Date a Girl Who Runs. ~ Sheila Seiler

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Date a girl who runs because she knows how to go the distance, even when the going gets tough.

Because it will get tough. Her side will hurt and she didn’t eat breakfast, but you won’t hear her complaining because she’s in it for the long haul.

Date a girl who runs because she doesn’t need you to be her therapist or to fill her up because she has her beat-up running shoes to do that for her, and this means that you can just be you.

Date a girl who looks at food as fuel, not an enemy; she sees her thighs as gladiators slaying the beast of her demons, not as objects to cover up in bed. Date a girl who thinks of her body as a tool, an instrument to play, taking it to its limits, and not as something she hates. Watch her eat a stack of pancakes or plate after plate of eggs, never worrying about the calories.

Watch how she never asks you if these shorts make her look fat. Because they don’t. And even if she’s a big girl, she won’t care what you think because she will feel powerful and strong. When you’re with her, you’ll feel powerful and strong.

Date a girl who runs because she’ll know how to be alone without you, and sometimes she’ll need those solo runs.

Date a girl who runs because she’ll also know how to adjust her pace to fall in step with yours. And if you’re worth it, she will.

Date a girl who runs because she knows how to sprint when needed, and she knows when to make long strides for hours, if that’s what it takes.

Massage her feet and legs when she’s achy and listen when she talks about gear. She’ll appreciate you taking the time,  even if you’re not a runner, or rather, especially if you’re not a runner. Runners are focused and they notice, so she will notice.

Date a girl who plans her vacations according to trails because so much of what we’ve lost is that connection to nature and how it feels to see a rabbit at sunrise hopping next to you.

Date a girl who knows how to walk it off when she’s hurt, and she will get hurt. If not her hamstrings, then her heart.  If you’re lucky, she’ll come over for a sweaty hug.

Date a girl who runs because she’s got more on her mind than makeup and keeping up with the neighbors because she’s too busy trying to keep up with herself, outpace herself, outdo herself. If you want her to stay interested, set your own intentions about how you can be a better You.

Date a girl who runs because smiling while you sweat is sexy, and she knows that.

And she knows that she looks her best after a long run, even if there’s dust all over her cheeks, and her nose is sunburned. She knows she looks amazing because she is smiling.  In fact, she’s almost always smiling because she’s always releasing endorphins.

Date a girl who runs because she has great skin from all the hydration, and it’s so soft under your touch. And even if she has wrinkles, her brow is serene when she gazes off into the distance. And they’re probably laugh lines, anyway, because of those endorphins.

Date a girl who runs because she can’t be moved, and you wouldn’t settle for anything less.

Date a girl who runs because she knows how to quietly, patiently work every week on a goal she set that’s half a year or a year away. She’ll be working on her time, her distance, but what she’s really working on, is herself.

Date a girl who runs because if you’re reading this, you want to work on yourself and she’ll help you.

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Sheila Seiler

Sheila Seiler is a writer and community organizer who lives in Shanghai, China.  She likes smiling.  Smiling is her favorite. You can find her on Twitter.

 

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anonymous Jun 7, 2015 10:30pm

Love this! Spool true wow!

anonymous Jun 20, 2014 9:37pm

Hmm… I've been running for years with quite a few marathons under my belt, and yet I'm not sure if half of these items apply to me. Am I the only one who feel this way?

anonymous Jun 18, 2014 6:34pm

My wife is a runner, but she has made it very clear that she doesn’t want me to date another girl, even if she is a runner…

anonymous Jun 18, 2014 2:48pm

Runs..or has passion for things she /he does.
A person with passion is interesting, deep, has opinions, brains, knowledge.
That is so sexy.

anonymous Jun 18, 2014 12:42am

Runs (ultras), Surfs, Climbs – because rolling with the punches, and getting back up because you love what it is – are all part of the game.

anonymous Apr 15, 2014 3:48am

GREAT POST ! !

anonymous Jan 31, 2014 1:40pm

I loved this post so much it inspired me to write my own humorous take on it lol Girl or woman if you run you're amazing, period 🙂 Thank you for putting this up for everyone to see 😀 And here's my link if you'd like to check it out. http://blondersideoflife.wordpress.com/2014/01/31

anonymous Jan 31, 2014 10:05am

change 'girl' to 'woman' (unless this is written for teens) in these articles. Its not just semantics, but it is also a cultural way of thinking about/ valuing a woman and her accomplishments. if she is grown, call her a woman. food for thought. thanks to the writers who note this distinction.

anonymous Jan 30, 2014 2:39pm

She is so worth it! I could use some help from the Universe. Please. 🙂

anonymous Jan 30, 2014 9:15am

I've been running for years and YEARS, but am brand new to dating (again) after even more years. Thank you, Sheila, for encouraging me more than you can know. I AM this woman and believe in the man who wants to be with a 'girl' who runs.

anonymous Jan 30, 2014 4:05am

I loved this write up. I recently turned a runner ( 6 months back) and it has been an amazing journey. And 99% of the time I am focussed on running.

anonymous Apr 15, 2014 3:50am

It is a great post & I do agree with the above to change it to woman.