November 2, 2015

Thoughts Don’t Become Reality—Understanding The Law of Attraction.


So how about we clear this up, once and for all?

This, “Thoughts Become Things” thing we have going on. This, “Be careful what you think” thing. This, “If you knew the power of your thoughts you’d never think another negative thought” thing. How about we look at how the Law of Attraction really works?

One of the greatest spiritual thinkers of our time, Dr. Wayne Dyer, once said, “What I think doesn’t become things; who I am is what becomes things.”

As a psychotherapist steeped in the mind-body-spirit connection and the latest neuroscience research, an energy worker steeped in the latest research into the laws of resonance and entrainment, and a holistic practitioner steeped in a less Westernised understanding of the human biofield and its energy systems, I can tell you that what he said is upheld by everything I know and experience both professionally and in my own life.

See, we have a real problem in the West. We get thoughts and feelings muddled up. And emotions. And beliefs. So let’s get a little clarity.

Let’s start by understanding the difference between a thought, a feeling, an emotion and a belief. Once we’ve done that, we can see way more clearly the part each plays in the vibrational laws of the universe which we call Law of Attraction. And finally, we can then look more accurately at how that information can help us to examine just what we’re putting out there, and how to think about that in a way that helps us.

Let’s over-simplify first and then get complicated afterwards, just because I think that will help us see how everything is inter-connected.

1. Thoughts

A thought is a connecting and sharing of information in the brain. 7×4=28 is a thought. The world is round is a thought. I am 75 years old is a thought.

Thoughts are neutral. They produce a small electrical charge in the brain, but this is of no great significance energetically or vibrationally in itself.

2. Feelings

A feeling is our authentic self speaking our truth to us. A feeling is an inner knowing, and its voice is usually fairly quiet. We discover what we feel in times of quiet reflection or meditation, or in deep conversation with a friend or someone we trust. Sadness is a feeling. Joy is a feeling. Shame is a feeling.

3. Emotions

An emotion is our bodily response to a thought or a perceived situation. Emotions are the big guys, the tangible reactions we feel in our body in response to a thought, a feeling or a belief. Emotions are physical and emotions emit an immense vibrational charge. They are our limbic system letting us know how we’re reacting to our thoughts, feelings or beliefs. These are what we need to become aware of and manage differently in terms of Law of Attraction.

4. Beliefs

A belief is the way we perceive the world, the filter through which we see everything. A belief is based upon everything we’ve known up until this point, and it can be conscious—something of which we’re aware; or it can be unconscious—something which is influencing us to behave and react in certain ways without our knowing it.

So now let’s put some of this together. And let’s talk for a moment about energy and vibration. Specifically, the physical laws of resonance and entrainment. We know that everything is energy. That’s pure quantum physics. As is the fact that everything vibrates and that, via that vibration, everything affects everything else. That’s the Law of Resonance. The Law of Entrainment is the physical law which says that, as energy vibrates, everything eventually resonates in time with the highest vibration present.

Hold that last thought for later. It’s crucial.

So now let’s make this real, instead of just theoretical. Let’s use an example. Let’s talk about “Phil.”

Phil’s family moved house when he was between the ages of two and 18, 10 times as his dad went from promotion to promotion, each involving a relocation. As a consequence of those moves, Phil lost touch with significant close family members and much-loved relatives, struggled with schooling, and finds it difficult to make friends.

Phil holds memories about this, stored in his mind, body and his energy system.

Those in his mind are thoughts, which help him to recall those past events. They are factual: places, people, conversations, events. He also has feelings about those places, people and events—deeply held feelings of sadness, anxiety, confusion and so on. He becomes aware of those feelings when his emotions flare up in response to those memories—those thoughts and feelings—and he feels the physical sensations in his body of those huge emotional reactions.

It’s pretty unpleasant experiencing such reactions, however, they frighten him in their intensity. So his psyche protects him from feeling them by rationalising. These become his conscious beliefs, about how moving that many times was good for him, necessary for his family to become financially secure and successful, that it “hasn’t done him any harm.” By doing this, he’s keeping his emotions at bay, but he’s also denying his true feelings.

Bad news in terms of Law of Attraction!

However, his unconscious beliefs are the ones that are even more problematic. Phil believes that nothing lasts, that anything good will always end, that you shouldn’t get close to people because you risk the pain of losing them when they move on—as he believes they inevitably will. If you searched Phil’s unconscious beliefs even more deeply, you’d also find that he believed that he isn’t worthy of love, isn’t important, that he’s helpless to change situations, a victim in the hands of fate and that the universe was at the very least uncaring and, at worst, downright hostile.

He isn’t aware of the unexamined beliefs that drive his decisions, his relationships, his life. Nor is he aware that these unexamined and deeply-held beliefs are constantly triggering his emotions, which are vibrating out into the universe.

And so he can’t understand why, despite trying to control his thoughts, and repeating affirmations that are supposed to work, he keeps seeing the same experiences showing up over and over.

However, let’s suppose that Phil learns mindfulness, maybe gets some help to explore his real feelings, and therefore learns to calm those emotions in his body when they arise, and so can hold his true feelings less fearfully, and can therefore think about them instead of reacting to them.

Now he’ll be in a very different place vibrationally. He’ll have begun to do the real work: he’ll have become skilfull about his vibration because he’ll have learned to detect his unconscious beliefs which are triggering his emotions to emit an undesirable vibrational signal. He’ll have understood how Law of Attraction works.

Thoughts don’t become things; emotions triggered by unconscious beliefs become things. Examine those, and fear—the lowest frequency we can emit—goes away, because we’re no longer running scared, believing we can’t. Suddenly, we’re feeling powerful, and believing that we can! And then the law of entrainment—that everything must resonate with the highest frequency present—will deliver!

What we think doesn’t become things; who we are becomes things, because who we are is our beliefs! It’s our beliefs, positive or negative, loving or fearful, helpless or hopeful and resilient, which determine what we attract into our life. And once we really get that, we’re unstoppable!



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Author: Janny Juddly

Editor: Travis May

Photos: Flickr/Kiran Foster

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Ed Hare Jan 9, 2016 7:12am

This article offers a different viewpoint on the Law of Attraction. I think that the author is pointing in the right direction, because I held out my hand and thought and thought and thought of creating a 100-carat diamond in my hand, and it didn’t materialize. 🙂

I did especially like a quote from Wayne Dyer: “What I think doesn’t become things; who I am is what becomes things.”

As I look at my own life and the ways that things have unfolded, I think that Wayne is pointing in the right direction, too. It is not JUST our conscious thoughts that create; I believe that we create from the all of what we are.

In my experiences, I have often seen creation come from no more than my own inner self shifting its perspective. When I have truly changed who I am inside to be fully able to receive events and other people into my life, I have seen changes in my world that seem almost miraculous, in almost an instant bringing forward something that years of struggle and effort have failed to materialize.

Again drawing from within, I have seen where my own reaction to events unfolding has changed the direction things took. In a very real experience, when someone wronged me, I chose openness and continued friendship instead of righteous anger, and a way forward in what would have been an impossible situation if lived in anger and a demand that things be made right never would have accomplished. When I choose not to be angry and escalate bad feelings, good feelings are able to emerge, creating a reality from the very real choices I make.

I look at my reality and see that my thoughts are part of what unfolds, but those thoughts are often complex, with multiple streams within me, sometimes wanting different things. When those inner feelings are pulling us in multiple directions, each direction will create a block for the other, and maybe life will just stagnate for a bit, leaving us wondering why.

I even see “doing” as an important part of all of this, when all of those inner selves can come together and make a clear and powerful choice to turn one of my many inner thoughts into action. We tend to minimize the physical world as somehow being “inferior” or “an illusion” that is smaller than the non-physical realms that extend to infinity, but in reality, is our “doing” often a very clear implementation of a choice drawn from the many inner conflicts within us. Is that really lesser than the spirit, or a very powerful expression of one part of who we are, made in a moment of clarity and choice?

So, if we do want to understand creating our own reality, maybe we need to think just a bit bigger than just our thoughts, and look at the ways we draw from all of who we are, and draw from every realm that exists within us, to our physical “real life” to the myriad of inner realms and states of being we so often visit.

mike Dec 9, 2015 5:11am

Thanks for the article Janny! i noticed that you did not talked about words, does that mean its not that important?i read that words have power, does it really have power or its the emotion behind it? and if its the emotion, does that mean i can read ,hear negative bad words as long as i don't react with negative emotions and feelings? and what about Intrusive thoughts? if i don't react with negative emotions and feelings, the bad thoughts are just thoughts? what if i react with positive feelings and emotions would that change the thoughts?

Effie Nov 12, 2015 12:40am

Thank you for this. This just confirmed the observations of my 18 year old self about her feelings and her truths. When I was in college I told a friend that I believed our feelings are our truths. She disagreed of course, because emotions and thoughts were included in the argument, and at that time, I had no way to distinguish one from the other. (Well, we were philosophizing anyway… those were the college days…)
Getting into the LOA and the new age stuff, I can get really anxious when I have negative thoughts. But at the same time, consciously going into positive thinking can be exhausting.
Anyway, all I am saying is this: for me, it is a comfort to hear another person say that there is truth to our feelings. And that our emotions and beliefs do not make us who we are. And that our thoughts, especially the negative ones need not be our reality, they're just… thoughts.
Thank you.

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Janny Juddly

Janny Juddly has been a psychotherapist and university lecturer fascinated to work with the mind-body-spirit connection for over 25 years, and a spiritual life coach and woman going through a major spiritual awakening process for the last three of those. The way the two inform and enrich and enable and challenge and feed each other has blown her mind, and she has found herself compelled to share this new adventure with others. She writes prolifically, and this has led to a growing worldwide following, daily discussions with spiritual seekers across the globe, and a recently published book, Dancers Amongst The Stars, available on Amazon and Book Depository (which offers free shipping worldwide).

As someone who helps fellow travellers daily to make sense of their stories, Janny Juddly now brings a new and, she is told by many, unique perspective: that of an awakening woman who happens to have a psychotherapist in her pocket. That fresh perspective offers an invitation to all of us to see, through compassionate eyes, where we have truly come from, the amazing path we are embarked upon, and to view our experience of living this life – which for each one of us is uniquely ours alone – from the perspective of who we really are: a magnificent Being of light and love and power living a purposeful human experience. You can find her on her website and on her blog page or on Facebook. You can also watch her on YouTube, listen to her on Soundcloud, and follow her on Twitter and on Instagam. You can also listen to her show, Pocket Talk Radio. You can visit her Psychotherapy Website: Stressworks, and her Energy Healing Website: Universal Energy Works. Her direct e-mail is [email protected] You can also sign up to receive her regular newsletter, Pocket Chat.