8 Keys to Living as an Empowered Empath.

Via Keith Artisan
on Feb 4, 2014
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A recent article on elephant journal about How to Love an Empath intrigued me.

I love all the points that the author makes about living with an empath. At one point, Rebecca mentions that empathy is a blessing and a curse, and I couldn’t agree more. Speaking as an empath and operating more from my feeling center than thinking center, these are some observations about how to live as an empath.

1. Honor and appreciate the empathic, feeling state of consciousness.

Empaths often experience pressure for being different. Operating from the heart is a trait which the modern world looks down upon. Being different brings a great deal of challenges. It’s easy to be misunderstood by others, and then to take their disapproval within. Most sensitives that I have encountered try to deny this aspect of themselves at great cost.

Being empathic is a normal human trait. It’s a gift to be attuned within and without. Sensing moods of people and tones in environments is an essential ability for health. I’d even say that it’s a core survival trait: knowing who and what is a danger to oneself and one’s family.

2. Identify how empathic consciousness is different from thought consciousness.

Day and night have obvious differences because they are observable with the eye. Empathic awareness is much harder to identify because it cannot be seen. It is only felt and experienced within. By identifying the differences in how empathy works, its traits turn from a curse to a blessing. By knowing when the mind and its thoughts are dominant, self-knowledge is attained. Thoughts and feelings are different, and recognizing the differences and their internal results is liberating.

Rather than being pulled by energetic tides, observation gives a powerful defensive response to remain centered.

3. Believe your intuition—it is accurate.

Most empaths deny their gut-instinct. Never do this. Your intuition is accurate. This does not mean that the feeling can be fully understood or embraced. The knowledge may be incomplete. Yet, the feeling itself is real and there is a deeper communication occurring that needs to be embraced.

4. Just because it can be felt does not mean the observation is complete or fully understood.

Making assumptions based on a felt observation is a huge pitfall for sensitives. The connection between the feeling and thinking states has just as many complications as communication between men and women. The feeling and mental states are simply different. Reflecting on what the feelings may be trying to reveal is wise. Jumping to conclusions can bring disastrous results.

Because emotions are always in flux and have various depths, the messages may be mixed and hidden. They can change. Details and subtleties may become apparent with reflection and taking time to understand.

5. Notice the changing feelings within and identify key emotional states and what influences them.

One of the biggest gifts for an empath is relating to feelings and identifying different emotional states. This is similar to a musician who can identify different musical tones or an artist who recognizes various shades of colors.

The internal emotional landscape can change based on external influences; different people, environments, foods, sounds, scents and more can alter the empathic response. Being able to know who, what, how and why these feelings change enables empathy to become a gift. Rather than being driven by empathy, it allows responsiveness.

6. Nurture the states of feeling that you want to live with.

In being responsive and knowing which internal emotional states matter, empaths can do what it takes to feel right. A musician knows to play certain combinations to make particular sounds, and an artist knows which color combinations will create the desired form.

An empath can sculpt their emotional landscape by bringing into their life more of what works, and releasing what doesn’t.

7. Empaths are also “feeling” projectors.

Most empaths are unaware that the ability to sense emotions also grants the ability to project them. The influence happens regardless if one is aware of it or not.

An empath can influence the moods and feelings of other people and can alter the energetic climate of a room, eventor group of people. Most empaths do this unknowingly. Once you are able to see how this happens, it enables your mere presence to be a gift to others. It can also become a silent language, speaking disapproval or discontent without saying a word or even moving a muscle.

Awakening to this aspect of empathy empowers the sensitive to take responsibility for their sphere of influence and how their own moods, feelings and emotions can impact their family, friends and environments. This is why it is essential for empaths to wake up to their ability—honoring, appreciating, recognizing and taking responsibility for what happens within themselves.

8. Find ways to be an expressive empath through creative channels.

Empaths often don’t feel heard or understood. It is an internal domain that many people never understand. To rely on others for self-understanding can become a detriment and distraction.

More importantly, empaths often don’t know how to express their spirit. Other channels of communication are essential for getting those feelings out. Art, writing, music, dance, science—any form of active creativity that channels the creative source into tangible results clears the internal channels and is self-nurturing.

To close, I share the words of my most favored wisdom guides.

“May the force be with you.”

~ Yoda

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About Keith Artisan

Keith Artisan believes each human is innately good and imbued with talent. Believing that life is a mystery, he feels it is his life purpose to inspire people to believe in themselves and live their truth. Living what he believes, Keith actively serves his community as an entrepreneur, artist, yoga instructor, musician, writer, and mentor. He is online at Facebook and his website, Living Artisan .


15 Responses to “8 Keys to Living as an Empowered Empath.”

  1. John H says:

    As I was reading your article I thought of the writings of "Care of the Soul" author, Thomas Moore. Moore says our souls speak in poetry, not literally. Your advice about sitting with your intuitions and feelings to get a complete picture of what is being felt is wise. Often the poem takes awhile to reveal its full message.

  2. LivingArtisan says:

    Indeed. What a great metaphor. Very accurate. Thank you for sharing your thoughtful insight.

  3. Zoe says:

    Great article! I'm glad you mentioned the projecting part too. I was wondering exactly about that right before I scrolled, and saw #7. This is great stuff to consider.

  4. LivingArtisan says:

    Yep ! It's an often under acknowledged aspect of being an empath … its one of our most potent traits. Kind of like a jedi mind trick. 🙂 I receive common feedback from people who tell me that they feel safe and secure with me, even if they are a total stranger ; its because I am centered and emotionally grounded.

    Thanks for the feedback Zoe !

  5. mary says:

    I am very new to all of this, the chakra, meditation, yoga, etc. I know I am an empathe, and I know that my chakra is unbalanced. What I don’t know is what to do about it. Could you recommend some books to help me understand all of this? It would be much appreciated

    thank you Mary

  6. 000 says:

    at the verge of overwhelmingly painful confusion and daze, feeling smallest of the small…….you might have just saved my life.

  7. LivingArtisan says:

    One breath at a time ; it does get better. Please stay with us, you are loved.

  8. LivingArtisan says:

    "The Highly Sensitive Person" was a huge help for me.

  9. Amy Phoenix says:

    An answer to prayers. Thank you very much.

  10. Vino Rama says:

    I am definitely an Empath….but my husband is an Aspergers . Opposite ends of the spectrum and we are draining each other…struggle, struggle, struggle….we don't fit. What is that about a square peg in a round hole…something like that…help somebody?????

  11. Lori says:

    I am a true empath, and nothing can make my day more full that when I read words that explain what makes me ME, but have been unable to explain to people my whole life. I still struggle with #8, but am working toward outlets for my "passion," which I like to think of as all my feelings put together to equal incredible insight and power to help others.

    #7 is what I give to my co-workers. I can walk into a room where there's stress, bickering, etc, and the mood will change without me saying a word. I've been told over and over again, that they all love it when I'm working because "it just feels so calm". Little do they know what difficult work this is being empathic. Oh well. One day at a time. 🙂

  12. Christian says:

    Funny sometimes where we are lead to when searching for the truth and then tide and surf collide, high souls meeting in brilliant articulate explanation of the incomprehensible. This is the best insight into the empathic being that I have ever read and I thank you for the artistic effort applied to each point. For years I have struggled with stringing together the words that empower and explain our position, and here I find them; brief, perfect, succinct.
    Thank you, Christian

  13. cathy987 says:

    Love the description, great article. The thing that has helped me most is becoming a skilled empath, learning how to handle my gifts and being able to turn them off or on at will. To not be drained all the time is a plus. 🙂 If you have never read it the book by Rose Rosetree, Become the Most Important Person in the Room: Your 30 Day Plan for Empath Empowerment , it should be read by every empath on the planet. None of us needs to live a life of suffering.

  14. Melissa says:

    I can’t begin to tell you how much this resonated with me. Here I was thinking that my 22 month old daughter was an empath and that I needed to work on my own projecting, when really we’re both empaths! What an amazing insight for me to have as her mom! Hopefully I can teach her how to embrace and manage it better than I have. From the bottom of my heart – thank you.

  15. Melissa says:

    Who wrote The Highly Sensitive Person?