Please F&%*k Off Whilst I Follow My Heart. ~ Donna Williams

Via Donna Williams
on Oct 13, 2013
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the science of following your heart

The trouble with following you heart is that most people around you think it’s a great byline but a really bad idea.

I recently decided to change from a secure, interesting, challenging, high profile job in one of the most beautiful and cleanest cities on the planet to a short term one year assignment that I can do standing on my head in pollution-infested Asia.

Dear friends and colleagues, I love you all, admire many of you and even respect a select few. I am however going to tell you and all the career advice you’ve given me to kindly and respectfully f&%*k off. I truly don’t have the words to tell you all why this utterly mad choice seems like exactly the right decision for me. If you ask me for my ‘business case’ for my decision, well, I fess up, I don’t have one.

In fact, instead of writing that business case I’m going to tell you 10 reasons why you can all f&%*k off; and once I’ve done that, I’m going to go out there and follow my heart and live courageously and in total bliss with all the consequences of this mad decision.

1. I’ve made madder decisions than this before and it’s always worked out.

2. I’m the kind of girl who’s been known to leave town or change countries when I need to dump a guy. A new job and a new city are a breeze.

3. My parents drove around Australia with three kids under six in a bench seat Ford. I went to six different schools in 12 years. This is normal in my family.

4. Home gets old sometimes. You have to leave it to come back to it to make it feel like home.

5. My life is not your life, we want different things, you don’t understand it, get over it.

6. I don’t want to be comfortable. Comfortable makes me break out in a cold sweat and feel like someone’s choking me. I want uncomfortable. It makes me feel alive.

7. I have a life plan, roughly, like in big brush strokes. Just trust me.

8. Unfamiliarity, new people, new culture, new language, new food, new everything ? It’s the best excuse ever to embrace humanity. Call it a forced heart-opener.

9. My life is not something of the future. It’s right here, right now and I will not wait any longer for my ‘best life’ to appear (thank you, Oprah).

10. Because doing this makes me feel like the best and truest version of myself and that feeling is unbeatable.

So whilst I tell you all to f&%*k off, I also offer up tremendous gratitude to you all. Every doubt or question you have had about this path I will take, has offered me clarity about my choice for which I am grateful.

And for those of you wondering if following your heart is as good as the multitude of Facebook quotes and hippy websites say it is, well the answer is yes. Be brave, tell the rest of the world to f&%*k off and go out there and find out for yourself.

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About Donna Williams

Donna Williams (also known as Donnapranahanumanasana to her closest friends), is an Australian wannabe yogi living in Switzerland, learning and teaching yoga at the hippest studio in Geneva. She spends her days listening to people talk about ‘life saving stuff’ in her ‘very important job’ for a humanitarian organization whilst harboring a secret desire to become a recluse in the Swiss alps and teach mountain people yoga.


9 Responses to “Please F&%*k Off Whilst I Follow My Heart. ~ Donna Williams”

  1. Anne says:

    Love it. And you! Go, girl. And keep us posted about your inspiring adventures. xo

  2. Kate says:

    I LOVE this. Working up the nerve to say this to some naysayers in my own life.

  3. Donna says:

    It's haaaaarrddd to go against the grain that's for sure so I really feel you. What I found really useful was to focus on the way I feel when I know I make the right decision for myself and just tried to hold onto that feeling even when I was being bombarded by the opposite advice. Huge good luck, your nerve won't fail you, I promise!

  4. Donna says:

    So many inspiring adventures out there to be had isn't there! Hope to hear yours too!

  5. Nicole Boaden says:

    Hate the title lol love the message. We all need opportunity for personal growth. Sometimes that means a move, a fresh perspective. I’m sure you’ll get that where your going. At the end of the day D it’s your life, your learning curve. Love that we as your friends can live a little vicariously through your courageous life choices. xo

  6. Carolyn says:

    Can't wait to watch you take on this next phase Darling and I sincerely hope that life throws some unexpected adventures at you too and that it is not all easy and as familiar as standing on your head, now get packed and F**k off 🙂 xx

  7. A very inspiring thought from you, I really follow my heart, were on the same path… I sometimes disobey advises just to follow what's in my heart. That can make me satisfied of , the choices we made, makes us grateful so that's the essence of having the satisfaction in life…

  8. birgit says:

    yay! love this post… absolutely love this post.

    right now I’m just waiting for that “right moment”… maybe at some point I’ll be able to see that there never IS a “perfect opportunity” and that one just has to jump right in – glad you’re jumping though! all the best! 😉

  9. Stephanie says:

    Thank you Donna, you just helped me feel like i'm doing the right thing too . (Quitting my life in France to go back to Australia) You put the words on my feelings!

    Good Luck 🙂