A decade ago I was in an awesome new relationship with the man of my dreams. We had a lot of fun together. He was intelligent, kind and wise.
We were both studying for our doctorates and we had a bright future ahead of us. Yet, within a year the wheels were falling off. I felt like something was off. I remember picking up the phone to end it just as I was getting dressed for my graduation ceremony.
It seemed so urgent that I not contaminate this new part of my life with the relationship I wanted to end. It felt like a strong intuitive hit. I had to take swift and permanent action. I was sad but confident that my intuition had protected me from bigger heartbreak later.
In fact, I was sabotaging the best relationship of my life.
Ten years on, now married to the man I thought I should leave, I can see exactly what happened. I was getting everything I needed. I was feeling stable and balanced. I was feeling loved.
Dr. Bruce Lipton, amongst others, tells us that 95 to 99 percent of our decision-making happens at the level of our subconscious mind. Somewhere in the back catalogue of experiences stored in my subconscious, love equalled vulnerability. This in turn made me believe I was in danger. Perhaps it was my parents’ messy divorce, or the catastrophe that was my first big relationship. It doesn’t matter.
What matters is that what I thought was my intuition was actually my subconscious fear. I was interested in how to work out the difference. When I did, I reclaimed my incredible intuitive power from the bad rap I so often gave it.
It is a commonly held belief in metaphysics that all of us are intuitive. This is my philosophy when I train my students in the intuitive sciences.
But here’s the thing:
Yes, we are all intuitive, but that doesn’t mean we have effortless access to our intuition. We are all capable of being bilingual but we don’t necessarily put the effort or time into learning a second language.
And so it goes for our intuition.
After blaming my intuition for some pretty poor choices, including nearly losing the love of my life, I decided that I wanted to be an excellent intuitive. So I set out and found a teacher. Every week I turned up to class to hone my craft.
From that day on, I have not stopped working on my innate skill as an intuitive. And yes, I get better all the time. I recognise now that my intuition was never to blame for my bad choices.
Most people assume that their intuition is somehow broken. We think we are making intuitive decisions that keep leading us down dead ends. We think that means we can’t trust out intuition. No, it only means we haven’t met our intuition yet. Because an activated intuition will not lead you the wrong way down a dark alley of despair.
The question I am asked most often is: “How can you tell the difference between your intuition and your fear?” This question says a lot about how we feel about intuition as a society. It also tells me that we spend a great deal of time being afraid.
And yet the most fearless decision I have ever made was to live my life from my sixth sense.
The decision to live from intuition is a fearless one because we actually have to be prepared to get intimate with our ourselves and what is really motivating us. For most of us this is terrifying.
This is because we have trusted ourselves (and our intuition) before and have been burnt.
We thought we were listening to our intuition when we felt guided to do something wildly empowering, only to discover we were $10,000 out of pocket for an online life-coaching course we never wanted to do in the first place. Our fear was activated by some clever marketing tactic triggering our feelings of unworthiness. We blamed our intuition when in reality it was our fear motivating us, our subconscious fear.
Intuition is the language of love, not fear. It isn’t just a Hallmark platitude to say intuition is a heart-based function. HeartMath Institute has been doing cutting edge research in this field since the 90s. In a recent study, HeartMath proved that when prepared using heart coherence practices developed by the Institute, participants demonstrated intuitive precognition of the images randomly selected for them to view. And whilst both the heart and brain played a role in this intuition, the heart knew before the brain.
But how do we get the subconscious fear to quiet down so we can hear our more subtle intuitive intelligence emanating from our electromagnetic heart?
My answer is always the same because it is exactly what I have used to become what I am today.
The answer is not sexy but it is the way: Practice.
The more we use our intuition the more we know our intuition. We have to build up the intuition muscle in exactly the same way we would if we wanted a six-pack. I do not regret the time and effort put in to attuning to my intuitive intelligence. My life is one of great personal and professional success.
Living from intuition comes with a deep sense of calm and certainty. That’s what intuition feels like. It is not our intuition we do not trust. It is ourselves. Opening to our intuition deepens us into intimacy with ourselves. It draws the subconscious fear in to the light of day. It leads us to our fearlessness.
And that is the beginning of true success.
Author: Ricci-Jane Adams
Image: Author’s Own
Editor: Travis May