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January 20, 2014

Watch this Woman Undergo a “Beautiful” Transformation. {Video}

Every culture has a different idea of what beautiful is.

Yet, there’s a common thread that ties many of these diverse definitions of beauty together, and that is: we will never live up to our society’s standards of beauty unless we use photoshop, botox, and go under the knife. And, in my humble opinion, we shouldn’t play this “beauty” game.

We should just be our beautiful self, perfectly imperfect and proud of it.

Yet, to “make it” in the music and film industry many performers are forced to ascribe to their society’s impossible standards of beauty. One example (among many): just this week, the American singer Kesha was admitted to a rehabilitation center to seek treatment for bulimia. Her mother issued a statement claiming that it was society’s penchant for body shaming that caused her eating disorder, almost killing her.

However, it’s not just American singers, and performers who are being told they’re look isn’t good enough. It’s a disease that runs rampant throughout all societies, a virus that especially targets women.

In the below music video, I might not be able to understand the Hungarian lyrics, but I can understand the overall message that the singer Boggie is trying to convey by showing us just how “tökéletesség” (the Hungarian word for perfect) she really is.

And I must say, I really, really love her for that.

What an amazing voice.

 

Relephant reads:

How Photoshop Ruins Our Self-image. ~ Kai DuBose

These are totally Photoshopped.

The Real Unphotoshopped Me. ~ Liz Arch Photographed by Robert Sturman

Before & After Photoshop.

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Johnk593 Jul 4, 2014 11:43pm

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Colleen Jan 22, 2014 1:19pm

As noted above, better lighting would have "corrected" much of the this. But also, so would a little makeup. Don't all of those of us who wear makeup already "play the beauty game"? As does the author of this piece, who clearly wears makeup. Wearing makeup is "playing the beauty game." Photoshop isn't the enemy. Women have been transforming their appearances through makeup, fashion, etc., since forever. I know very few people who resort to "the knife," although it may happen more than any of us knows. But quite frankly, I don't know how it would be my business or yours if my neighbor or my friend or a total stranger does. Should we shame women for those choices any more than women are shamed for not conforming to particular standards of weight or beauty? Even if it's "going under the knife"? Shaming others in this way, in my thinking, is unacceptable. You can't possibly know what leads others to the choices they make. Sometimes, those choices helps them feel easier in their own skin and less unhappy. You can say that's not right. But what you're saying is it's not right for you. We really have no business telling others what's right for them. Michelle Obama herself just noted she'd never say never to the possibility of cosmetic surgery or botox. I've "gone under the knife." I lived all my life hating my face. A couple of years ago, I finally did something about it. Yes, I was fortunate to be able to afford it. Yes, for the first time in my life (I'm 59), I felt good about my face. I used to be so self conscious it was often difficult for me to enjoy myself in the company of others. Now? I forget about my appearance. It was a dramatic shift in my sense of self in the world, and it happened practically overnight, whereas the nearly 50 years of trying very hard to accept myself accomplished exactly nothing. You can say that's wrong, if you like. You can believe that I shouldn't have had to do it and therefore because you believe I shouldn't have I should have just sucked it up and accepted myself as I was. But I'm as convinced I would still be sitting here today disliking myself just that much. Life's short. We should accept other women's choices about how they live comfortably in the world. Whether that means wearing makeup or not, wearing fashionable clothing or deliberately eschewing fashion, or "going under the knife." A final point, the author is young. As so many women past a certain age note, all young women are beautiful. You don't know what that means til you're much older.

Kara V Jan 21, 2014 12:16pm

I like the statement they're making here, but like 70% of those photoshop corrections could have been avoided if they just lit the room well in the first place.

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