A Letter From The Love You Haven’t Met Yet.

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Dear Future Love of My Life:

I know. I should have written before.

Forgive me.

But I got the feeling that you were beginning to think I didn’t exist. But I do. And I wanted to let you know that while I might be as elusive as a unicorn grazing in a field of four leaf clovers, I’m close.

I’m around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger.

I made eyes at you once on the subway.

I saw you across the room at a party.

I swiped you right on Tinder.

But it’s not our time yet. And I know you’re wondering why.

It’s really not fair that you’ve had to wait this long, or go on blind dates, endure bad sex, settle for meh relationships, feel misunderstood, cry from loneliness, wrap your arms around a pillow as you fall asleep at night.

I’m so sorry, my love. You deserve an explanation.

So here it goes. It’s taken me a long time to even admit this to myself much less to you, so please know that everything I’ve written here is true.

The reasons we haven’t met yet, in no particular order:

1. I haven’t thrown out the list of things I think you should be.

2. I’m with the wrong person right now.

3. I’m not ready to be loved unconditionally.

4. Since my life isn’t together, I think you’ll reject me.

5. I still believe that drama is a show of love.

6. I’ve been intentionally keeping my head too busy to think with my heart.

7. I need to date more to understand what I do and don’t like.

8. I won’t be able to appreciate you until life has kicked my ass.

9. I’m too focused on my own needs.

10. I don’t know how to create the feeling of home that lives in my heart.

Clearly, I’m not my best self yet. Or even myself—I’m still figuring out who that is. I’m pretty sure even if we did meet, you wouldn’t like me all that much right now. It’s entirely possible that we did hit it off once, and I left without getting your information; or maybe I did get your number and never called because of any one of the above reasons.

Be patient with me, darling heart.

Know that I’m working my way toward you. So don’t spend any more time thinking about where I am or am not. Just keep making your life exciting and full, so when we do finally come together, we can bring each other joy, because we are already happy.

I know it’s taking longer than you’d like. It’s a hell of a lot slower than I could have ever imagined.

But I’m here.

This is me talking to you. And I’m not going anywhere.

Don’t give up on me.


In perpetuity,

The Love You Haven’t Met Yet


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About Emily Bracken

Emily Bracken is a writer of articles, the screen, and is currently at work on her first book, “Slutty Isn’t A Halloween Costume: And Other Things Only Your Cool Aunt Will Tell You.” She lives in Brooklyn Heights, NY and, sometimes, Venice, CA


85 Responses to “A Letter From The Love You Haven’t Met Yet.”

  1. Alice says:

    This made me feel feelings ! it’s seems it was written for me to read today at this moment ! so beautiful thank you for this article <3

  2. Vasudha Parashar says:

    It really felt like it is written by the love of my life I haven’t met. Two words. Motivational and Beautiful.

  3. Patricia says:

    This made me cry touching my soul. Thanks. It’s exactly how I feel. Thank you Emily. Not everyone can touch souls with words….

  4. Renee says:

    Thank you for this. It made me cry. It’s exactly what I needed right now. ❤️

  5. Angie says:

    Today is the day after Valentines Day, which was a hard day for me being alone. With that said after several failed relationships where I gave too much of myself and was left empty and hurt each time I have finally made peace with being alone and no longer feel like I need a man to complete my life. Believe me it took a long time to get here and a lot of tears! I now try to focus on my family and my new grandson who is my joy!! I have quit looking for love with a soulmate because I believe that was were I went wrong. You don’t have to force something if it is meant to be. I was moved by your letter but also want to that although it has taken 50 years it feels good to have made peace with being alone. There are times like yesterday that are still hard but those days pass. Thanks for the letter and I have accepted to just let whatever is meant to be .

  6. Michelle says:

    Thank you for this. Ive never read anything that touched my soul this much. The rush of emotions and tears flowing down my face was extremely unexpected. It’s like everything I felt deep in my heart put into words for the first time. Again, thank you.

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