leave room. I also ask my ego to sit in the corner for a time out. More often than not, I succeed. Bliss and catharsis ensue. Sometimes though, I still struggle to cope with the fears that seem permanently sewn into the fabric of my DNA. What to do? I love the suggestion of transformation and the challenges of changing fear into something akin to a "primal life source." For me that translates into something diabolically inspirational. Thank you for this wonderful letter Courtney, it did my mind and body good!

Rebecca Dec 4, 2013 5:54am

I read this and realized this is me! This is how I handle fear. I handled my brain tumor, the severe break of my foot and leg and now the loss of my leg. Its been a process, one that has given me enormous faith in my instincts and allowed me to face and deal with fear real time. Fear is a caution sign in my life, not a stop sign. The adage of there is freedom beyond fear is true, but its more than that, as a person I have evolved. I realized I could not only survive it, I could thrive. Coming through fear, builds trust in my intuition, and trust that life is a wondrous journey. Thank you for the article…

Salma Oct 7, 2013 6:33pm

Such an amazing meaningful, deep to the core article by you.. no words could describe how thankful i am to read this, i totally needed this,

love, xx :):)

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