September 14, 2013

Stop. Read. Integrate: Insight from Pema Chödrön. ~ Kristin Hauser

Sometimes all we need is a shot of insight to pull us back into ourselves.

Reading Pema’s fine tuned words has been that oasis for me over the past few months.

Concise. Penetrating. Soul shaping.

Here is to healing yourself in any form that it may take. Here is to uneasiness, discomfort and dare I say pain. Here is to our shared humanity, our shared suffering and our attempt to sit with it again and again.

Taken from Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits and Fears by Pema Chödrön:

 “The sad part is that all we’re trying to do is not feel that underlying uneasiness. The sadder part is that we proceed in such a way that the uneasiness only gets worse. The message here is that the only way to ease our pain is to experience it fully. Learn to stay. Learn to stay with uneasiness, learn to stay with the tightening, learn to stay with the itch and urge of shenpa, so that the habitual chain reaction doesn’t continue to rule our lives, and the patterns that we consider unhelpful don’t keep getting stronger as the days and months and years go by.

Someone once sent me a bone-shaped dog tag that you could wear on a cord around your neck. Instead of a dog’s name, it said, ‘Sit. Stay. Heal.’ We can heal ourselves and the world by training in this way.

Once you see what you do, how you get hooked, and how you get swept away, it’s hard to be arrogant. This honest recognition softens you up, humbles you in the best sense. It also begins to give you confidence in your basic goodness. When we are not blinded by the intensity of our emotions, when we allow a bit of space, a chance for a gap, when we pause, we naturally know what to do. We begin, due to our own wisdom, to move toward letting go and fearlessness. Due to our own wisdom, we gradually stop strengthening habits that only bring more pain to the world.”

Let whatever moves you, move you toward your ‘basic goodness.’

Let your hardships be your greatest healers. Let your pain be your teacher. Learn to stay.

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Karen Katz Nov 9, 2014 4:13am

so very helpful.
almost all our destructive behaviors in this life-the addictions, the affairs, gambling, compulsive eating/shopping/sexing, etc. are based on this inability to just sit with our pain, our boredom. I remember reading a few years after 9/11, an article about people's "inappropriate" responses to the tragedy. One woman wrote that before her natural horror kicked in, she felt a small glimmer of "great, something had happened", her reaction to the tedium of her everyday life. I struggle with this-knowing full well the beauty and power of everyday moments, and gratitude, etc….still dealing with moments/hours/days/ years of wondering, "what's it all about?"…..a painful thing to still feel at my age (58). I'm trying to just sit with that and let it humble and soften my "stale old basement of a heart" (pema's words) to let a fresh emotion in.

Karen Katz Feb 23, 2014 5:08am

I discovered her writings at just the right time.
Every morning I read a chapter from "Start Where You Are" before I meditate.
she is one of the treasures of this Universe.

Joe Sparks Nov 26, 2013 2:56pm

The staying and leaning into it is the hardest, most unbearable part of healing. We all had to maneuver around it. We must push with all our weight against this fear, no trying to figure it out. It feels unbelievable, desperate , lost, abandoned, alone. We must feel our way out of it. When you have come up against that wall, you can begin to fall apart and stay. The only things that are left is the unmovable places.

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Kristin Hauser

Kristin Hauser is a passionate yoga student and teacher who loves to learn, mostly through the experience of traveling near and far. She currently lives in Southern California where she is pursuing her Masters in Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine and dreaming up the next adventure. Follow her on Twitter or connect on Facebook.