10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman
Update, from my friend Lyndsey:
I never liked the fact that I was/am expected to say “thank you” for comments made on the street by a random person or when I am told to “smile” more by people I don’t know. I consider myself a friendly person, but there is a line between being nice and injecting your pervy aura onto someone who really doesn’t care about what you think. This video is the perfect example of that line being crossed.
My only wish, again, is that this doesn’t make folks uptight–but rather that we learn that it’s never appropriate to just holler at folks. If we want to be kind and non-creepy and say good morning in a human manner, jolly good, a society full of folks closed down and ignoring one another with their headphones on isn’t what we want, either. Neither extreme will create the kind of society we want to grow up in.
This was on the front page of reddit, today, which can be a pretty man-centric community, and even reddit was shocked. One comment:
“I lived, worked and went to university in NYC in the 70s and 80s. Street harassment was a big issue back then. Some of what I endured was much much worse than what is seen in this video. Guys exposing themselves, guys threatening to rape my fucking ass because I wouldn’t talk to them, other hostile acts and taunts. Construction workers were the stereotypical harassers but it was not confined to them. Anybody could be a harasser. Guys in 3 piece suits going to work would harass me. Clean cut guys on the subway grabbing me or exposing themselves. And it was just as many whites as blacks as latinos. I don’t remember any Asians bugging me.
At some point you learn to tune it out but it is disrespectful and annoying. I have a right to be left alone to go about my business undisturbed. Just because I show my face in public does not mean I am looking for dick.”