Thoughts Don’t Become Reality—Understanding The Law of Attraction.

Via Janny Juddly
on Nov 2, 2015
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So how about we clear this up, once and for all?

This, “Thoughts Become Things” thing we have going on. This, “Be careful what you think” thing. This, “If you knew the power of your thoughts you’d never think another negative thought” thing. How about we look at how the Law of Attraction really works?

One of the greatest spiritual thinkers of our time, Dr. Wayne Dyer, once said, “What I think doesn’t become things; who I am is what becomes things.”

As a psychotherapist steeped in the mind-body-spirit connection and the latest neuroscience research, an energy worker steeped in the latest research into the laws of resonance and entrainment, and a holistic practitioner steeped in a less Westernised understanding of the human biofield and its energy systems, I can tell you that what he said is upheld by everything I know and experience both professionally and in my own life.

See, we have a real problem in the West. We get thoughts and feelings muddled up. And emotions. And beliefs. So let’s get a little clarity.

Let’s start by understanding the difference between a thought, a feeling, an emotion and a belief. Once we’ve done that, we can see way more clearly the part each plays in the vibrational laws of the universe which we call Law of Attraction. And finally, we can then look more accurately at how that information can help us to examine just what we’re putting out there, and how to think about that in a way that helps us.

Let’s over-simplify first and then get complicated afterwards, just because I think that will help us see how everything is inter-connected.

1. Thoughts

A thought is a connecting and sharing of information in the brain. 7×4=28 is a thought. The world is round is a thought. I am 75 years old is a thought.

Thoughts are neutral. They produce a small electrical charge in the brain, but this is of no great significance energetically or vibrationally in itself.

2. Feelings

A feeling is our authentic self speaking our truth to us. A feeling is an inner knowing, and its voice is usually fairly quiet. We discover what we feel in times of quiet reflection or meditation, or in deep conversation with a friend or someone we trust. Sadness is a feeling. Joy is a feeling. Shame is a feeling.

3. Emotions

An emotion is our bodily response to a thought or a perceived situation. Emotions are the big guys, the tangible reactions we feel in our body in response to a thought, a feeling or a belief. Emotions are physical and emotions emit an immense vibrational charge. They are our limbic system letting us know how we’re reacting to our thoughts, feelings or beliefs. These are what we need to become aware of and manage differently in terms of Law of Attraction.

4. Beliefs

A belief is the way we perceive the world, the filter through which we see everything. A belief is based upon everything we’ve known up until this point, and it can be conscious—something of which we’re aware; or it can be unconscious—something which is influencing us to behave and react in certain ways without our knowing it.

So now let’s put some of this together. And let’s talk for a moment about energy and vibration. Specifically, the physical laws of resonance and entrainment. We know that everything is energy. That’s pure quantum physics. As is the fact that everything vibrates and that, via that vibration, everything affects everything else. That’s the Law of Resonance. The Law of Entrainment is the physical law which says that, as energy vibrates, everything eventually resonates in time with the highest vibration present.

Hold that last thought for later. It’s crucial.

So now let’s make this real, instead of just theoretical. Let’s use an example. Let’s talk about “Phil.”

Phil’s family moved house when he was between the ages of two and 18, 10 times as his dad went from promotion to promotion, each involving a relocation. As a consequence of those moves, Phil lost touch with significant close family members and much-loved relatives, struggled with schooling, and finds it difficult to make friends.

Phil holds memories about this, stored in his mind, body and his energy system.

Those in his mind are thoughts, which help him to recall those past events. They are factual: places, people, conversations, events. He also has feelings about those places, people and events—deeply held feelings of sadness, anxiety, confusion and so on. He becomes aware of those feelings when his emotions flare up in response to those memories—those thoughts and feelings—and he feels the physical sensations in his body of those huge emotional reactions.

It’s pretty unpleasant experiencing such reactions, however, they frighten him in their intensity. So his psyche protects him from feeling them by rationalising. These become his conscious beliefs, about how moving that many times was good for him, necessary for his family to become financially secure and successful, that it “hasn’t done him any harm.” By doing this, he’s keeping his emotions at bay, but he’s also denying his true feelings.

Bad news in terms of Law of Attraction!

However, his unconscious beliefs are the ones that are even more problematic. Phil believes that nothing lasts, that anything good will always end, that you shouldn’t get close to people because you risk the pain of losing them when they move on—as he believes they inevitably will. If you searched Phil’s unconscious beliefs even more deeply, you’d also find that he believed that he isn’t worthy of love, isn’t important, that he’s helpless to change situations, a victim in the hands of fate and that the universe was at the very least uncaring and, at worst, downright hostile.

He isn’t aware of the unexamined beliefs that drive his decisions, his relationships, his life. Nor is he aware that these unexamined and deeply-held beliefs are constantly triggering his emotions, which are vibrating out into the universe.

And so he can’t understand why, despite trying to control his thoughts, and repeating affirmations that are supposed to work, he keeps seeing the same experiences showing up over and over.

However, let’s suppose that Phil learns mindfulness, maybe gets some help to explore his real feelings, and therefore learns to calm those emotions in his body when they arise, and so can hold his true feelings less fearfully, and can therefore think about them instead of reacting to them.

Now he’ll be in a very different place vibrationally. He’ll have begun to do the real work: he’ll have become skilfull about his vibration because he’ll have learned to detect his unconscious beliefs which are triggering his emotions to emit an undesirable vibrational signal. He’ll have understood how Law of Attraction works.

Thoughts don’t become things; emotions triggered by unconscious beliefs become things. Examine those, and fear—the lowest frequency we can emit—goes away, because we’re no longer running scared, believing we can’t. Suddenly, we’re feeling powerful, and believing that we can! And then the law of entrainment—that everything must resonate with the highest frequency present—will deliver!

What we think doesn’t become things; who we are becomes things, because who we are is our beliefs! It’s our beliefs, positive or negative, loving or fearful, helpless or hopeful and resilient, which determine what we attract into our life. And once we really get that, we’re unstoppable!

 

 

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Author: Janny Juddly

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About Janny Juddly

Janny Juddly has been a psychotherapist and university lecturer fascinated to work with the mind-body-spirit connection for over 25 years, and a spiritual life coach and woman going through a major spiritual awakening process for the last three of those. The way the two inform and enrich and enable and challenge and feed each other has blown her mind, and she has found herself compelled to share this new adventure with others. She writes prolifically, and this has led to a growing worldwide following, daily discussions with spiritual seekers across the globe, and a recently published book, Dancers Amongst The Stars, available on Amazon and Book Depository (which offers free shipping worldwide).

As someone who helps fellow travellers daily to make sense of their stories, Janny Juddly now brings a new and, she is told by many, unique perspective: that of an awakening woman who happens to have a psychotherapist in her pocket. That fresh perspective offers an invitation to all of us to see, through compassionate eyes, where we have truly come from, the amazing path we are embarked upon, and to view our experience of living this life – which for each one of us is uniquely ours alone – from the perspective of who we really are: a magnificent Being of light and love and power living a purposeful human experience. You can find her on her website and on her blog page or on Facebook. You can also watch her on YouTube, listen to her on Soundcloud, and follow her on Twitter and on Instagam. You can also listen to her show, Pocket Talk Radio. You can visit her Psychotherapy Website: Stressworks, and her Energy Healing Website: Universal Energy Works. Her direct e-mail is [email protected] You can also sign up to receive her regular newsletter, Pocket Chat.

Comments

34 Responses to “Thoughts Don’t Become Reality—Understanding The Law of Attraction.”

  1. Ruth Lera says:

    Fantastic! Bang-on explanation.

  2. Swier Miedema says:

    Impressive! Right on the dot!

  3. Janny Juddly says:

    So very happy the piece resonated with you, Lera! And for your lovely comments! Much appreciated! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  4. Lou says:

    I'm really intrigued by this. So are we experiencing emotions constantly throughout the day? And those emotions being the primary driver of the LOA?

    Also, are we experiencing feelings constantly throughout the day? Or just from time to time?

    What I'm getting at is, are we constantly creating throughout each day, and what is the driving force behind that creation? Or does creation only happen in short, emotional bursts?

  5. Laura Bold says:

    Thank you for this article, good read though I would disagree. I think thoughts are the building blocks to beliefs. The basis for everything. As you become aware of your thoughts, and especially repeated thoughts, you see how they build your beliefs and then generate feelings which perpetuate your actions. However you go back wards in breaking it all down for change, by starting with your beliefs because beliefs will show you what is happening with your thoughts.

  6. alecs3000 says:

    Brilliant Janny! Thanks for writing and sharing this. Light, love, peace and blessings, Alecs.

  7. Danielle says:

    Hi I just wanted to tell you how amazing I thought your article was. I actually printed it out, highlighted parts I want to remember and will be copying it to my journal! Over simplification when it comes to emotions is a MUST for me. The Phil example was something I could apply to my life. My childhood was different but I understood the feelings of sadness behind it and could really follow along. Thank you so much!

  8. WaterIsLife says:

    If I am thinking negatively about a situation I'm in or what someone is saying to me, is that a neutral thought? The negative thoughts and stories I build in my mind effect my emotions. So I try to catch them and reverse them as often as possible. If I let those thoughts continue to fly, I end up doing irrational things out of pain and fear. So I feel like thoughts are very influential over what ends up actually happening ion ones life. When I control my thinking for the good, my body language and facial expressions and reactions and tone of voice etc… Change the mood of the situation for the good. Making some situations otherwise unbearable, at least survivable. That thought management is changing the outcome of the situation. Continuous thought management becomes a habit then becomes a subconscious part of your being and effects many situations without you being consciously aware. Well, it seems that way to me 🙂

  9. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Danielle! So very happy you found the piece helpful! I think there's such confusion around Law of Attraction, and that can cause a great deal of anxiety in people, but also can result in the focus being on unhelpful things. Our vibrational frequency really does ome directly from our emotional response. That's why channelled sources like Abraham-Hicks emphasise seeking joy! Joy is an emotion, which results from our beliefs. Happy adventures! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  10. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi there! A thought is a cognitive function in the mind, but it bacomes significant vibrationally when we have an emotional reaction to it. So, "I'm eighty years old" is a thought. Neutral. A belief attached to that thought which says that eighty is old, may produce a feeling of fear Fear that we might be close to the end of our life (feeling) is likely to produce an emotional reactiion in our body (sensations which emit a vibrational frequency (emotions). However, there might also be some unconscious beliefs, ones we're not aware of, and so haven't been able to think about, and the vibration emitted from the emotions which these cause is the most powerful and most dense of all. I agree with so much of what you've said. Hopefully my reply may add food for thought? Thank you for taking the time to share your response to my piece! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  11. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Alecs! Thanks so much for your encouraging comments, and for taking the time to leave a response! I'm really happy you found the piece helpful! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  12. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Laura, thanks so much for your thoughtful response. I don't really think we're disagreeing, since I would accept absolutely everything you say. However, I would simply add the imoportance of unconscious thoughts, aswell as conscious ones. And I would add what the research into energy and vibration says about emotions being the source of our vibrational frequency, not our thoughts. All thoughts are neutral until we have a reaction to them. Therefore, I completely agree with you about the necessity of examiming our thought, which are building our beliefs, to which there is an emotional reaction which emita a vibrational frequency. Hope that clarifies what I was trying to share? Thanks so much for taking the time to leave a comment! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  13. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Lou! Wow, some fascinating questions! Thank you! Firstly, I would say that everything points to the fact that we are always emitting a vibrational frequency. That's pure quantum physics – we are part of the fabric of a vibrational universe, and so there can never be a moment when we are not giving out a vibrational signal. And so yes, we have feelings going on all the time. However, we're not having an emotional response to those all the time. Hence why it's so emotion to notice not just our thoughts, and feelings, but more importantly the emotions we're experiencing in response to those thoughts and feelings.Does that help? Thanks so much for taking the time to leave a comment! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  14. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Swier! So very happy you enjoyed the piece! And thank you for taking the time to leave a comment! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  15. Lou says:

    For clarification, since I find this fascinating, in this comment you stated that Joy is an emotion. However in your article, you stated that Joy is a feeling. What is the difference between emotions and feelings, and what exactly is joy? Thanks, loved your article. It's ground-breaking to me.

  16. Cherry says:

    Interesting article, but I also have to agree with Laura – my own experience has shown me two things specifically in line with this discussion… First that my thoughts are the starting point to my emotions which eventually become beliefs, therefore it always starts with a thought albeit a repeated one. Secondly I have personally experienced the 'magic' of LOA using affirmations. Even though I didn't necessarily believe what I was affirming to start with, uncannily these things came to pass, good and bad (negative affirmations in the form of repeated fearful thoughts). I totally get what you say about emotion and know that this absolutely speeds things up, but it all starts with what your predominant thoughts are over a period of time… if you find out what people are focusing on I can guarantee you can predict what will happen in their lives. Of course it's a very deep subject, and difficult to discuss in this forum, and there is a blurring of the lines a bit like a chicken and egg story so I can only relate my own personal experiences with this. I also think, like a lot of quantum physics/spiritual matter – the more you try to 'think' the answer the further away you get… Just mho… thanks for the thought provoking article 🙂

  17. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Cherry, I couln't agree more! Especially with your comment, "The more you try to 'think' the answer the further away you get." I absolutely don't disagree that often the process begins with our thoughts, and that our beliefs are largely founded on those. Hopefully, what I was trying to offer was a deeper understanding and some clarity about vibration and Law of Attraction. It's great when affirmations are enough, and I'm as much a believer in the power of positive thinking as any of us. That's not it. I wanted to write an article for those for whom it doesn't seem to work, and to offer a reason. Our imagination and our unconscious, and the emotions they produce are huge players in Law of Attraction, and the thoughts which create manifestations – even positive thoughts – do so because our ability to visualise, and therefore create emotion in the body. We in the West can often have learned to be cut off from our emotional intelligence, living in our head and valuing thoughts to the detriment of realising that we have emotional reactions going on which either support or conflict with those thoughts. That's a far greater problem, with far more wide reaching problems, because it's implicated in dis-ease and unwell-ness. For now, I simply offer the other 50% of what goes on vibrationally, in the hope that it helps. Thanks so much for your thoughtful and thought-provoking comments, and for taking the time to comment on the piece. I think that the four elements, which I over-simplified to try to create some clarity are incredibly interlinked and intimately connected, and I suspect that we are largely agreeing here. Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  18. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Lou! Thanks so much for your question, and for pulling me up on my wording here 🙂 I was particularly thinking in the comment about the way that Abraham-Hicks frequently suggests that people 'seek the feeling of joy!' I think we use the words thoughts, feelings and emotions virtually interchangeably, and that this can be unhelpful in trying to understand vibration. I would say that joy is a feeling.This can be felt as a quiet knowing, a deep contentment, a certainty, which is emitting a strong, steady emotional signal out into the Universe, or it can be something far more joyous and energetic, a far more tangible emotion. Feelings are a state of being; emotions are our reactions in the body to that state of being. For example, sad is a feeling, tears are our emotions reacting to the feeling of sadness. I do think all of this is so interlinked that trying to separate the different elements out for clarity could now be in danger of becoming an obstacle itself, but I hope this helps! Thank you so much for your fascinating challenge, and for taking the time to leave a comment! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  19. Angelique says:

    Dear Janny,

    Thank you so much for this article which helped me a lot to give understanding and unity to the different search and trials i was doing and personal work.

    It is so clear for the fist time & i am convinced it will help me a lot for the next steps.

    I wish you a wonderful day !

    Angélique

  20. Lou says:

    Thanks for the thoughtful replies. I asked because the separation of "emotion" and "feeling" has been an epiphany for me. It's made an immediate difference in my awareness of each, and how I use them to improve my life.

  21. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Angelique, how lovely to know you found the article helpful and that it resonated with you! There’s a follow-up on it’s way, so look out for that! Happy adventures! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  22. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Angelique, how lovely to know you found the piece helpful and illuminating! And found that it resonated with you! And thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment! Happy adventures! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  23. Carl Chase says:

    Another great article Janny! In my life I have realized the creative process, at least for me, can be turned on a very seemingly insignificant thought/fear/belief… For example, I can remember working in an environment where I caught a whiff of some nasty chemicals a few times, and thought about and expressed a concern about the eventual outcome of such an exposure… Many years later, I was diagnosed with Lymphoma, no doubt initiated by the fears and beliefs that were in play at that time… Since, I have been neutralizing those beliefs and building a replacement that nurtures a healthy strong and youthful body…. So far, I am pleased with the results, and uncovering some interesting beliefs that I didn’t realize were in effect…..

  24. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi there, Carl! Thank you so much for sharing such an inspiring and personal story! And for your encouraging comments! You are living proof that when we change our beliefs (how we feel about ourselves and how life feels about us) then everything changes. And that happens at the level of our emotional response. You changed your vibrational signal from that of fear to that of safety and well-being, and the Universe must inevitably then support that vibrational signature by delivering what you are now emitting. I'm so very happy that you are here, and wish you joy and abundance! Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment! Love and hugs and sparkles! Janny xxx

  25. Jane Leech says:

    Wonderful, thank you for this article. I find your writing style so accessible. So much to explore from here. A real gift!

    I have a question now (well two, maybe three!) – how do you know that joy vibrates at a high frequency, and fear at a low frequency? How are they measured and what is the scale?

  26. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Jane, emotional vibrations are measured in Hertz, and there are sensitive instrumenthich can measure these extremely accurately. Hope that helps. Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  27. Effie says:

    Thanks for clarifying this, and distinguishing thoughts from feelings and emotions. When I was in college, I told a friend of mine that I believe our feelings are our truths and she disagreed because she put emotions into the argument (which I could not separate from feelings then) and thoughts because we were at that time philosophizing. (Well, those college days.) When I got older and got into this LOA thing, I got confused and anxious about negative thoughts. This article is helpful for me because lately I find conscious positive thinking to be exhausting. And the idea that thoughts become our reality can be scary. Feelings are much simpler, they come and they go… just wait awhile, push on and the feelings change. The circumstances may be the same but when the feelings change, everything changes as well. Anyway, all I am saying is, for me, this has helped confirm the observations of my 18 year old self about her feelings and her truths. And that my negative thoughts are simply just thoughts. Thank you.

  28. Effie says:

    Thank you for this. This just confirmed the observations of my 18 year old self about her feelings and her truths. When I was in college I told a friend that I believed our feelings are our truths. She disagreed of course, because emotions and thoughts were included in the argument, and at that time, I had no way to distinguish one from the other. (Well, we were philosophizing anyway… those were the college days…)
    Getting into the LOA and the new age stuff, I can get really anxious when I have negative thoughts. But at the same time, consciously going into positive thinking can be exhausting.
    Anyway, all I am saying is this: for me, it is a comfort to hear another person say that there is truth to our feelings. And that our emotions and beliefs do not make us who we are. And that our thoughts, especially the negative ones need not be our reality, they're just… thoughts.
    Thank you.

  29. Janny Juddly says:

    Hi Effie! Thanks so much for your response! Isn't it a relief to hear our own intuitive truth confirmed! Actually, this isn't just one other person agreeing with you, but thousands of psychotherapists worldwide, who work every day trying to help people to learn how to listen to what they are feeling, backed up by the latest neuroscientific research, together with so many other tuned in human beings all over the world, emotionaly intelligent and aware, who are increasingly resisting the tendency to try to explain everything in terms of our thoughts. We're guilty of virtually encouraging people to undergo an emotional by-pass here in the West! Yay to you for holding on to your truth! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  30. Effie says:

    Thank you Janny =)

  31. mike says:

    Thanks for the article Janny! i noticed that you did not talked about words, does that mean its not that important?i read that words have power, does it really have power or its the emotion behind it? and if its the emotion, does that mean i can read ,hear negative bad words as long as i don't react with negative emotions and feelings? and what about Intrusive thoughts? if i don't react with negative emotions and feelings, the bad thoughts are just thoughts? what if i react with positive feelings and emotions would that change the thoughts?

  32. Janny Juddly says:

    Hey Mike! Thanks for some really great larifying questions. Yes to all of them! The important point, however, is that what we have going on unconsciously is just as powerful – even more powerful, in fact, – than what we may think is going on from our conscious perspective. That's why who we are is more important than what we might be thinking, because that becomes our steady vibrational signature. So it does help to be aware of the company we keep and what we choose to read or watch on a regular basis, because that's who we become. So yes, intrusive thoughts in themselves are neutral. It's your emotional reaction to them that will emit a vibrational frequency. In practice, that all happens in nanoseconds, and so who we are – how we are and how we characteristicaaly react and respond – becomes the overriding determining factor. There are really only two major emotions – love and fear. All others arise out of one or other of those. Therefore, whether we tend to be love-based or fear-based is the most important issue vibrationally, rather than random thoughts we might have. Hope that helps! Love and sparkles! Janny xxx

  33. mike says:

    Thanks Janny! its a great help. just want to ask you about love ,is it the love feeling between lovers,compassion or is it a excited, enthusiastic or others? and if you are joyful at a negative,would the universe think you like it?

  34. Ed Hare says:

    This article offers a different viewpoint on the Law of Attraction. I think that the author is pointing in the right direction, because I held out my hand and thought and thought and thought of creating a 100-carat diamond in my hand, and it didn’t materialize. 🙂

    I did especially like a quote from Wayne Dyer: “What I think doesn’t become things; who I am is what becomes things.”

    As I look at my own life and the ways that things have unfolded, I think that Wayne is pointing in the right direction, too. It is not JUST our conscious thoughts that create; I believe that we create from the all of what we are.

    In my experiences, I have often seen creation come from no more than my own inner self shifting its perspective. When I have truly changed who I am inside to be fully able to receive events and other people into my life, I have seen changes in my world that seem almost miraculous, in almost an instant bringing forward something that years of struggle and effort have failed to materialize.

    Again drawing from within, I have seen where my own reaction to events unfolding has changed the direction things took. In a very real experience, when someone wronged me, I chose openness and continued friendship instead of righteous anger, and a way forward in what would have been an impossible situation if lived in anger and a demand that things be made right never would have accomplished. When I choose not to be angry and escalate bad feelings, good feelings are able to emerge, creating a reality from the very real choices I make.

    I look at my reality and see that my thoughts are part of what unfolds, but those thoughts are often complex, with multiple streams within me, sometimes wanting different things. When those inner feelings are pulling us in multiple directions, each direction will create a block for the other, and maybe life will just stagnate for a bit, leaving us wondering why.

    I even see “doing” as an important part of all of this, when all of those inner selves can come together and make a clear and powerful choice to turn one of my many inner thoughts into action. We tend to minimize the physical world as somehow being “inferior” or “an illusion” that is smaller than the non-physical realms that extend to infinity, but in reality, is our “doing” often a very clear implementation of a choice drawn from the many inner conflicts within us. Is that really lesser than the spirit, or a very powerful expression of one part of who we are, made in a moment of clarity and choice?

    So, if we do want to understand creating our own reality, maybe we need to think just a bit bigger than just our thoughts, and look at the ways we draw from all of who we are, and draw from every realm that exists within us, to our physical “real life” to the myriad of inner realms and states of being we so often visit.

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