Ending the Inner War (& What Happens Then).

Via Eric Klein
on Aug 2, 2013
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I was talking with a coaching client the other day.

We were exploring a reactive pattern that has limited his creativity and joy in work and life. It’s trying to control things, people, events.

It’s something he learned as a child as a way of staying safe in a chaotic environment. The lesson “took” and decades later, he’s a master controller. Only now, he sees how this pattern is eroding what he truly wants to create. What to do?

First: don’t do anything.

Just be aware of the patterns. Notice all the patterns that arise when you try to “change yourself.” Discover, experientially how the conditioned self is not one thing.

The conditioned self is a network of interwoven and often contradictory patterns.

One pattern wants to say “Yes” to controlling (or the pattern of your choice) and another pattern wants to say “No.”

One pattern wants to eat the chocolate and another pattern objects.

Drop it 650

The conditioned self is a tangle of contradictory patterns.

Each pattern is intent on fulfilling its own needs and goals. In many wisdom traditions, this contradictory condition is called the Inner War.

Your life can be a casualty the inner war.

Your happiness is the first and perpetual casualty. How can you stop the war and bring peace to the land?

You know what I’m going to say . . . meditate, meditate, mediate.

How does meditation bring peace and end the inner war?

As you meditate, you bring:

  • Coherence to the brain
  • Peace to the mind

These two qualities, one neurological and the other psychological, support and strengthen each other. Together they create the conditions that end the inner war. But ending the inner war isn’t the end of the awakening process. As peace comes to the land . . . a new question arises.

What question?

Who are you without your patterns?

Let this question resonate within your consciousness. Don’t answer too quickly. Allow the question itself to peel away the layers of conditioning; let it reveal it’s own ever-deepening answer.

Breathe this question.

And let it breathe you.

It’s not a question of controlling versus letting go. As you follow this question, all versus dissolves into uncontrived revelation. So . . .

Who are you without your conditioned patterns?

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About Eric Klein

Eric Klein is one of the few people on the planet who is both a lineage holder in a 5,000-year-old yoga lineage and a best-selling business book author. You can get his free ebook & guided meditation audio "The 7 Reasons Meditation Doesn't Work (and how to fix them)" at http://wisdomheart.com. Eric has worked with over 35,000 people to infuse greater meaning, awareness, and purpose into their work and lives. His book "You are the Leader You’ve Been Waiting For" won a 2008 Nautilus Book Award for being “a world-changing book promoting positive social change and responsible leadership.” With his wife and partner Devi, Eric is also the creator of the Healing Family Karma programs and The Meditation Habit. Eric and Devi have two adult sons, a ball-obsessed pup, and live in Encinitas, California. To learn more about their work (and access free teaching videos on meditation and mantra), go to http://wisdomheart.com.


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