9 Tips on Dating an Aquarius.

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Into someone born between January 20th and February 18th?

I wrote horoscopes for 10 years; of course the sign I paid the most attention to was my own, the Aquarius.

Since I have another birthday coming up I decided it was time to help all of those other people out there understand the 11th Astrological sign on the zodiac calendar just a little bit better.

Here are 9 things that help improve relationships with an Aquarius:

1. Stimulate the Intellect
Nothing makes an Aquarius heart skip a beat faster than another human being that can match wits. As knowledge seekers, the Aquarian will not only want to learn from a partner, but also share as many intellectual adventures together as possible. Some such adventures to have with this sign could include watching a documentary, checking out a museum, spending an entire afternoon at a bookstore, going to a park to stare at the clouds while having a philosophical discussion and/or travelling abroad, to name a few.

2. Save the Drama For Your Mama
The Aquarius is a terrific problem solver—if the problem is something that needs a rational solution. The Aquarian is not one to wade in the muck of gossipy nonsense or help with issues that have no practical resolution available. Aquarians work much better big scale, like charity events or ending gender oppression compared to one-on-one situations with friends, family or lovers. So, remember go to an Aquarian when looking for a logical way to solve an issue, not just to vent.

3. Be One Step Ahead (If Possible)
The Aquarian is a future-seeker who goes after big change. They are definitely not afraid to be a leader when it comes to alternative thinking. Aquarius has a zeal for embracing all that comes with the new age and would prefer someone to hold hands with while jumping ahead than to be with someone stagnant or worse, stuck in the past.

4. Embrace Alone Time
Alone time is not just wanted by an Aquarian, it’s needed. Often, over time, a person in a relationship with an Aquarius will be able to sense when this aloofness is on its way and will know that creating space is the best way to go here. It’s not that there has been a sudden end in the liking of another person, it’s just that the Aquarian enjoys time for inner thoughts and discoveries; this affords the occasion to recharge, re-energize and refresh. It also gives Aquarian partners the opportunity to do their own thing as well.

5. Support the Eccentricities
Aquarians are the weirdest of the signs, that’s probably why more Aquarians are inventors than any other one out there. They see beyond what is there; they’re creative, innovative, and will say and do the strangest things; accept it, embrace it, enjoy it.

6. Be the Warmth
One thing that an Aquarian can really learn from others is the art of intimacy. They are so up in their heads rationalizing everything that they can end up coming off cold. They need someone ready and willing to help them open up more (of course they have to be ready and willing to give intimacy a whirl and that may be the more difficult challenge). There’s a great quote out there that goes something like, “with great intimacy one does not give up space, but expands both his and hers” (or her and hers or his and his). If one wants to get closer to an Aquarius, one must request the closeness.

7. Practice Golden-Retriever-Like Friendships
Once an Aquarius has decided to open up and trust someone they will be loyal to that person to the end—and they expect the same in return. They will protect and defend all who they love: friends, family, partners, and because it takes a while for an Aquarius to show vulnerability, when they do it’s a big deal that comes with grand rewards like loyalty, commitment, integrity. If it can not be or is not reciprocated they will quickly be over that person.

8. Be a Sexual Explorer
Innately curious and stemming from that love of learning, an Aquarius will easily transfer those traits to the bedroom—and they desire the same from a partner, or else why have a partner there at all?

9. Watch Them Spread Their Wings and Fly
Don’t be afraid to let go—maybe love is there but also with it, too much distant or coldness—don’t string along the Aquarian. They admire honesty and will continue to value an honest person instead of finding them weak and unworthy of continued involvement of any kind. Often the Aquarius feels caged and will do exude effort to expand and search for more out of life, sure the Aquarian wants someone with to share the adventure with, but wants someone there who is flexible and inquisitive—without those traits the Aquarian would rather go it alone.

Dating an Aquarius is a constant adventure; they are intelligent, quirky, and loyal but they can be aloof and overly rational. They are terrific lovers once they open up a bit more to intimacy, which can happen with the right warm person. They need someone who can both keep up and stand up, basically, a confident open-minded explorer.

The Aquarius is not the easiest of signs to have a romantic relationship with, but totally worth the effort.


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About Krystal Baugher

Krystal Baugher lives in Denver. She earned her MA in Writing and Publishing and her MA in Women and Gender Studies from DePaul University/Chicago. She is the creator of Mile High Mating, a website dedicated to helping people "do it" in Denver and beyond. You can find her on facebook and twitter (as long as you aren’t a stalker).


27 Responses to “9 Tips on Dating an Aquarius.”

  1. Christine says:

    Loved this happy read!
    xo Aquarius born 2.11

  2. trin says:

    Now all I need is an Aquarian man!!!! Or do I? This is a solid list of me to the bone, thanks for clearing me up for me 😉

    • ceejayelle7 says:

      do you suggest an Aquarius date another Aquarius? Thats exaaactly what I AM!

      • April says:

        Yes!!! My boy friend is . we both are and we get each other like NO other. So much passion and forgivness mentally and emotionally when fighting and when not. So much longing and Hot passionet baby making sex .

  3. Kik says:

    Basically just described me, and me in relationships in a nutshell. Wowzer. Born 2.13.

  4. Lulu says:

    Loved this! As an Aquarian in a relationship I have to say this is spot on. Now will you please write one of these for my Pisces partner?

  5. brooksider926 says:

    I was born at 12:20 a.m., February 19th. I'm an Aquarian, but some end at Feb. 18, some end at Feb. 19. Which is it?

  6. Matty says:

    what about an aquarian with an aquarian? I just met this other aquarian guy as a friend (we're gay) and we immediately became extremely intimate in conversation about life and experience with family. Attraction was immediately stated by both him and I , but scary, we look nothing alike but think exactly the same. THE PROBLEM, or learning opportunity in my situation, is that he is in his alone time mind set as an aquarian, yet I know i should be too, but i want to establish such a friendship fast. but his alone independence is getting in the way. I believe I should wait it out, or do you think as an aquarius is it okay to be straight forward? because I have no problem doing such.. Im just a little blinded by you can say "love". lol ewwy. anyway. Thank you Beautiful for this post, I absolutely loved it.

  7. Coda says:

    This describes me nearly perfectly. It's been a long long time since I've met someone who has stimulated my intellect and need for adventure, and it's true that I'd rather just go it alone if that need isn't met. I would be so excited if I could be with and love someone who could share this wanderlust and taste for adventure , but some times I wonder if I'll ever meet that person. Good thing I enjoy my own company. Oh well!

  8. CJ says:

    You are kidding! This is just about accurate!

  9. seelie says:

    wow! this is so me! I’m shocked by the accuracy. Could you please write about Aquarius-Aquarius combination?

  10. L.M. Dry says:

    It’s always fun to read into something about oneself and yes this does accurately describe my Aquarian traits. I’m not into reading horoscopes for daily/future reference … when it comes to pointing out certain characteristics of each sign, like this has, I find a lot of truths and definitions very accurate. Narcissistically I’m quite sure because I really do enjoy reading articles that catch these glimpses especially of myself and secondly others in my Life. Thanks!!


    Entertained in Texas.

  11. Vcap says:

    This describes how half the population thinks of themselves. Narcissistic much?

  12. Angie says:

    2 Aquarians have a lot of fun…but get nothing done!!

  13. Imani says:

    Number 5 is totally me. I'm the weirdest mofo you'll ever meet 🙂

  14. imfo says:

    Im a gemini and my relationship

    With an aquarian man is unexplainable. If only iv read this before …yes, he is very cold and i thot he lost interest in me anymore but then he iv found out he did not..he just needed space but im a clingy person. Right now, we broke up for the reason he couldnt take my emotional msgs to him or me telling my problems to him. He won’t talk to me now and i just want us to be just friends again…but he shut me off…if only ive read this way before i dated the guy. Pls help me win him back. Email me. Thank you

    Asap pls before i go nuts.

  15. Bob says:

    How about for Cancers???

  16. mike says:

    So I’m born on Valentine’s day and this article describes how i am and what i require to perfection very good job on this we Aquarius are hard to understand for most and i hope this helps some people out

  17. Gabriel Beltran says:

    This was great advice not only for those dating an Aquarius but those of us who fall under this sign.

  18. Jamie says:

    How about tips on dating a Pisces?

  19. Arthura says:

    Thank you for this. Opening up is hard for an aquarian as myself but once we find the right friend partner.. we open up the horizon to ourself and theirs!! 🙂

  20. Arthura says:

    Thank you for this! Opening up for an aquarian, as myself, is hard. But once we find the right partner friend, relative.. we open up the horizon to ourselves and theirs!!! :- ) Theres'a beautiful vulnerability beneath that outer confident persona that we exude.

  21. Shon says:

    I love this post I saw me in a lot of the points and I saw my partner in others. It's so crazy because we're both Aquarians but soooo very different. He's the aloof and intellectually stimulated one. I'm the weird I need my freedom one. So we bump major heads. We've been at it for 10+ years but it probably will never work. Because we always fight for that escape only to be right back at it. This helped me see things from a different angle. He also agreed that this post was spot on. Thank you for the good read

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