Have you ever looked up at the sky and stars and screamed, “Will someone please answer my question?”
“Life is great, but when will I finally settle down, marry and have a family?”
“What can I do to make my relationship more exciting?”
“After three years of dating, my partner won’t commit. What should I do?”
“I’m not happy in my marriage. Should I divorce?”
“When will I meet the love of my life?”
You can find the answer to each of these questions by knowing which planet is transiting through your 7th House of Marriage & Partnerships. A “lucky” transit may bring a marriage partner into your life. Another transit may bring excitement into your current relationship. Yet another transit might wreak havoc in your marriage, prompting you to make a major change. (Note: To learn where your personal transits are – see the end of this article.)
The Secret to Understanding What Is Happening
Transits are “astrological” events that affect every area of your life. Let’s discuss how your romantic relationships and marriage are affected by the five transiting planets: Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto. You can use this information to find a marriage partner, make your current relationship better or even divorce.
If you have Jupiter transiting this area of your life, congratulations! You’ve got a great year ahead of you, especially if you’ve said, “I’m ready to meet Mr. Right (or Miss Right) for a long-term relationship such as marriage,” or “I want to make my marriage even happier,” or “when would be the best time to find a compatible business partner?”
Make sure to be out socializing because this will be a lucky year for you to marry. You’ll be sociable, loving and capable of intimacy with others. Perhaps in the past you’ve enjoyed the excitement of being single, dating around and having fabulous romantic experiences. However, you now realize your happiness comes from sharing your life with another.
For that reason, this is a fortuitous time for finding new relationship opportunities, such as a partner for a long-term committed relationship. What’s so great about Jupiter transiting your 7th House is that unlike when you’ve met unsuitable partners, you’ll now meet ones for the long-term who may even be “marriageable.”
If you’re already in a committed relationship, you may discover during this year that you love and enjoy your partner even more than you did when you first married.
This transit produces tensions and frustrations in your relationship or marriage that force you to examine your relationship and whether it satisfies your mutual needs and expectations. You may experience a crisis in it that will cause you to make a decision to make it better or let it go once and for all.
So, if you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you or your partner may say, “Let’s commit to each other and get married, or end our relationship.”
You may have been staying in an unhappy relationship out of convenience, however, now the status quo cannot be maintained. For this reason, many relationships end because they demand more attention and effort than both partners believe the relationship is worth. This is why transiting Saturn in the 7th House is often a time when marriages break up and end in divorce.
If you’re single, this is an ideal time for meeting someone older and more sophisticated whom you greatly respect and who helps you grow up. For that reason, it’s probably not surprising that many May-December romances, where two people are of considerable age difference, occur during this transit.
During this transit you’ll experience surprising and unexpected events in your relationships that will disrupt them and make them fresh and exciting, especially if they’ve become dull and routine. It’s an ideal time to be innovative and experimental by bringing excitement into your marriage. Surprise your husband as he comes home late from work by opening the door in a sexy negligee you haven’t worn in years! Perhaps he shocks you by telling you to pack an overnight bag because he’s planned a romantic weekend at a resort hotel and spa.
If you’re single, you’re likely to be very excited about dating, courtship and having a romantic relationship during this time. You’re enthralled because there’s something edgy and kinky about your new love.
If you’re someone who needs to break free from a bad marriage or partnership, this transit will liberate and free you from an intolerable relationship you’ve remained in for reasons that are no longer valid or compelling. Its energies will bring tensions, upset and disruption into your relationship to jolt you out of any sense of complacency you’ve been in, so that you change your situation.
During this transit you may meet someone for the most romantic and idyllic relationship you’ve ever had, as long as you don’t get embroiled in fantasy and illusion where you put the other person on a pedestal where they’re likely to fall.
If you’re in a relationship, make sure that you’re sensitive and alert to any behavior or situations that indicate there’s a problem. For example, in your marriage, you or your partner may be keeping your feelings hidden from each other or acting deceptively in different ways. It may be too painful or too scary to openly discuss differences that exist. Ultimately, when the truth comes to the surface, it may bring problems of resentment and upset.
You’re susceptible to self-deception if you see your partnership, as you’d like it to be, instead of the way it really is. Here are some surprising statements that partners may say during Neptune’s transit:
“She said she just woke up one day and realized she was no longer in love with me.”
“I can’t believe he’s been unfaithful to me all these years.”
“I thought we were happily married, so I’m shocked she’s asked for a separation.”
For this reason, it’s especially important to have an open and honest dialogue with your partner to make sure you clearly understand what’s really happening in your relationship. This will give you the opportunity to freely discuss any problems that may exist between you.
During this transit you may meet your soul mate for an intense romantic connection like none you’ve ever had. If you’re married, you feel closer then ever, as if your personalities are now merged into one. You’ll realize this is the person you were meant to be with.
You seem to be able to talk to your lover for hours about your deepest thoughts, as if you’ve known each other for years. You’ll find that superficial relationships will be boring and unsatisfying because you’re not interested in “weather talk”; instead, you want to know what’s in a person’s psyche and heart.
However, this transit may also bring a crisis into your partnership over such matters as the loss of a job, retirement, financial difficulties, sexual incompatibility, menopause, infidelity, alcohol or drug addiction, an affair that threatens the break-up of your marriage, or even the death of a loved one. Sometimes, the source of the discord in the partnership is based on deep psychological issues such as incompatible values or destructive behavior that has damaged the relationship.
If you’re in a destructive relationship that’s emotionally or physically abusive, or in an addictive or co-dependent relationship with someone who’s unhealthy for you, this is when it will die or be transformed to a healthy state.
Know where your personal transits are—see if they are affecting you right now.
Visit the free Transit Calculator and enter your birth date. Then, use the above transits to learn more about “What the Hell is Going On in Your Relationship.”
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Assistant ed: Catherine Monkman