December 10, 2014

Make Me Roar: 10 things that Turn Women On.

Women can seem complicated compared to the opposite sex, however, we’re really quite simple creatures, turned on by the simplest pleasures.

There are a few easy ways to make us roar deep on the inside and most of them aren’t even sexual.

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Here are some of my favourites.

  1. To be trusted—We want someone to have faith in us, to trust our judgement, our loyalty and our actions. Let us know that you can open up to us, be vulnerable and let us see exactly who you are. Put your trust in us and know that we are capable of as much as you, just sometimes in different ways. Don’t suffocate and try to hold on to our wings.
  2. A hot drink to wake up to—Regular or herbal tea, a coffee or whatever fires us up, waking up to a hot drink by our side can be the perfect way to rise on dark and chilly mornings.
  3. Sweets—Chocolate, jellies or old-school favourites. Come home with pockets filled with delights and you will be sure to earn guaranteed brownie points.
  4. Saying sorry and meaning it—A quality to be treasured and a certain heart melter. We all love to receive genuine heartfelt apologies when something has gone wrong. It repairs bridges, closes wounds and shouts out that the person who is offering it is conscious, authentically and willing to face up to their flaws and take the steps necessary to make amends. The sooner it is received, the better.
  5. The perfect bubble bath—Not just a regular bath; one exploding with bubbles, candles around the edges, warm fluffy towels ready, a glass of something delicious on the side and maybe even company. Those are the baths that really set our hearts racing.
  6. Picking up on what’s going on inside—If we’re happy, sad, angry or hurt we will usually send out strong subliminal messages. When those are picked up on, we know that we are really being noticed and paid attention to. Sometimes others can notice shifts in moods before we recognize it ourselves and if they do something that lifts our state of mind, it will calm, balance and soothe us. Yes, we are responsible for our own emotional levels, however, having someone close to us responding lovingly just reminds us once more how much we are loved.
  7. Keeping us safe—From spiders, monsters, bad hangovers, the cold, getting home safely, wearing a cycling helmet, holding a steadying hand when we wear our way-too-high-heels, there are so many different ways even the strongest and most independent woman likes to feel protected. And when it can feel slightly suffocating and patronising, we just need a gentle reminder that it comes from a place of love and we will smile and know that none of us are so tough that we can’t appreciate a bit of tender care when we are a little vulnerable.
  8. Remembering—Whether it’s a special date, our favourite book or what we said two minutes ago, we like to be listened to, recognised and to know that the things that are important to us have sunk in. Forget all else, if need be, just remember to remember the smallest things that mean such a lot.
  9. Doing the jobs we really hate or find difficult to do—Most relationships consist of teamwork. While one doesn’t mind certain jobs, the other may hate them. One might be able to fix and repair, the other hasn’t got a clue. That’s where the balance is found. So, when someone is proactive and does the things that we struggle to do, it’s another reminder of how fortunate we are to have someone in our lives that compliments us. No one wants to keep asking and pleading for certain things to be done, so when those things happen naturally, it’s a huge blessing.
  10. To be desired—Fully appreciated mind, body and soul. Be fully present in bed, make love like you mean it. Connect with us, make us feel like the most beautiful woman on the earth, love our every curve, how our body moves and how we make you feel. Show us, tell us and explore us deeply and completely.

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Women are sensual creatures. While it may work for some, the majority of women are not so impressed with diamonds, glitz and dramatic displays of affection.

It’s the smallest things that count, the everyday things.

Showing a woman she is cherished, adored and cared for will be sure to expose her inner roar.

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author: Alex Myles

Image: Bruno Van der Kraan/Unsplash

Editor: Catherine Monkman


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David Conquistador Taylor Nov 27, 2015 6:01pm

Waaaaaaay too much work! No wonder I’m doomed for singledom!

seriouslypissed Aug 22, 2015 5:00pm

Well Joan just so you know a real woman doesn't NEED a man to kill a spider but it's the thought that he would if he had to for you and I also didn't know maturity and independence required being alone or miserable I'll tell ya I'm a mature and independent 30 year old woman and I'll be damned if I NEED my husband around but I do love having him around for exactly what this is supposed to represent THE SMALL THINGS maybe you just don't have happiness in your life or maybe your bored with the same ol same ol either way you shouldn't judge a group of people based on a few "bad eggs" not all women are childlike

Lizzie Jul 26, 2015 1:38pm

I compared this list to the one for men and this list is so superficial and condescending. Hot drinks, sweets, bubble baths? None of those are important to me – how about being willing to participate and contribute to relationships that are important to the woman? For example, accepting her extended family and helping her to grow those relationships? Or being an enthusiastic partner in sharing household responsibilities – not just killing spiders or unclogging toilets but the routine, day to day things. Or going to a chick flick or Michael Buble concert just because it makes her happy? Definitely it’s important to have a sense of humor in dealing with occasional mistakes she makes such as a speeding ticket or not knowing how to set up Netflix.

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Alex Myles

Alex Myles is a qualified yoga and Tibetan meditation teacher, Reiki Master, spiritual coach and also the author of An Empath, a newly published book that explains various aspects of existing as a highly sensitive person. The book focuses on managing emotions, energy and relationships, particularly the toxic ones that many empaths are drawn into. Her greatest loves are books, poetry, writing and philosophy. She is a curious, inquisitive, deep thinking, intensely feeling, otherworldly intuitive being who lives for signs, synchronicities and serendipities. Inspired and influenced by Carl Jung, Nikola Tesla, Anaïs Nin and Paulo Coelho, she has a deep yearning to discover many of the answers that seem to have been hidden or forgotten in today’s world. Alex’s bestselling book, An Empath, is on sale now for only $1.99! Connect with her on Facebook and join Alex’s Facebook group for empaths and highly sensitive people.