How to Tell if a Relationship is Karmic, Soulmate or Twin Flame.

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We all desire to not just fall in love—but to be part of that “once in a lifetime” type of love story. Here’s how to differentiate between your love relationships: karmic, soulmate, or twin flame, as you move through life.

“Soulmates aren’t the ones who make you happiest, no. They’re instead the ones you make you feel the most. Burning edges and scars and stars. Old pains and pangs, captivation and beauty. Strain and shadows and worry and yearning. Sweetness and madness and dreamlike surrender. They hurl you into the abyss. They taste like hope.” ~ V.Erickson

As we are evolving, so are our romantic relationships.

No longer are we satisfied by those unions that are convenient or that seem to fulfill specific ideals that our families or society have taught us we should aspire to.

We are searching for that once in a lifetime crazy type of love—but what really separates twin flames from soulmates and karmic relationships?

The biggest truth is that one of these relationships isn’t better than the other—it just depends on what lifetime we are in, here on earth, and what lessons we currently are in the process of learning.

Sometimes we may experience none of these relationships in a lifetime, and in others we may experience all three.

The reality is that we often don’t truly realize which type of relationship we had until long after it’s passed and the lessons have been absorbed.

Characteristics of Karmic Love Relationships

One of the first relationships we usually enter into is a karmic one. Karmic relationships often are those lessons that we were unable to learn in a previous lifetime—these people aren’t meant to take it easy on us, because they are meant to change our way of life.

The addiction of karmic relationships is that it seems no matter how many tries we give it—it just doesn’t seem to work.

But that is because karmic relationships aren’t supposed to work out—we aren’t supposed to live our life with our karmic partner.

It’s hard to accept, because it’s usually not an issue of love, or even about compatibility.

Something is just off and doesn’t work, no matter how much we wish it did—but the worst decision we can make is to choose to not let go.

Karmic relationships burn hot and seem almost intoxicating at times, but the entire point of these types of relationships is to come into our lives, change us—and then leave.

Often times, those people who married and divorced young have married their karmic relationship, instead of letting them go when the time came.

The most important lesson for us is that we just have to be strong enough to let them move on when the time comes, because no matter what type of relationship we are in, we shouldn’t have to chain ourselves to it in order to not lose it.

Characteristics of Soulmate Love Relationships

Although some of us may experience several karmic relationships in our lifetime, the next stage after we conquer those lessons is often the soulmate love.

Soulmates can be just the best kind of love—they can be simple and sweet, yet as complex as the notes within a vintage Merlot.

Soulmates often are those we marry and choose to build a life with, because there is just a unique connection present. These are the feel good people in our lives, and they just seem to touch us on an entirely different level.

As wonderful as they can be though, soulmates don’t always take it easy on us.

One of the reasons that we get so confused by which type of relationship we are in, is because in all of these connections, challenges will be present.

None of these relationships are about appeasing us or making our egos comfortable.

Yet the soulmate differs from the karmic relationship by the type of lesson being learned and the way in which it is presented.

Karmic relationships are often about how we view the outside world and others—while the soulmate will trigger those internal lessons involving self-worth, fear, societal pressures and our worthiness of love.

We simply attract at whatever frequency we are currently vibrating on.

Soulmates are those who we feel an undeniable connection to—as if we’ve known one another before simply upon meeting.

The biggest indicator of a soulmate love is that they make us feel like it’s us that needs working on—not them or even issues that exist within the relationship.

Sometimes it’s even the feeling of not deserving the other person.

Certain soulmates come into our lives whose only purpose is to help us realize our greatness and to assist us in taking on those big questions involving the self and starting to discover the answers to further our evolution and process of self-awareness.

Soulmates are also the ones who care about us the most—versus the karmic lover whose only concern is of their own self and needs.

These beautiful types of bonds don’t necessarily have to be romantic even, for more often than not, we travel in similar soul circles within each lifetime—and those who are family aren’t necessarily those who we share blood with.

Characteristics of a Twin Flame Love Relationship

As transcending and eye-opening as the romantic relationship can be with a soulmate, it isn’t anything compared to the experience of being reconnected with our twin flame.

Twin flames are often regarded as an urban myth of the spiritually enlightened, but as society is raising their level of consciousness, the more this connection is occurring.

Twin flames are a mix of both karmic and soulmate tendencies—along with some entirely new qualities which will only further challenge our ego and sense of self.

Twin flames aren’t just those that we connect with on a soul level, but they are someone we share the same soul with.

As the theory states, twin flames were separated from one soul source in the beginning of time and split into two physical bodies.

There is a mirror like quality when we come into contact with our twin flame—everything that we have spent our lives running from or denying is suddenly in front of us.

These types of lovers confront us with our very fears and ego driven desires, but they aren’t just about what’s inside, they’re about how we interact with every facet of our life.

Not all of us will be reunited with our twin flame, but if we are, it has the possibility to be that once in a lifetime—ain’t nothing ever gonna be the same—type of love.

There will be challenges and fears present, without a doubt—there will be phases of running and chasing, depending upon the spiritual and personal development of both individuals.

But regardless of any of these challenges, it is possible to reunite and stay with our twin flame—although it is speculated that only occurs in one’s last lifetime here on earth.

How to Appreciate and Learn From ALL of Your Love Relationships in Life

Regardless of what type of romantic relationship we find ourselves in, there will be obstacles and challenges that have the potential to assist us in our growth and evolution.

The one important thing to remember through all of these types of relationship, is that if someone is trying to move on—it’s vital that we let them go.

Whether they are a karmic relationship whose only purpose is to come into our lives to be the catalyst of change, or if they are the soulmate whose here to challenge us to lovingly become the best person we can, or if they simply are our other half—there is no love that we will have to beg for or hold onto tightly to, out of fear of losing it.

Regardless of what type of relationship it is, the love we deserve is also the one that will want us as much we want it—because the truth is, if we do love someone, the only thing we can do is set them free, knowing that if it is meant to be—they will return.

And if they don’t, then they’re just one of the most beautiful lessons we’ll learn.

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anonymous Mar 29, 2016 8:22pm

Wonderful article and I resonate with it except for one small point. Twinsouls neither have karma nor soulmate tendencies as you indicate here. Having been with my twinsoul for 8 years, as well as, experienced both of the other forms of relationships mentioned here, and being in my last life (as well as my twinsoul) along with the wisdom I have received from Source itself and through experience on this (and have many videos on youtube, articles written, etc. I have done on the twinsoul path), I can say for certain that twinsouls have no karma nor are they soulmates 🙂 Other than that, this is a fantastically written article and hits it spot on, even reflecting alot of what I share in my youtube videos, articles, and more so I appreciate your article very much. Thank you <3

anonymous Mar 29, 2016 7:23am

I always run into kharmic types. Learning to let them know

anonymous Mar 20, 2016 4:56pm

Another beautiful piece of writing! Thank you for doing what you do and for doing it so well!

anonymous Mar 19, 2016 8:31pm

Thank you for this article!
I truly believe that my Husband is my other half. He has been my karmic relation, and then we were apart, but not truly, because something always pulled him and I back together, then he was my soulmate, my one true love. As the years have passed, and we have grown our family together, I realized that he is indeed my other half. We are complete opposites when it comes to personality, but we work so well together. We are the parts of one another that the other is missing. I’ve had other loves, but nothing compare to this love. It’s easy, although trying, and sometimes angry (like all healthy relationships we have arguments), it’s so easy to love him, even when I hate him. One persons faults is the others strengths and we lift each other up.
I hope you are wrong about this being a sign of my souls last life. I’ve often taken solice in the thought that after this life, him and I were bound to find one another again in the next.
Again, thank you for this beautiful article!

Namaste!
Liz

Innocent Princecharming Oct 16, 2018 3:03pm

Nice article ever!

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Tetyana Nawrocki Sep 3, 2018 6:53am

Not so sure it’s all so simple. Imagine you met your twin flame. About 199% you will be separated cause it’s designed to be impossible or nearly impossible. If twin souls are spiritually complete they have no reason to be alive anymore unless for humanity good. Yeah...we see a lot of that going on. So many twin souls got together! Ha. I know they make each other grow very fast. Excelerated spiritual progress. Growing is a painful process. So expect this: not unimaginable love story but unimaginable pain. After yiu die it sure will appear to be worth it but here and now... Theories always have one problem: when they put to practice BS fades away. The truth is that even one heartbreak is a lot to deal with. The heartbeak from twin soul burns one to ashes and recovery NOT possible. FYI. Heartbreak from other types of soulmates will be critical too. That’s right soulmates get under a skin. Do you got anything under your skin yet? I bet not yet..,It’s not a joke or centimental poetry. It’s an ultimate challenge to experience on earth. I wouldn’t mind to climb Everest. I am that type of person...But twin soul, excuse me, I need rescue and help. Send me helicopter i in trouble. It passes all thresholds of human abilities. It’s lifelong climb and air gets thinner with every step forward. That’s right, it’s a life long ordeal. You can’t let it go because it’s within you. It surrounds you, it’s beyond our understanding. It’s more then love. It has no limits or rules. If you think you have control over anything, you seen nothing yet. And twin soul support each other literally even being always apart. They don’t have to think about it. It happens without their knowledge. It’s constant team work of which they not aware. They feel each others pain, frustration, fear, etc. and live completely separate lives. Isn’t a great love story?! Add to this all human flaws and weaknesses. Plus they are being tested constantly with distractions. There will be many tears. I would say an ocean. Add likely age, cultural, social, and language barriers. Health and physical is always in the play too. Did I say testing is a key here? It is. Failure is an option. Very likely option. They are usually two very imperfect humans on the outside, but they are actually spiritually ready to start the process of ascending. So meeting twin flame is very unlikely for the most of us. St least this time around. But if it happens, let God always be there for you. You will need it.

Tara Wilson Jul 25, 2018 2:08pm

THANK YOU!! This is great (as always), I have a question though - I have totally felt that someone was actually a part of me. You mentioned above that there is a theory about our souls being split - the one soul source... is there any recommended reading you have on the subject, I really wanna learn more! Thank you Kate, Tara

Celisse Willis Jun 25, 2018 5:40am

I do have to make a comment about the “if you set them free & they return, it’s meant to be” moniker. I believe people put a lot of weight on that. My twin has been on & off with his karmic pretty much their entire relationship- they were off when we met - but the reason the same karmic would come & go is becuase one (if not both) have not learned the lesson meant for that connection. It could be insecurities, lack of self love, control issues, etc. My twins’ Karmic gf is manipulative & a narcissist & he has not learned how to be ok with being alone; ie a relationship is like self validation for him. My karmic was also like his karmic & I feel like his lesson is possibly very similar to mine; he needs to heal & learn to love & accept himself. He is a libra so he puts on a really good show, but there’s a lot of turmoil going on inside that he hasn’t dealt with.

Celisse Willis Jun 25, 2018 5:32am

Omg Kate, THANK YOU for this article!! What you mentioned about karmic relationships is earily similar to how I have been describing them for over a year in various convos both on & offline & I JUST came across this article tonight! I mean, practically word for word what you mentioned is what I tell people, so thank you for validating my intuitive feelings toward this subject. I met my twin back in February 2016, but I had a 7 year highly toxic relationship with a karmic partner years before & a year after that relationship ended, I had a 1 1/2 year relationship with a guy who I believe was a soulmate in so many ways, but the relationship turned sour because he couldn’t get over his egotistical insecurities. I have felt this urge to remain single until Union with my twin, which is different for me becuase although I don’t go out looking off a boyfriend, I do like being in a relationship. My twin is in a karmic partnership right now & sometimes it’s just hard to be aware of becuase I hear & see so many of the signs as what I experienced & I keep holding onto hope that he doesn’t spend another 2 years going through this kind of frustration. He has also told me what you told me, which gave me chills & validation about the karmic aspect, word for word, “there are feelings, but it just never works”.

Alex Funk Apr 13, 2018 8:22pm

Love it. What if one person is all three?

Jewel McGowan Counselor Mar 28, 2018 4:43pm

This is an update to what I posted previously. My twin and I are planning to move together this summer. I had completely cut him off for over a month in January and Feb. However, I was waking up whimpering as if I had been crying in my sleep, night after night. So I decided to have him in my life, and he then decided to move here. So, the journey continues. It feels like the only right thing, and it's what makes me truly happy. I simply don't want anyone else.

Jewel McGowan Counselor Jan 6, 2018 5:15am

I have met my twin flame. We are inseparable and love each other unconditionally. He did a few things simultaneously. One was run from the idea of living with me,. Because of the intensity of his feelings. The second was move into his life purpose career, and the third was separate himself from his misplaced responsibility to his former partner, as she was controlling and resentful of me. I met him along this journey to attract my soulmate. I was vibrating so high in a place 1100 miles from my home in another country, that I actually attracted my twin flame. Everything I've heard and read makes it very clear to me that he is my twin. I am just now recovering from the heartbreak and insanity of him wanting to continue visits, while I wanted to live together. I decided that I would get back on my soulmate journey, and he can come to me if that works out down the road, even if it's in another lifetime. I feel very grateful to have met him. No one else will ever mean to me, what he means to me, not even a future life-partner/husband. And that's ok. I deserve the fullest expression of myself and in my heart I know that that is with a great match. I'm thankful for this article. It helped me understand karmic relationships and to confirm what I already felt was the difference between a twin flame and a soulmate.

Lale Javaheri Dec 3, 2017 6:51pm

I agree. So i would assume it would just be a knowing. A knowing that feels right about the other person.

Lale Javaheri Dec 3, 2017 6:48pm

Ok this is a bit comfusing because at the end it states that you should let them go, if they want, and if they return you know its meant to be. Prior to this statement it says how it is vital to let go of someone who wants to go and in general move on. So?...Does this appply to the twin? because twin flames have the chaser and runner? Either way regardless shouldnt you just move on?! Especially after more than a second chance with a person? because I dont think this is natural. I think a true love will not have so many complications and it just drains you emotionally and mentally. I just like to leave it and move on and send them the best.

Kim Dorman Sep 30, 2017 11:18pm

David Dolan 😊

Jacqueline Ziegler Walker Jun 29, 2017 8:07pm

No.no.no karmic relationship s have baggage and aren't as spiritually satififying and emotionally supportive as the soul mate is. Soulmates are twins who have reunited and have a soulful experience. It's funny a twin flame will get pissed and teach a valuable karmic lesson to a twin for not coming back as a soulmate and making them suffer therefore they make it's in the stars that his loss will be painful unpleasant and hurt.

Nima'h Idris May 28, 2017 2:43pm

wonderful, Rose!!

Amber Drake May 1, 2017 1:40am

So, what were those couples to each other that met, fell in love, and stayed together until death? They never dated or slept with anyone else and barely fought. They really existed. By death they do part (on the one life, earthly realm anyway). Why doesn't anyone explain or define these? I didn't achieve that in this go round. All of these "spiritual" teachings are just excuses for losing that basic ability and blessing.

Richard Decater Feb 10, 2017 5:10am

I'm not sure I can follow you any more Kate. It's crushing me.

Adriana Hamorova Dec 24, 2016 8:50pm

The Soul-Mate Relationship https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38-9LUA_0rc&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1eDIdXU8YQ&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDmj5ofhrS4&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZmigKz-xPBQ&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5I-uXaodzoOG3LPJyRb-Uw/search?query=soulmate Sexual Attraction https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cW0FkfhUHAc&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td_RHkRfIj8&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjBketDnlFs&feature=youtu.be

Gail Margaret Nov 25, 2016 9:14pm

David Dolan it is unwise to definitively define something, beliefs expand as we grow. A concept such as this cannot be nailed down in two lines.

David Dolan Nov 25, 2016 6:14pm

Even when there is no story. Karma moves forward. It may no longer belong to you. But you still hold it. So please be gentle.

David Dolan Nov 25, 2016 6:07pm

The twin flame is the realization of self Love and unconditional love for your partner even if they want to go. Because truly we were nevr seperate. True love.

LenAnne Strauss Oct 17, 2016 10:25am

Soulmate

Gail Margaret Sep 8, 2016 12:08pm

I watched the video of you on your wall....well most of it anyway until life interrupted, you seem like a beautiful, sensitive woman and your writing is a delight. I always enjoy your articles but perhaps less focus on romantic love would be a healthy step. What you seek is inside you, One day you will totally get that, unfortunately probably not till middle age like the rest of us. �

Tracy Peterson Sep 8, 2016 1:37am

I've had a karmic relationship, met a soulmate, but have yet to meet my twin flame. I once had three different psychics tell me that the soulmate was really my twin flame. I guess that I've always believed that there was a very blurred line between the soulmate and the twin flame. I now see the difference and definitely became a better person after meeting my soulmate, and we are no longer together after many off and ons. It makes me sad to think that I may never meet my twin flame, but I do know that the men I've had relationships with up until now taught me more about myself and my view of love than I ever could have known by being alone. Losing each of them was painful, but I am grateful for the lessons.

Joaquin Paz Aug 12, 2016 6:14pm

nice article :)