The 5 “Buddhist” Stages of Grief.

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The 5 Buddhist Stages of Dealing with Loss:

1. Make fun of yourself. Self-deprecating humor is vital to healing.
2. Realize nothing’s funny or joyful anymore at all, and stare at the mirror for long periods of time, seeing nothing.
3. Get lost on Instagram staring at happy people doing pretty good yoga, though her hip’s raised a bit too much.
4. Go to cafes (so you don’t stay home and stare at the mirror or, say, stay home and eat ice cream and feel sorry for yourself in bed alone while scrolling through Instagram).
5. Stay home and eat ice cream in bed alone, and feel sorry yourself. Notice your self-pity, and be okay with that. Turn your self-pity into maitri—self-compassion.
Eat more ice cream.


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Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


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