Christopher Ryan: Are we designed to be sexual omnivores?

“The contradictions between what we’re told we should feel and what we actually do feel generates a huge amount of unnecessary suffering. My hope is that a more accurate, updated understanding of human sexuality will lead us to have greater tolerance for ourselves, for each other, greater respect for unconventional relationship configurations like same-sex marriage or polyamorous unions, and that we’ll finally put to rest the idea that men have some innate, instinctive right to monitor and control women’s sexual behavior.  And we’ll see that it’s not only gay people that have to come out of the closet. We all have closets we have to come out of. Right? And when we do come out of those closets, we’ll recognize that our fight is not with each other, our fight is with an outdated, Victorian sense of human sexuality that conflates desire with property rights, generates shame and confusion in place of understanding and empathy. It’s time we moved beyond Mars and Venus, because the truth is that men are from Africa and women are from Africa.” ~Christopher Ryan.

Even when we are standing still the earth is moving.

Are our beliefs on being serial monogamous outdated? Are we sexual omnivores?

Do we even remember where the belief comes from, of only one “One”?

Who made all these rules and who says we have to continue to follow them?

Let’s all do our own heart dance.

Less shame, less guilt—more love.

Brava, Chris.

Author: Janne Robinson

Editor: Caroline Beaton