What it Means to Love a Libra.

Via on Oct 6, 2013
Photo via Rossi Photography

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“We love the things we love for what they are.” ~ Robert Frost

A Libra longs for partnership, it is her heart’s forever-wish; but to love a Libra, you must love her completely.

A Libra will need space; she’ll need freedom to be who she is in any given moment. She wants to suffer, celebrate, hate and adore who she is. These things are always changing and often conflicting, because she’s constantly discovering new pieces of who she is.

She’ll never tell you something critical straightaway, instead she’ll sit with it until the perfect words ring true in her heart and ever-so-carefully move into her mouth. Even then, she might write you a letter. Because the intensity of her feelings can make the speaking of words such a task.

She loves words. She loves the magic they hold, the way they can free her (and so few things can).

So to love a Libra, understand that the words always matter—they are the brush strokes of her heart. She won’t lie, she’s no good at it. She won’t brag, for she holds words in too high esteem. Your words must never be cheapened through unfulfilled promises or patronization. If your speech is unkind, she’ll remember and the words will never hurt less.

She’s an artist, through and through. But a Libra, to survive in the world, must find her medium. The words, or paints, the delicate, mindful crease of a freshly-made bed—it’s all art to her. Beautiful pieces of anything. She needs objects and sounds and smells and textures to resonate with that place deep inside that says, “Yes. That’s it, now it is exactly right.” To love a Libra, you must know this.

She’ll need her art like you need your breath—without it, she will lose track of who she is.

You must watch the curve of her mouth; her lips will purse (ever-so-slightly) and when they do, you can rest assured that her mind wanders because her heart is not still. You’ll notice her eyes are far away; in that moment, you must let her go there—to the place where the words find their way to the air—but not for too long. She’s always in danger of escaping for too long.

She seeks stillness.

A Libra will love her body. She’ll hate her body too. But you must love it, you must always love it. You must look into her eyes and smile. Move her hair from her face so you can get a better look. You must touch the places that hardly get touched: her neck as she does the dishes, her collar bone as she types at her desk, her hip as you stand in line at the grocery store. You must weave the ordinary with the erotic. Slide your hands firmly over every inch of her skin as if it were the first time you’ve ever touched her. You must touch her. She’ll crave your embrace and wither without it.

She needs romance. And so many kisses.

She needs to be whisked away to see the world and she needs a comfortable home to return to.

She’ll cry. A lot. She’ll cry and you won’t know what’s wrong. She won’t tell you what’s wrong, not at first, because she might not know. There will be times when she simply needs to feel sadness, she needs to feel the struggle of being alive, even when you both don’t understand.

Whatever it is, she feels it more.

The weight of her fears, her curiosities, everything: of being human, of responsibility, of hate and violence and injustice, of beauty and lightness and breath, all of it. It frighteners her, but amazes her too. So she’ll need time and space to explore, to dance and to fall apart, because there is nothing more lovely than a Libra experiencing the world. She sees magic where others do not. She needs to believe in magic. Ferociously.

And when she finally turns 30—when the leaves are changing and she feels most herself—you’ll be mindful of her feelings; because, even if it isn’t a big deal, it is a big deal and the tears that stream for no particular reason come from a place of shame in her heart.

To love a Libra, you must celebrate; you must celebrate her, life, the amazing, the plain, everything and anything.

To love a Libra is to love the very essence of love, warts and all.

There’s a delicate balance—a perpetual tug-of-war—between feeling fierce and complete against feeling soft and frail. Always trying to reach that impossible balance, she never quite knows who she is.

To compensate for the not-knowing she’ll please everyone around her. She’ll accommodate others and fix situations until you resent her for it; but, to love a Libra is to see that her self-sacrifice, no matter how destructive, is how she loves. Her bleeding heart is how she finds her place in a world that can be unkind; it’s the way she can claim some shred of control—she believes that kindness is what matters most.

A Libra needs you to push her toward self-care. She’ll never choose her needs first, so you’ll have to teach her this craft. You’ll need to teach her that putting her needs before others is not the same as selfishness, because she sees selfishness as ugly.

Ugliness scares her.

Loneliness too.

Her heart will break often. Her heart will feel lonely and sad about many things, but you must never be the one to break it completely.

To capture a Libra’s heart is to capture her heart forever. There are no partners more committed, more attentive than your Libra. You mustn’t ever take her for granted though; for a Libra’s heart will grow uneasy when neglected, her heart will close and you risk never finding your way in again.

Her heart knows the secret to everything. Protect it.

breakfast at tiffSometimes she’ll feel lost. She’ll need hot tea and blankets, black-and-white movies, and no conversation. Other times, she’ll need people. Parties and midnight walks and deep, frenzied conversation—she likes literature and science and philosophy best. She likes whiskey too. To love her, you’ll need to know that.

She’ll need constant reminders that she’s a lovely being, that she’s loved—better yet, adored. She needs mindful smothering, she needs adventure. A Libra wants autonomy, but can’t stand the thought of being left alone. You must learn to accept her, even as a contradiction.

She’ll require decisiveness, as she has none of her own. She’ll surprise you with spontaneity and you’ll admire the commitment she shows to her heart’s content. But if she has time to think, any decision will be painful—be it where to eat, what to wear or who to love. This will frustrate you, but you must try understand. For her, there is no such thing as an obvious choice.

Loving a Libra means loving love itself. She loves everything about love: the connection, the discovery, the heartache, the ecstasy, the very idea of love—it’s all the same. She yearns for the safety of partnership, but she thrives on the excitement of love’s uncertainty.

She wants passion.

She can see the good in almost any person, but in a lover she requires intelligence and humor. There is nothing sexier than wit.

She hates discord, because it makes her feel vulnerable; but to love her is not to worry too much, because she believes in forgiveness and trust—enough to repair almost any injury done to her. When you fight with a Libra, she’ll be certain that every fight is the end of everything and this will destroy her a little; you must remind her that every argument is an opportunity for growth—it is the beginning of a new everything. Loving a Libra means knowing there are few things more important than make-up sex.

She loves falling in love, so to love a Libra you’ll have to fall in love time and time again. She’ll require perpetual evolution, and inspiration, and a little dose of sin.

To love a Libra you’ll need to see the good intention that she always has in her heart; to ignore this well-meaning piece of her is to deny her a personal truth. She cannot survive without this particular truth. When she’s awful, or rude, or arguing because she’s right—and she’s usually right, because she’s a Libra and it’s in her nature to be fair and just and indisputably right—you must breathe. Then trust her tears and her words to be true.

She cares too deeply to ever inflict intentional harm.

But if you witness the flash of anger in her eyes, you must let her rage. For gentle, compassionate Libra will storm fiercely in the face of injustice. You must allow her the space to be a warrior when her heart tells her it is time to fight. You must stand beside her, admire her devotion and believe in the cause—see it for what it is, a manifestation of her heart’s deepest purpose.

Believe in her and she’ll believe in you too.

She might be cast as an introvert. She might be tagged an extrovert by those who know her best. Neither matters, as long as she feels connected to what surrounds her.

When a Libra is happy, she can take over the world. She need only be equipped with the proper music, laughter and her smile.

The trick is in keeping her there; for in that moment is an ocean of contentment that only her huge heart can appreciate. If you can keep her in the moment, you can keep her forever. But the Libra mind will drift and worry. It will linger on the wrong that cut her too deeply. She will scrutinize over the words you used, or the words that went unspoken. She’ll wonder about security and what each embrace or touch or quarrel will mean in the long-term; to love a Libra, you must gently guide her back to the now again and again and again.

Libra blossoms in the joyful now.

She believes in the goodness of people, in magic and (above all else) in happily ever after.

To love a Libra, you must believe in her for everything she is.


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158 Responses to “What it Means to Love a Libra.”

  1. Ann says:

    It's as if you knew me for a very long time to said things about me. . . Thank you! Well written!

  2. Robin says:

    You nailed me right on the head. Thank you. I absolutely loved this

  3. Jessica says:

    Hi Sara. You should offer this on canvas. I would, as I am sure many here order one for my home. I would place it in my entry way so that my family, friends and guest understand who and what I offer them as a friend, wife, mother, daughter, etc. Sooo beautiful – beyond words (wait that isn't true as you've just put it in text). Please let me know if you start selling your work for print.

  4. jordan says:

    Absolutely beautiful. Everytime I read it.

  5. Orange says:

    Wait…did I write this? No…but wow you sure said it all right lady, down to the whiskey! Thank you. Definitely sharing with my Libra-lovers and friends.

  6. SuperNVAli says:

    Loved it. You described me to a T, right down to the whiskey, like a few of the other ladies. I was tearing up as I read. Nodding my head..Yes. True. Yep, that’s me….Loved it Loved it. Thank you!!

  7. Anne says:

    Tears…. every word is true. How do you know me so well? I need to show this to my boyfriend, then he will know who I am. Thank you!

  8. Rajveer Kaur says:

    I see that this was published on October 6th and I’m born on October 6th… Magical! It’s like someone described me to the T. Couldn’t stop smiling while reading it. Thank you! For doing this for all the librans out here.

    • Erinn D says:

      I’m also born in the 6th and like everyone else identified with this so much it was scary..

      • Trish Destiny says:

        Wow! I am born in the 6th October too!!!! And yes, numerologically being number 6th means we've got much sensitivity heightened too XD

  9. Sofi says:

    This is an absolutely amazing description of me..down to the whisky as someone has already said! 😀 I cried when reading it up to a point when you said Libra cries for any reason and then I laughed (with tears). My mom is a Libra, so I finally understand her better. She has cried so much in her life and always put needs of others before hers. I would get angry at her for it. Yet, I am quite similar. Only recently I have found out my Asc & Moon are in Libra. So I am finally discovering who I really am. Thank you for doing this!

  10. Michelle says:

    Yes. Yes. Yes. and Yes.

  11. Anna says:

    Sara, I did not think I knew who you were but I feel that after reading this maybe I do. Meeting another Libra is always a beautiful thing, and as you said, the words – the most important words – make a fine meeting. You are a wonderful being, as are all the women who have commented on this, and beyond! Love always… Not just love of Libras, but love of all life <3 Thank you, bless you!

  12. Peg says:

    I'm a Virgo but this described me to a T…need to read how to love a Virgo …

  13. Kay says:

    I read this and cried. This is ME. To know that there is someone in the world that understands made everything beautiful again. This is my heart and mind and life. This is who I am.

  14. Garima says:

    Wow…beautiful…wonderful. It felt as if I myself was looking at me in those words. Mind boggling.

  15. Nori says:

    I am Libra by the 12 original signs but it you use your true horoscope and use the 13 signs like it was meant to be I really a Virgo

  16. Kimberly says:

    This is so beautiful. I love it! I cried while reading it. It doesn’t just describe me, but it describes how I feel and what I believe. I will read this article over and over. Amazing! Thank you.

  17. Nikki says:

    Unbelievable! This describes me perfectly, all the way down to the whiskey. And it explains my unrest and struggle forgiving my husband for his unfaithfulness, I cant seem to let it go. It’s like you know me better than I know myself, thank you for writing this!

  18. Vivian says:

    I cried while reading this. It’s so beautifully written!
    (and glad to see I’m not the only one crying from the comments, haha!)

  19. spiritthrive says:

    Just began a relationship with a Libra. What a thorough, heartfelt guide you have provided! Thank you.

  20. athousandlittletriangles says:

    I just cried. This is so amazing. I wish I could print it out and give to all the people that don't understand me. Unfortunately I will forever be the only one to understand me. That's okay.

  21. Tatiana says:

    I got to say everything I read was on point, this is like a manual on me.

  22. nessa says:

    I can't believe I cried reading this! Like I am crying right now. That was beautiful and described me to the T omg seriously beautiful…

  23. Ronda Coney says:

    Why is it so hard for a libra to stay in a relationship

  24. Renee says:

    I too cried while reading and afterwards. It was exactly the emotions that I’ve been struggling with all my life and when I read your words, I just wept. I’ve always felt that being a libra, we are misunderstood. We are in our heads a lot more than everyone else. Thinking, analyzing, worrying. It’s so hard to stay in the now/present/straight ahead mode. Also, I have realized that I am a lot nicer and considerate than most people.

  25. douglas says:

    I wonder how it would be to love a male Libra. If it's around the same thing then I'm definitely not a true Libra. I was born a Libra and only care about the words whiskey, science, sin, and introvert that were written in this article. I strongly cringe at saying and thinking the words love and passion. Unless I'm adding video games, music, and money after them. I prefer to destroy rather than to build since it's more fun.

  26. Berenice Villegas says:

    Wow I’m speechless. This article is so on point it’s scary. Thank you so much for writing this. Reading this makes me excited becsuse it helps me explain and to put into words the passion and magic I feel inside and what it is I need and am looking for. Thank you!!!!

  27. Mel Sanchez says:

    You have a beautiful, powerful gift. I read this to my husband, father and mother and they all asked who I spoke to to write something so personal and honest…. I am Oct 2. I wish I could frame it!

  28. Nancy says:

    Wow…like many I cried also. This was so on point. Many times I read about us Libra’s n it always says how social we are, lie and even cheat. Makes us seem so horrible and as I read most articles I disagree because I’m not like how most describe a Libra until I read this. Very true we are lovers and when in love we will go to far extremes for our mate very loyal n much happier in loving healthy relationships. Try for this

  29. wrensong says:

    Lovely and an article that generalizes about Libras that I could relate to for once! Thanks :)

  30. Megan says:

    Wow, this is amazing! Read many a description of Librans; but this has been a soul entrancing and poetic embodiment of my feelings of being. Brought a tear. I'm sure other zodiacs can identify but this is so beautifully home. :)

  31. Jen says:

    I love this! I wish more people understood. This speaks of my heart in a way that I could not put words to!

  32. Guest says:

    I dated a Libra and she lied and cheated more than any other sign I have dated, so I call BS on this.

  33. Alison says:

    This also sums me up to a T…but I am NOT a Libra, I am a Capricorn woman who is married to a Libra man (the reason why I read this was because HE is a Libra). We've been married less than 10 years, so he probably hasn't 'rubbed off' on me to make me more like him. Actually, he's a scientist and could care less what things LOOK like as long as they function. He is a very loving man, though, and we complement each other perfectly. But this description of a Libra woman does NOT describe my Libra man. I hate to say it, but this could obviously fit many women, not just those who were birthed under the sign of Libra.

  34. Aradia says:

    Lovely that the female Libra is nothing like the male Libra I was in a relationship with. I was young and naive when we met. His depth of love (and all emotions for that matter) only came up to my knees while mine soared above my head. His desire for fetish over the true soul connection was insatiable. Wearing a piece of silk or satin panties (mine) was way more sexy to him than seeing or loving me for who I was. No, he preferred “things” over a deep human soul connection, not that he particularly preferred or made a mentally aware choice for it, rather he just didn’t know how to get emotionally deep or know how to connect intimately with another person on a deeper level. That was probably due to how he was raised. Thank God I only took his neglect for four and a half years….mostly waisted years as he taught me, an Aries, not much about anything other than what I didn’t want in a man for my next relationship, as it was all about himself and is insatiable desire for his fetishes that lead him constantly. It was very much like being with an addict. I tried my best to appease, but what he found exciting and a huge turn on, I found empty, fleeting and quite silly…did nothing for me. His roleplaying in the bedroom and use of “things” was just not my style. Not once did I ever feel he loved “me” for who I was. I was just the female in the room who cleaned the house and cooked the meals. But, I don’t believe in tagging all Libra men as the same as the one I experienced. Maybe I got one born with Saturn in retrograde (what ever that means….just know weird things happen when Saturn is in retrograde) or was born under some other strange astronomical anomaly that influenced him from the normal type of Libra male. In the end, neither of us were wrong or bad for being who we were. I realized we were just very different people. We both went our separate ways and I met a outdoorsy wild man and he met a Dominatrix and we were much better suited with our new partners.

  35. Amy says:

    Wow!!!! Not sure that anyone could explain me as a Libran any better than the way you just have. I wish I had the gut to print this and hand to potential partners day 1 to give them the warning and tools to love me the way I need. Thank you for a brilliant article that rings so true!

  36. Beth says:

    Where’s the “How to Love a Leo”?!

  37. cat says:

    holy s***! Yes, yes and more yes !

  38. Jenny says:

    This is so me down to the whiskey, crying over anything, needing my space and most of all to be loved and cuddled and to know I’m needed

    A people pleaser, always doing for everyone else.

    I so love this

    Yessss keep them coming :)

  39. Daniel Turner says:

    This isn’t strictly applicable to women. I can’t speak for all male Libras, but it’s like I’ve been seen for the first time. This gives me hope that someone may actually be capable of understanding my heart. They may see the poet, rather than a freak. See the complexities of my mind and emotions, and not despise me. To feel so deeply is both a blessing and a curse.

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